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writes: my bf and I live together but have just recently broken up. He asks me for hand-jobs, why? We are broken up but he asks me for hand jobs and also asked me if I still want something from him. I said I don't want anything sexual from him because we are not together. If we are not together anymore, why is he asking these things???????
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (21 November 2009):
 This story has more twists than a pretzel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone, thank you for the responses! I appreciate it. I really don't believe he is using me. For the fact that we are only taking a break from our relationship at the moment. We were very clear on that. I am positively sure he is not seeing other women and I doubt he will. One thing I don't understand though, is: Why is he good to me when we are only friends but other times when we were in a relationship he said I complained too much, when I would mention something bothering me? And why does he always say sorry when he hurts me by doing things that bother me...but then he does those things again?? I made the mistake of giving him a B.J. =( I love him and he's the only guy that I have given B.J.'s to and I do enjoy it. But I think at the moment I got too caught up in the moment and made that mistake. How can I stop myself from making anymore mistakes having to do with sexual favors??? One thing for sure is that I will not be giving myself to him, I only did him the favor to please him. Could it also be that I'm afraid he will be getting the pleasure from other women if I don't?? One thing i know for sure is that I cannot torture myself to have sex with other men, because I know This man is the only one I love, and It really wouldn't make me happy if I threw myself out there like that. How can I get myself to avoid sex and not be so cruel about it to him? I just don't want to hurt his feelings. Even if he hurts mine all the time, I'm just not the type of person to hurt others. But at the moment I do find myself in a very awkward position and I just really want to move on with my life, but it hurts me too much. And I'm lost at the moment. Do I just wait to see where this goes?
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (20 November 2009):
Because men are dogs like that. He's horny and you are there. Tell him to get lost.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 November 2009):
He's trying to use you. Don't let him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): he is trying it on, simple as that. I'd do the same thing and why not if your willing.
If you do though you will regret it, just thought id mention that
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (20 November 2009):
Why? Because he still thinks that he can have the fun without commitment, as long as you are willing to provide it.
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reader, duce00 +, writes (20 November 2009):
 He is asking you for sexual gratification because he is a highly developed and intellectually mature man.
DUUUUUHHHHHHH!!!!!
Hand him a bottle of KY and send him on his way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): Do you guys still live together? If so then there still remains that attachment. You guys have split up but live under the same roof so nothing feels like it has changed for him perhaps?
You need to clearly state the boundary lines for him here so he knows. For him, he could think that you may have stopped having sex with him but hand jobs are okay.. Maybe he doesn't realise that they clearly are not.
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