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*lisabeth027
writes:Ok, I have asked about 3 of my friends this and they can't give me an answer.I have this guy friend "Chris", we met last year in class and have been friends sense. I immediately fell for him and wasnt sure if he did. He would always flirt with me by poking me and such and i played along. Anyways its six months later and about 3 weeks ago we chatted (he told me he liked me and i jumped on it) for a few days then he kind of ignored me about a week later he was back to what he was doing which was flirting with me poking me. Hes always throwing a bottle at me or something. Just the other day some how it came up and i said i didnt like anyone. He asked "Not even me?" and i lied and said no, you dont like me. I dont know how he took it. Now i asked a similar question like this about a week ago and was told to move on. But I'm at that point that I like him but I dont. I think i like him but dont want to. I'm really not sure but I have asked my friends why he would do this. So my question is, without saying move on what do you think i should do? Or tell me any advice you might have towards this Im so very confused.Thanks for any help you have.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 October 2010):
 If you're not sure, then I wouldn't pursue anything. He is probably flirting. He sounds rather immature if he's doing things like throwing bottles at you.
Figure out what you want and go for it. There is no harm in flirting with him, or even going on a date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): I've kind of had the same thing. There's this guy, and he's so amazing. When you're with him you're like an even better version of yourself. He brings out the best in you and anytime he's in a room you can't remember who else was there. But he doesn't like you that way. Yup, it sucks.
You want him to like you, but you want to stop liking him because he doesn't like you... argh!!
Just try and find someone else. You have to accept that if he's not making a play for you after all this talk of fancying people, either he's not reading the signs or he doesn't want to. It could be yo find someone else and it's even better, or you find someone and he realises he misses you and suddenly wants you. Either way, win!
Good luck
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reader, happy140 +, writes (21 October 2010):
 As a male-he likes you! No if ands or buts, he like you. When we do something stupid like tossing a bottle at you to get your attention we sometimes think how stupid that was and we pull back hence his not talking to you. Silliness is how a shy man operates to get your attention. Why are you unsure of him? Because he does not seem secure about himself and you do not like that. In addition, his on off tactics. I will not say move on because I do not know if you are interested or not, I think you are but you are telling yourself you should not be, why? You can get to know him better and trust me you will find that once he gets a little confidence from you by you letting him know you like him he may be a great person. I say NEVER throw away a chance to get to know someone because they might be the love of your life. Most relationships develop thru some odd meeting that we look back on and laugh. Give yourself and him a chance by saying something like “I like you but if you want my attention just come over and say hi, I’m afraid a bottle toss may mess up my desk” anything that takes the silliness away while saying I would like to get to understand you more.
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