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My theory is that all men exaggerate, so most women have no idea what size penis they are having sex with.
Q. may seem like an odd post. My girlfriend keeps going on and on about how massive my penis is. but its not its average. its 6" long and 5.4" girth. She says it all the time and if she holds it in two hands she laughs and says god its massive. ...
A. 6 December 2009: Until I had been married more than ten years (the last one) and was about 43 years old, I had never bothered to measure nor even thought about equipment size. It was my wife that said she wanted to measure and she did. She seemed happy and that was ... (read in full...)
Help with my erections....
Q. Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged into the one post Question 1: what can my girlfriend do to help me get an erection? we usually straddle(shes on top of me like sex position) and we makeout and i start caressin...
A. 6 December 2009: In my entire adult sex life (about 46 years) I do not think I had sex with the TV on more than two or three times. Turn it off. Kegel exercises to strengthen the pubic floor muscles are akin to doing curl ups with barbells to build up your biceps. ... (read in full...)
How can I please my g/friend
Q. OK, so here is the situation. me and my girlfriend are now getting a sexualy intimate. I have lately been fingering her. It seems like she enjoys it very much. But getting her to orgasm seems difficult. She will not take off her pants. so i undo her ...
A. 6 December 2009: It is very true, as "Ask oldersister" advises, that bringing a young woman to orgasm by fingering alone is next to impossible. And even if a young man knows all about providing a skillful G-spot massage, which is very unlikely, it would not be ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to spice up a stale sex life?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a bit of a stale sex life at present, we're going to try experimenting this weekend but could do with some ideas as what to do? Anything interesting you've tried? anything fun? We're pretty open, but have limited access to ...
A. 6 December 2009: The fact is that there is some limitation to what human sexual activity can include. There are extremes, such as anal, rimming and more with which some people can resort if they wish. Each to their own desires or fetishes if of legal age. The basics ... (read in full...)
I want to seduce my 16 yo son's friend
Q. I am a 45 year old with 2 kids a 16 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. My son has a friend who is always at our house. He's very cute. Whenever my son isn't around we flirt with each other. Yesterday I bent down to put a pan in the cabinet and my ...
A. 6 December 2009: Please carefully read my copy "rhythmandblues." I clearly stated that any sexual activity between these individuals should be totally consensual and LEGAL if it ever should occur. I just do not condemn love or infatuation between legal adults of any ... (read in full...)
When she is out of sight she is always on my mind
Q. Hi, I have a problem whenever I don't see my GF for a few days I get the feeling she is cheating. I have told her I don't trust her and she was very hurt by it (I said this in anger) but still I told her I will stay on my toes! she has assured me ...
A. 6 December 2009: Please forgive me for saying this, because I mean helpfulness and no harm, but you are being immature and totally stupid.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is put off by my orgasm
Q. Some time ago my girlfriend (of a couple years) and I were making out on the couch. For the first time she put her hands down my pants and started giving me a hand job. I must say that it felt really good. In fact, perhaps too good because I ...
A. 6 December 2009: There is nothing I can say to discourage you from wanting hand jobs from your girlfriend, nor would I want to. But you can't make her like doing it and both of you are still very young. This is simply a matter of maturity, which she lacks. So do ... (read in full...)
I want to seduce my 16 yo son's friend
Q. I am a 45 year old with 2 kids a 16 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. My son has a friend who is always at our house. He's very cute. Whenever my son isn't around we flirt with each other. Yesterday I bent down to put a pan in the cabinet and my ...
A. 6 December 2009: Fake or not, this kind of thing happens and it's an interesting topic. My opinion is that "lust is lust" and it's one hell of a lot of fun with legal-age, willing participants. Why be so obsessive about some years of age difference? ... (read in full...)
I want to seduce my 16 yo son's friend
Q. I am a 45 year old with 2 kids a 16 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. My son has a friend who is always at our house. He's very cute. Whenever my son isn't around we flirt with each other. Yesterday I bent down to put a pan in the cabinet and my ...
A. 6 December 2009: Not certain that this is a bona fide posting, but considering the possibility I'll contribute a likely alternate opinion on the matter.
Here is where some of my favorite companion advisors and others will differ with me, and my rating may plum... (read in full...)
How do I keep my teeth from hurting him?
Q. how to keep your teeth from hurting the guy during a blojob ? i find it hard and tricky to be done that i end up no really sucking that much .. ideas ?...
A. 6 December 2009: Well again, I don't exactly know how the girls do it, but "satindesire" seems to describe it well. So many girls have done it for me without a prob, many for their first time (they said), so it can be done. If I feel teeth when a lady does this, I ... (read in full...)
