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My first time giving my boyfriend a handjob. How do I know if I did it right?
Q. I just gave my boyfriend a hand job for the first time last nigh. It was also the first time I have ever given one. I was just wondering how I could tell if he enjoyed it or not?...
A. 13 December 2009: If he finished, he enjoyed it.... (read in full...)
We have to start standing up for us Guys!
Q. Why is it that every one thinks that guys only want sex and if you say anything your going to make the woman mad,what about how i feel?i would like to see women thinking about us guys the way we realy think about them.im a guy who loves the one im ...
A. 13 December 2009: Please do not take my comment about spelling and writing personally, "mingohere," but I can understand that you would. Certainly half of the postings and responses on this Web site and elsewhere are just as misspelled or grammatically incorrect. ... (read in full...)
My pregnant partner doesn't want sex but my libido is high!
Q. hi there, so my delema is this, i met this beautiful girl and she was pregnant, the father was waaay out of the picture, and i could not help but fall for this girl. she had a beutiful baby boy, whom is my world, and see him as my own, he is now 5 ...
A. 13 December 2009: In my opinion, CellarDoor89 said it very well. If she is worth it for the long term, you simply may have to wait for the better times.... (read in full...)
I don't know how soon after starting to date we can have sex!
Q. Hello, guys! I need your help. Several questions: 1)after how long, 3 months or longer they have dated gf nd bf often have sex? 2)knowing little about sex, what should i pay attin to for the first time having sex? 3) how many sex positions nd which ...
A. 13 December 2009: We in the Western World would unlikely be familiar with any norms in China, but the right time for having sex, wherever, is up to the individuals involved. It is whenever two lovers who care about each other also want to sexually please each other.... (read in full...)
I've lost that loving feeling
Q. Dear Cupid, My husband and I have been married now for close to 17 years. We have three children. For the past 5 years my husband and I have been through a lot of financial stress. During that time he used a lot of profane language,(even a...
A. 12 December 2009: I'm not real good about relationship issues, but this seems toxic due to his verbal abuse, which could escalate. The children, however, are of primary concern - yet you must also remain safe and happy. ... (read in full...)
Is he right, are people at it like rabbits?
Q. I would really like to know how other people percieve sex. I was having a "discussion" about attitudes to sex with a male friend of mine, and well, lets say it got quite heated - he totally disagreed with what I think, and basically told m...
A. 12 December 2009: Well I'm a member of an older generation, but assure you that plenty of romping was going on in the 1960s, 70s and since. Perhaps a lot more so these days, but as a man in my 60s, I generally only hear about it. lol
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I am soooooo sexually frustrated!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. He's 20 and I am almost 19. In the beginning of our relationship, we got physical quickly and I loved it. After a couple months it died down, due on his part, and nothing ever happened except ...
A. 11 December 2009: Well Aliz, only you can decide what is best for you. But your situation will basically continue the same, which is being used as his oral sex provider while he will rarely be willing to take care of your desires. Actually, I once had such a setup ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how I can lose weight?
Q. I really want to lose weight! In high school I was in such great shape, but now it's been 3 years since I've been out and I gained quite a bit of weight. So my question is are there any ideas you all could give me on how to lose weight? Thanks ...
A. 11 December 2009: My suggestion is the easiest way to start. These multi-step suggestions are great, but usually overwhelm someone just getting started.... (read in full...)
He doesn't care for sex...could it be the porn?
Q. I am 21 and so is my fiance'. We have been together on and off for the past 3 years. In the beginning we were very intimate with each other. Now we have a 3 month old little girl and I have a 6 year old son from a previous relationship. I know I was ...
A. 11 December 2009: Most unfortunately, the best advice here is probably to end this relationship. Make certain that he is obligated to pay child support, then eventually find a man who can accept and love the step-children, and also love you for who you are. None of ... (read in full...)
Now that we are FWB, he is no longer in love with me. What can I do?
Q. Hi i jus need advice/opinions plz no judgement. I have a fwb and weve known eachother for awhile (graduated from high school together) and he told me that he used to think he was in love with me in high school. so now that were fwb he said he loves ...
A. 11 December 2009: Well I'm not sure where the line between opinion and judgement would be drawn. I'll simply turn it into a question. What benefit, other than gratuitous sex, do you enjoy from a fwb relationship with an unemployed dude who has no love for you, but ... (read in full...)
How can I lower my sex drive?
Q. I am a 30 year old woman who is involved with a man who is 65. He suffers from ED and does take cialis for this. The problem is my sex drive is still just so high and I seem to just never get enough of him when we are intimate. I have even turned ...
