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*lyse_christine
writes:Ive done alot of cyber sex in my day (not too proud either) and lately a guy that i have been talking to for several months now is talking pretty seriously with me as in a relationship...we've never cybered but we do talk openly about sexual lives...anyways, he asked me the strangest question last week...he wants me to take a picture of me giving another guy a blow job for him...he's very adamant about it too...i told him i didn't want to because in my opinion it was cheating, but he doesn't see it as that...anyways, i dont really have someone that would even let me do that with them, let alone take a pic of it for another guy to "enjoy" later...but yeah...i don't know what to say or do...i care for this guy and i know that it would make him really happy if i did it for him...what do y'all think?
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reader, alyse_christine +, writes (23 November 2009):
alyse_christine is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all...i have spent hours going over the pros and cons and this one and i told him today that i wasn't going to do it...that i'm not that type of girl that would just go and do something like that...i care about him, but as i told him, i dont love him...at least i dont know if i do yet and until that question is answered this if strictly a casual thing...i told him that if that's the type of girl that he wants then he will have to find that somewhere else because that girl just isnt me...he seemed to understand and said it was okay...thanks for advice
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reader, polarkite +, writes (23 November 2009):
 it's time to make a boundary...
ignore his request.
if he asks again...
say no, don't explain why. if he asks why: just say: i'm not into it.
if he continues to ask for it, cut him off, since he obviously doesn't respect the boundary you are making.
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reader, empop +, writes (23 November 2009):
I would suggest not doing it.
If he wants sexy pictures of you, you could wear a skimpy outfit, or masturbate or something (and blur or cut out your face if you were nervous about anyone else seeing it.)
But, it's sort of hard to bur out your face on a blow job, and it would involve you giving a blow job to someone you probably didn't like enough to do that to.
If he really insists on you giving a blow job, that's a bad sign and he may not be the person that you think he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): There is something missing she mentioned. They have sex talk. Hence he is far away and wants to see her performing what she is sexting about. Me and my wife do this all the time. We send each other pics over the cell and keep it private but we emjoy it and we are not cheating.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (23 November 2009):
 That is too weird to even think about doing. Say nay.
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reader, alyse_christine +, writes (23 November 2009):
alyse_christine is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay so i found out y he wants it...he was in iraq and has lost the certain spark...he had his ex do those pics for him and now they're broken up and he wants pics of me doing that for him so that he can remember that feeling...i'm not really explaining it right but i understand where y'all r all coming from...i care about him...but i'm not in a committed relationship with him either just yet anyways...its really confusing...just know that i'm thinking about all that ur saying
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reader, ThaxTruth211 +, writes (23 November 2009):
 It sounds to me as if your both looking for two different things. You seem to be looking for and exclusive relationship with him. While he seems to be wanting to just deprive sexual satisfaction of this situation.
If his intents were to have a serious relationship with you, dont you think it would make more since to wait till you two are together and you could just give him a "blow-job"?
One thing wrong with this is if he is just using you for sexual gradification, your picture could circulate around causing you what im guessing is unwanted stardom.
Another is if he cared for you as you care for him put yourself in his shoes. Would you want him to send you a picture of him performing sexual acts on another female? I would doubt it honestly. So there for he does not feel the same. Maybe sharing pictures of each other naked, masturbating, or using sex toys would be more appropriate of a sexual stimulation in a LDR (long distance relationship). Which most cyber relationships tend to be LDR. But i would still not advise this unless you are CERTAIN the other person feels the same and wont exploit you. As i said before though, your relationship with this man imparticular seems to have to different tendencies on each part.
-Tha Truth-
p.s. You can message me for more advice if you'd like.
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reader, Geobabe  +, writes (23 November 2009):
Its up to you, i mean you say that you dont want too because your in a realationship. Its not cheating, its just abit of fun and if you do just be carful not to get your face in the piture i gess. Ive done alot of that aswell and at the end of the day its just what you feel ok about that counts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): If you feel that it is cheating and wrong, then I would recommend not doing it as long as you are uncomfortable with the idea. If you wanted to make him happy and make it simple for you - you could photo-shop your face on a suitably appropriate picture that you send to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): DONT DO IT....
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