Is there an easier way to do this?
Q. I am married but not happily and i have found comfort in a long time good friend. We ahve been texting and tlking on the phone for about 3 months now. He tells me that he left his girlfriend and is liveing with his mom. We text all day until about 8 ...
A. 5 December 2009: If you are truly so unhappy in your marriage, and no children are involved, then conclude it with divorce or separation before you mess around. But the reason that she ended up texting you is obviously that he is still somehow with her, at least on ... (read in full...)
Men's Opinion Wanted! Advice on how to blow his mind
Q. My boyfriend is coming back after being gone almost a month. I'd like to suprise him by doing something that will totally blow his mind! I'm in desperate need of a mans opinion! What is it you've always wanted your girl to do for you? I need sexy, ...
A. 5 December 2009: Being a bit surprised that no one else has chimed in on this question, I'll offer one especially mind-blowing activity that most guys would love. One way or another, several previous girlfriends and two ex-wives used to pounce on me with sudden ... (read in full...)
He spends more time with his male friends than he does with me!
Q. Is it normal for your boyfriend to hang out with his friends 3 times a week after work without you? I know guys need time out with the boys alone sometimes but is 3 times a week to much? He only see's me twice a week on his days off. Thanks for any ...
A. 5 December 2009: I think that every guy is somewhat different in this regard. For instance, I've always been much more a best friend to my woman than to guys, but that's just me. ... (read in full...)
My real life version of "Bend It Like Beckham!"
Q. Okay, any of you guys watched bend it like beckham? well my situations sort of like that (apart from the football) im an indian girl and i do what i want, only rule is dont fall for anyone who isnt indian! well i have broken this rule, i have ...
A. 5 December 2009: I'm not sure how it is in Great Britain, but in the U.S.A, I think that racial differences have become dramatically more tolerated. My main thought is that it is more often the minority people in America, whether Indian, Mexican, Jewish, Asian, ... (read in full...)
We broke up when he wouldn't commit. Now he's back, what do I do?
Q. I need advice how to handle a situation. I dated a man for 2 1/2 years, he is smart, kind, loyal successful. We are both in our mid forties. I was the first women he ever fell for. He was used to being alone and took things very slow. As the thir...
A. 5 December 2009: Allow a first casual get-together with you alone and let him take the lead. Stop pushing for a commitment for at least awhile. That's what drove him away. ... (read in full...)
Men's Opinion Wanted! Advice on how to blow his mind
Q. My boyfriend is coming back after being gone almost a month. I'd like to suprise him by doing something that will totally blow his mind! I'm in desperate need of a mans opinion! What is it you've always wanted your girl to do for you? I need sexy, ...
A. 5 December 2009: Be wearing a sexy nightgown, lingerie or other outfit.... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to spice up a stale sex life?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a bit of a stale sex life at present, we're going to try experimenting this weekend but could do with some ideas as what to do? Anything interesting you've tried? anything fun? We're pretty open, but have limited access to ...
A. 5 December 2009: Not knowing what you have been doing rather leaves open a world of possibilities. There is a variety of positions, and of course, you could introduce some mutual oral stimulation if you haven't already. There are all kinds of foreplay techniques as ... (read in full...)
What should I do about not having sex?
Q. I've been going out with a girl about a year. I love her. alot. We started having sex after 8 months, it was the first time for both of us. But we havent had sex in the last two months, and while at first I was ok with this, I think subconsciously ...
A. 5 December 2009: Why did it stop?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to have sex with other girls!
Q. Recently my boyfriend told me that he wants to experience having sex with other girls..quick info about us we've been dating for about 6 years now I was 15 he was 16 now (20 and 21) and we were each others first. I knew it would happen but didn't ...
A. 4 December 2009: This sounds like the age-old problem that befalls many relationships, even in marriages. Unfortunately men, and many women as well, are not really inclined to be monogamous. In order to overcome the temptations for the sake of a relationship and the ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he initiate sex with me, after the many times I have slept over at his house?
Q. Why wouldn't a guy have sex with his girlfriend? I've slept over at my boyfriends house countless of times, but he has never tried anything. We sleep together in his bed, spooning or cuddling, and just kiss or even make out but after that it's ...
A. 4 December 2009: Well I'm baffled. If it were me, you would have been nailed before now, but maybe he is just frightened by sex or doubtful of his abilities. Maybe both. My suggestion would be to take ahold of his wiener and whack him off sometime, or suck him off. ... (read in full...)
Angry about the double standards of sex
Q. Ok, I don't want to be polemic here, but I'm really shocked and angry with the double standard. You see, my boyfriend suffers with retroactive jealousy, even though I wasn't a slut (I was a virgin when we met, granted, I was just 17 so it was normal ...
