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writes:I have enjoyed reading the posts on this site. I am wondering in the dating world, do men or women have an easier time finding a mate? I am curious what men and women think on this topic? Personally, I have always found it hard to meet a man, I feel chemistry with and could fall in love with as there are limited choices. Do men feel the same way? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): Show me a woman complaining about having to "lower her standards" to find decent relationship material, and I'll show you a woman who is mistaken about where she ranks in the dating pool.
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reader, justincarin +, writes (23 November 2009):
I have always believed the challenge is on the man. Take a test; go to a known singles bar and see how many men will attempt to hit on you; refuse all. OK, so 5-10 men get turned down by you. Now, you pick out an attractive guy and go ask him if he wants a date. The results are already known, you first inquiry lands you a date. As for you second question that seems to be overlooked, as a single man in your age bracket, yes, I do feel there are limited choices to connect with that right person.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (23 November 2009):
 More or less, it still is different. The man has to ask, and it is the woman who then gives an answer. As long as this remains true, then dating will of course be different because it starts different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): I agree with Double M, women definately choose when a relationship starts.
However it is the Man that decides how far the relationship ultimately goes. Ofcourse a Woman can end it but its the guy who preposes isnt it.
As for the title question. I think both Men and Women want the same things out of a relationship but in different quantities
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): From my experience here on this page it seems to be evenly divided problem between the genders. We all struggle.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (23 November 2009):
 Perhaps it is an equal challenge overall, but I certainly think that women may have the upper hand most of the time. It always seems to be a case of the man coming forward to express his interest, which usually takes plenty courage, then all the woman needs to do is say yes or no.
Men often feel that women have no idea how painful their "no" can be, but women are also sometimes rejected when making a play for a man. In my opinion, it is a better policy for anyone who is available to give most any possible suitor a reasonable chance, providing some degree of attraction is present.
Ultimately, as a man, I feel that women have the overall advantage. Men have to summon up the courage to inquire, which is not always easy, and all that a woman needs to do is say, yes or no. Wish all my decisions were as simple.
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reader, empop +, writes (23 November 2009):
I think it depends on goals. I think that for people primarily interested in just sex, women have an easier time. However, I think that to find an emotionally fulfilling and (possibly) lifelong relationship is difficult for anyone.
I think, regardless of gender, people have the easiest time when they have a good way of meeting people (say, lots of single friends, or hobbies or jobs where you frequently meet new people.) People who have it the most difficult are those who have a very established pattern to their life, where they interact with the same few people over and over.
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