A. 11 December 2009: Agreed. But neither a vagina or a woman is necessary for a male orgasm as well. It's a lot better, though. Back in the 1970s, a casual friend once suggested that in the future, most everyone will be gay. I doubt that, but if true, I'm glad that I ... (read in full...)
I bought a test kit but its too soon to see if I am up the duff
Q. i had sex with no condom 4 days after the last day of my period, he didn't cum but i still know there is a risk of havin a kid. what r my chances of bein up the duff do u think? got a abot 2 - 3 weeks til my period comes to worry, already got a test ...
A. 11 December 2009: Certainly possible, but within several days following menstruation, it is not quite as probable. The approximate mid-point between menstruation periods, which is called ovulation, runs the highest risk (or opportunity) for pregnancy. Do they teach ... (read in full...)
He asked me to masturbate in front of him but I feel so guilty doing it!
Q. My boyfriend asked me to masturbate in front of him, but I've never masturbated before. I started to rub myself but I had to stop as I was overcome with guilt. He wants me to try again but I'm worried that I will start to feel guilty again. He says ...
A. 11 December 2009: Do not do anything that your are not comfortable doing, and if he keeps pushing it, drop him. However, you should not consider masturbation in your privacy to be unnatural or wrong. It is an excellent and the safest way to explore your sexuality. ... (read in full...)
Planning on losing my virginity tomorrow; can we have sex twice in the same day? Will it be better second time round?
Q. Hey all, I have a girlfriend of 16 months and 10 days. We are both virgins and we decided to do it tomorrow. I have been reading posts here and I know the first is not very good. But if we want to have sex again the same day ,is it possible? Wil...
A. 10 December 2009: First of all, it may not hurt her at all if you have any idea what you are doing. And secondly, if it does cause her some sting, assuming her hymen exists and will be broken, then she would probably not welcome a second session right away. Are you ... (read in full...)
We have to start standing up for us Guys!
Q. Why is it that every one thinks that guys only want sex and if you say anything your going to make the woman mad,what about how i feel?i would like to see women thinking about us guys the way we realy think about them.im a guy who loves the one im ...
A. 10 December 2009: My immediate response is: Where did you, and many other posters, go to school and supposedly learn to write, spell and punctuate? That school needs to be shut down! But I think that I understand your basic premise.
My thought: While possibly abou... (read in full...)
I hardly ever get to speak to my boyfriend!
Q. okay so long story short lateley me and my bf havent been talking much becuase his got queit abit on his plate (college work, finding a job). It's been more than a week now and im finding it extremly hard not speaking to him, he used to come on msn ...
A. 10 December 2009: Relax, back off and if he gets in touch with you, then he is still interested. Otherwise, he may not be that into you, but you will be fine because there a many other men available. Best wishes from Texas.... (read in full...)
In love with an engaged woman
Q. Hello I recently met up with an old friend that I hadn't seen for many years. We met on Facebook and decided to catch up. She came an dvisited me for a couple of days as I now live in a different city. We hit it off..as friends..and rea...
A. 10 December 2009: It sounds like the woman does want your friendship, but that she is devoted to marry her fiance. It would be good for you to maintain the friendship, but let go of your amorous ambitions, at least for now. Step away from the situation and see what ... (read in full...)
Why is he always questioning me about other men?
Q. here goes, i have known this guy(KS)for three years, but we became close friends this past year. at first he would call me or text me all the time, seems he was intrested in me. making moves and asking questions about the guy am dating and so on. my ...
A. 10 December 2009: It's called jealousy, immaturity and insecurity. Move on. ... (read in full...)
Weak erections
Q. Why cant the porn I watch on the internet get me hard like before? When my girlfriend said she was gunna give me handjobs and blowjobs I just stopped getting really hard when I watch porn. Why is this? and will eating bananas and fish help my ...
A. 10 December 2009: Based on the original posting, I still suggest that the reason FilopinoPhenom "stopped getting really hard when" watching porn is likely a case of over exposure. There is so much of it, and so much that is distasteful rather than erotic, that one ... (read in full...)
Some advice needed for losing my virginity
Q. Ok, I'm looking for some advice for first-time sex. I'm 25 and engaged, and I'm a virgin, and plan to be until my wedding night. Same for my finace. Now, we both know that sex will hurt me at first, though I'm not overly worried because I trust hi...
A. 10 December 2009: In my opinion, you are overly apprehensive about this idea of pain. At your age, you may not feel any pain at all, or very little.... (read in full...)
How can I lower my sex drive?
Q. I am a 30 year old woman who is involved with a man who is 65. He suffers from ED and does take cialis for this. The problem is my sex drive is still just so high and I seem to just never get enough of him when we are intimate. I have even turned ...
