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writes:I want to get rid of memorabilia of my ex, like cards, cinema tickets from the first date and photos.We were together for a long time and he was my "first love". But he's changed so much and not in a good way. I'm so upset with his attitude towards me after we broke up I don't want any memories left of him.But I want people's opinions on this. Am I heartless to do this? or is this a good way to finally move on for good?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): I agree with charlies.
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reader, charliesdevil73  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 I kept half a dozen or so things from my first love as well. It made it harder for me to get over him. Even though it ended badly and he hurt me in the end, I still kept them. I just recently came across some forgotten items about 5 or 6 months ago that I trashed right away. I didn't want memories popping back in my head. And if you are serious in not wanting any memories, follow suite and trash the momentos. If you are hesitant, do as dirtball says, keep one or two in case regret sets in. If in half a year or so, regret doesn't set in, trash the ones you kept.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): I trashed everything after my divorce. I even cut my hair so that any hair he touched would be gone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): I actually believe it is unhealthy to keep momentos of your past loves. It is even more unhealthy to stay in contact with them. You can't be friends with someone you once loved because I will bet you still have feelings for them. Pitch out everything and make a new start. Look to the future, don't dwell in the past.
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reader, HotGeek  +, writes (21 October 2010):
Get rid of the stuff as soon as possible, but be careful not to throw out things that have a big sentimental value for you as well. In other words, don't get revenge on stuff.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 October 2010):
 I couldn't do it. I've had some bad breakups too, but I still have some momentos from those relationships. It was an important part of my life for a while, and I like to think back on the good times occasionally. Plus, my parents would probably kill me if I got rid of prom/homecoming/any other pictures that we had. My mom is a bit of a picture nut. Maybe some of that rubbed off on me.
To each their own. If it will make you feel better, then go for it. I would recommend keeping one or two momentos though. After the hurt feelings fade, you may regret deleting a chunk of your personal history.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 October 2010):
I couldn't do it. I've had some bad breakups too, but I still have some momentos from those relationships. It was an important part of my life for a while, and I like to think back on the good times occasionally. Plus, my parents would probably kill me if I got rid of prom/homecoming/any other pictures that we had. My mom is a bit of a picture nut. Maybe some of that rubbed off on me.
To each their own. If it will make you feel better, then go for it. I would recommend keeping one or two momentos though. After the hurt feelings fade, you may regret deleting a chunk of your personal history.
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