A. 4 December 2009: Your boyfriend is immature and silly.... (read in full...)
He spends 2-3 night a week with his friends instead of me. Is that normal?
Q. Hi I have a question: is it normal for your guy to spend 2 or 3 times a week with his friends after work and not with you? My guy see's me 2 times a week on his days off and sometimes 3 times a week if he has time during a break at one of his jobs. ...
A. 4 December 2009: All I can say is that his current behavior may portend his future behavior as a husband. Personally, I've always been the type of guy who would spend most all my time with my woman, but that's me.... (read in full...)
Some insight on rough sex during pregnancy please
Q. Hi and thanks all that reply back to me :) Well I was just wondering what everyones opinion on rough sex is... I'm currently three months pregnant and very time I have sex with my boyfriend I'm sore afterward. Today one of the lips of my vagina i...
A. 4 December 2009: At three or four months it is probably about time to start being more temperate, based on personal experience as a father.... (read in full...)
Is 2 years too big an age difference?
Q. Im 17 and im in love with a girl shes 15, is 2 years a huge age gap for us if we date? ...
A. 4 December 2009: Of course not, even 20 years is not too big an age gap. Of course, I may be a bit opinionated at my age. LOL But really, two years is nothing as long as both are of legal age.... (read in full...)
What can I use as a lube when masturbating?
Q. I'm 16 I have been trying to masturbate but for some reason i keep getting dry, and when i get in the mood to masturbate but when i actually do it then i start to go dry i dont know why. I can't buy lube because I don't want my mom to find out and ...
A. 4 December 2009: Your own saliva is one suggestion. Just do NOT use anything oil based.... (read in full...)
She fulfills my fantasies but wont be my girl!
Q. We were together for 4 years. I see her frequently. It seems like we're dating again exclusively, but she "doesn't want a boyfriend right now." So, she started talking dirty to me one night, and we got into it. It was weird at first, so I stopped. ...
A. 4 December 2009: You simply have to be her best lover and best friend and let it happen naturally.... (read in full...)
What do you all think of 'one night' stands?
Q. I'm sort of on the fence about one night stands and would really like other peoples opinions on them, both men and women.. I've had about 5 in total now and they've all been mainly when i'm drunk. Each time we have been careful and used protect...
A. 3 December 2009: Well if you are enjoying all the sex and doing it safely, do as you wish. My list exceeds 100 women in my lifetime and I regret none of it, but the more enduring affairs were always the best.... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend still a virgin?
Q. Is my girlfriend still a virgin? my girlfriend and I (she is 18, i am 20) are wondering if she is still considered a virgin if her ex boyfriend just got the head of his penis inside her. The way she explains it is he tried to penetrate her but she ...
A. 3 December 2009: It is really unimportant, isn't it? What is past is history which cannot be altered. Think of the future.... (read in full...)
We are going to wait for sex, but maybe I should give him a little taste test!
Q. Ok... So I have many questions about me and my 19 year old bf. this one us goin to be a alittle different. We have been togegter thru alot and and I mean alot, well I think that I want to tell him to wait to have sex until we are ready again, I ...
A. 3 December 2009: If you are not experienced giving oral, and never provided it for him, then I think that you should wait. If anything, consider hand jobs to provide his relief. You may be legally underage and should consider that he is just your current boyfriend, ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my boyfriend really loves me?
Q. hi, i am in serious dilemma weather my boyfriend does really love me or not ..i met with him last year through chat room and slowly as days passes on, we became a very good freinds first ...we use to share everything and he use to call me every da...
A. 3 December 2009: You can test the value of this man by becoming the pursued rather than the pursuer. In other words, back off and let him prove himself. He may not be the one.... (read in full...)
I have a very silly question .......
Q. This is probably a really silly question, but I guess if I'm going to ask anyone a stupid sex related question I would really rather ask the people on this site than anyone else! Guys, girls, how exactly can you tell if a girl is loose? It's not...
A. 3 December 2009: It would be very unlikely that any young woman in her 20s really has such a "loose" vagina that could be noticeable to a normal sized man. However, women of more mature or senior age can definitely become somewhat loose, perhaps because of multiple ... (read in full...)
Is masturbating a bad thing?
Q. is masterbating a bad thing? im a 15 year old guy and i dont know if its a health issue if i masterbate a lot?...
A. 3 December 2009: Well guys are plumbed a little differently "HonningKanin." : ) And even we are individual, but I think it would be a challenge to generate more than about two cum squirts a day for most men, based on my experience. Yet, it's been quite a long time ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before we have sex?