A. 10 December 2009: Well now, I must strongly beg to differ with you "satindesire" as a friend. A penis can have much more than "little or nothing" to do with a woman's orgasms. You can be sure that it is a wonderful asset for said purposes, but I agree that we should ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how I can lose weight?
Q. I really want to lose weight! In high school I was in such great shape, but now it's been 3 years since I've been out and I gained quite a bit of weight. So my question is are there any ideas you all could give me on how to lose weight? Thanks ...
A. 10 December 2009: Get out and try to walk real fast for (eventually) about a mile a day, or two miles every other day, but do not try to do that the first several days. Gradually work up to it by starting out walking a city block or two - whatever is comfortable at ... (read in full...)
Weak erections
Q. Why cant the porn I watch on the internet get me hard like before? When my girlfriend said she was gunna give me handjobs and blowjobs I just stopped getting really hard when I watch porn. Why is this? and will eating bananas and fish help my ...
A. 10 December 2009: Because reality is always much better than fantasy, but if you become addicted to endless streams of pornography rather than natural stimulation, you may also create problems having any kind of sexual relief. Get off the porn. ... (read in full...)
How can I lower my sex drive?
Q. I am a 30 year old woman who is involved with a man who is 65. He suffers from ED and does take cialis for this. The problem is my sex drive is still just so high and I seem to just never get enough of him when we are intimate. I have even turned ...
A. 10 December 2009: Well I don't know how to temper the sex drive of a 30-year-old woman, and lol, it never would have occurred to me to try! But as a 62-year-old man (also with ED caused by meds) who has dated some much younger ladies, I know that one solution is to ... (read in full...)
Crazy in love...
Q. I need some advice, I'm 21 years old and i was involved with an older man 32 now, for two years. I was undeniably in love with him, totally and completely. To me he was perfect and my everything, my best friend and lover, we were both in love crazy ...
A. 10 December 2009: Never, ever! allow a man to strike you and you do anything but get the hell away. You just need to set certain boundaries in life. There are men who would never do such a thing. He's a lunatic and now I worry about your sister. But in my opinion, ... (read in full...)
After 24 years of marriage he now tells me he wished he'd had sex with more women! This is making me very insecure
Q. After nearly 24 years of marriage my husband, aged 51, announced to me that 'the biggest regret of his life was that he hadn't had sex with more women'. I also found out at the same time that he had lied to me about being a virgin when we met and ...
A. 9 December 2009: Every responder seems to have offered excellent insight on this issue, much of which may be similar to my offered summation. It is simple, or maybe not. Your husband's announced "regret" is nothing new, and common at his age.
Whether a man has enjo... (read in full...)
What are more sure signs a guy likes you?
Q. What are the signs a guy likes you? Since this can be slightly vague at times, what are more sure signs a guy likes you?...
A. 9 December 2009: In my opinion, if he asks you out - for tea or coffee, or to a dinner, movie or most anything else, then he likes you. That's the usual beginning, don't you think?... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a "drunk dick"?
Q. I recently had sex with this guy and he was drunk... I did things with him sexually before and he could always "finish" even when I gave him a handjob ... but he couldnt when we had sex and it brought down my ego... he said it was beacuse he was ...
A. 8 December 2009: Absolutely real. "Drunk dick," I like that. lol... (read in full...)
I am soooooo sexually frustrated!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. He's 20 and I am almost 19. In the beginning of our relationship, we got physical quickly and I loved it. After a couple months it died down, due on his part, and nothing ever happened except ...
A. 8 December 2009: This sounds like a very one-sided relationship, and you are getting the short end of it. The anonymous female responder articulated well, and "Illithid" rightfully noted that, "You can't change a person if he doesn't want to change." That is a truth ... (read in full...)
My labia seems to be getting bigger... any ideas why?
Q. I have been having sex for 2 years now... my vagina isn't bigger at all in the inside, but the "labia" or "lips" as some people call it seem to be getting bigger... is it because of the way my body is changing or is it really because of sex?? ...
A. 8 December 2009: No, not at all likely because of sex. And yes, it it more likely because of your body continuing to mature as you grow (should I say it?) older. All kinds of physical aspects will gradually change through the years ahead, and the older you become, ... (read in full...)
She assumed my help was a barter for sex and I'm a bit insulted. Should I explain or let it go?
Q. I am a strong swimmer. The other day our sports club went snorkelling at a nearby reef. One of the new club members, a girl, was struggling and I stuck around to help her get the hang of snorkelling and to make sure she didn't end up in danger. She ...
A. 8 December 2009: While her assumption was apparently wrong and put you off, I think you should consider that it is also not too unusual these days for a woman to think a single man might be interested. In most cases, she would likely be correct. She left the door of ... (read in full...)
Is birth control really necessary?
Q. Is birth control really necessary??? I mean hell i dont want to be a babies daddy just yet but i have condoms and we have been together for more than 2 years. I feel like she is just avoiding having sex.. no we havent had sex yet either...
A. 8 December 2009: Well, if you do not want to be a baby's daddy, then yes, birth control pills or injections are the best insurance against undesired pregnancy. Even those are not 100 percent, but quite good. Condoms are less reliable.... (read in full...)
Sex... doggy style!
Q. Hi, my new bf wants to have sex doggy style and he keeps asking me. I haven't done it like that before (it just never appealed to me and my last bf preferred other positions) but my new bf seems to really want it. I told him i didnt like that pos...
A. 7 December 2009: How can you be so sure you don't like it if you've never tried it?... (read in full...)
Why would my husband suddenly stop wanting sex?
Q. What are the reasons ,when a highly sexual husband suddenly stops wanting sex, and when he tries it he is losing his erections? I mean one day to the next... With no signs for any change. Just suddenly ,like bang. And its over. He went limp at the ...
A. 7 December 2009: A lot of things can cause erectile dysfunction, especially in his likely age bracket. Certainly stress, worry, job problems, anger, heavy smoking or drinking and some medications. Even simply getting older might affect some men. You might consider ... (read in full...)
We are living together but she doesn't want sex
Q. Me and My Girlfriend have been dating for a little ova 2 months. Im 20 shes 18. Shes had a rough patch, and shes been used, cheated on, and used some more. Shes been living with me and my parents for about a month now (wed be on our own but I got ...
A. 7 December 2009: Well you can tell her that you're "not so happy with the lack of sex" but it sounds like she may be highly stressed, and telling her that may just exacerbate the problem. My suggestion is to give her some slack until you guys get through all your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's divorce isn't going through because she shreds the papers and mails them back.
Q. Hello all. I recently started dating a man who I have cared for deeply for a very long time. When my exboyfriend left me, he was really good to me and let me know that I was worth something, even if my ex didn't think so. We've been friends for...
A. 7 December 2009: Legally, I do not think that shredding the papers avoids a court action.... (read in full...)
Any tips for me to reach climax more often and in more ways?
Q. I am 30 yrs old and been having sex with my live in boyfriend for about 9 months. The sex, passion, foreplay, everything is amazing with this man. He knows my body and does everything right. However, I have, even in the past, always had to work ...
A. 7 December 2009: Well it's hard to explain. But I'll try, having known a few vaginal orgasmic women in my years. I call it the "Angle." Simply enough, the guy just has to thrust the vagina at a variety of angles, not just the straight in-and-out, cum and rollover.
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After a drunken night of hot tub sex, I find out he's got a girlfriend!
Q. Alright so I'm 17 and I went to my friends house last night to drink with him, his brother and his brothers girlfriend. We are all friends here. So the night progresses on and me and this guy , lets call him George, start to get closer. George and I ...
A. 7 December 2009: He already knows you can be "had" and that's that. Drunk or whatever, he's enjoyed your charms. Now you should do nothing. If he wants anything more you will find out. ... (read in full...)
How can I be less reliant on guys?
Q. I have currently met a new guy after a month after splitting with an old one.. however I feel already like were drifting apart. I felt the exact same with my ex as we rushed into it, without no good outcome. This time round I have waited over 2 mo...
A. 7 December 2009: Do not allow guys to make you feel dependent upon them. This is up to you. You are young and some guys will try to manipulate you if you are not strong and independent. At your age, do not consider a regular boyfriend to be an absolute necessity for ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is 15, I am three years older, we are considering sex
Q. I am 18, and my new girlfriend is 15. I have don't plan to have sex any time soon, but you never know. I am wondering about the legalities if I were to have sex now; is it still statutory rape because i am 18 and shes 15, if for what ever reason...
A. 7 December 2009: Totally illegal in America and you would be f*cking yourself up for life if caught and prosecuted. ... (read in full...)
My theory is that all men exaggerate, so most women have no idea what size penis they are having sex with.
Q. may seem like an odd post. My girlfriend keeps going on and on about how massive my penis is. but its not its average. its 6" long and 5.4" girth. She says it all the time and if she holds it in two hands she laughs and says god its massive. ...
A. 6 December 2009: Until I had been married more than ten years (the last one) and was about 43 years old, I had never bothered to measure nor even thought about equipment size. It was my wife that said she wanted to measure and she did. She seemed happy and that was ... (read in full...)
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