Q. Hello, I am 18 years old and I am a virgin I have a boyfriend who is 24 years old and we have only been going out for a while I do want to end up having sex with him but I am kind of scared but also at the same time I don't know how long we...
A. 3 December 2009: Four to six months.... (read in full...)
How do I keep my teeth from hurting him?
Q. how to keep your teeth from hurting the guy during a blojob ? i find it hard and tricky to be done that i end up no really sucking that much .. ideas ?...
A. 3 December 2009: Well, as a man I do not give blow jobs, but have received an untold number. Only on a few occasions has a woman teethed me enough to cause any discomfort or injury. Having taught a number of girls and older women as well, I can only say that they ... (read in full...)
She fulfills my fantasies but wont be my girl!
Q. We were together for 4 years. I see her frequently. It seems like we're dating again exclusively, but she "doesn't want a boyfriend right now." So, she started talking dirty to me one night, and we got into it. It was weird at first, so I stopped. ...
A. 3 December 2009: The deal is that she does not want to commit.... (read in full...)
Why could I barely walk after my fourth orgasm yesterday?
Q. Well I had at least 4 orgasms yesterday and the last one seemed so intense that I could barely walk when I got up? Why and how is this possible? Does anyone know what might have caused this?...
A. 3 December 2009: A truly great orgasm simply takes over much of your body. Your muscles are momentarily weakened by the intensity of a great release of tension. Do not be concerned about it. It is normal, and you are a fortunate young lady indeed. This occurs for ... (read in full...)
Is masturbating a bad thing?
Q. is masterbating a bad thing? im a 15 year old guy and i dont know if its a health issue if i masterbate a lot?...
A. 3 December 2009: Not at all a bad thing, even babies have been noted with the tendency. While it is a perfectly natural way to relieve tension, one should avoid obsession. As "HonningKanin" suggested, too much of one thing can be bad. If practiced to extreme, it may ... (read in full...)
Am I not satisfying him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but if I run to the store or take a shower he goes and plays with himself. He works 3rd shift and gets home, talks to me for a few minutes and goes to bed. He goes and plays with himself then too. He pretty ...
A. 2 December 2009: The availability of pornography is unlimited now, duh, and it can have a tremendous influence on anyone, male or female, who indulges. It can fill a single person's lonely times, but does little good to a relationship. Some degree of masturbation is ... (read in full...)
I am new to the sex scene and worried I am not good at it!
Q. i'd likfe to know what i'm doing wrong , when i give my boyfriend oral he would star hard and after like a minute he would start getting .. flacid ,he wont be orgasming or finishing just flacid . i am new at it so i know i'm not good but can i be ...
A. 2 December 2009: The following was something I wrote previously (edited) but still applies. Perhaps it will help and may give you some confidence, but realize that some guys may not respond well to fellatio (blow jobs).
First of all, a good session of fellatio does... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my sister's ex!
Q. I have been struggling with the right thing to do for years. Four years ago I met a wonderful man, whom I am still with.(not married but we do have a daughter) The problem is I have been in love with someone else all this time. I was honest with him ...
A. 2 December 2009: Yeah, I don't understand if this is a statement or a question, but you have only one short life here on earth and it should be with someone you really love if at all possible. But beware that if your dream arrangements can be made, it may not be so ... (read in full...)
I don't believe pretty women with breasts make good wives!
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, There's a song that goes "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife.." Homely women aren't as sought after and they're not as likely to cheat on a husband or boyfriend. It so...
A. 2 December 2009: You simply cannot generalize that way. Many beautiful women are wonderful, faithful wives. My former wife was super hot and faithful to me for 20 years, and the final demise was over financial issues, not the fact that she attracted every natural ... (read in full...)
What do you all think of 'one night' stands?
Q. I'm sort of on the fence about one night stands and would really like other peoples opinions on them, both men and women.. I've had about 5 in total now and they've all been mainly when i'm drunk. Each time we have been careful and used protect...
A. 24 November 2009: I'll add the following: One of my one night stands back about 1977 turned into a 20-year-marriage. Perhaps it depends on the nature of the man, and maybe my approach to dating was and remains somewhat different.
In other words, I very rarely cons... (read in full...)
What do you all think of 'one night' stands?
Q. I'm sort of on the fence about one night stands and would really like other peoples opinions on them, both men and women.. I've had about 5 in total now and they've all been mainly when i'm drunk. Each time we have been careful and used protect...
A. 24 November 2009: Well, many of us have had a share of one night stands, but it's not going to get you anywhere, such as into a good relationship. It is more likely to get you into a bad reputation, and I at least hope that you of legal age as well as properly using ... (read in full...)
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