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*RISTENA RAMSEY
writes:I have a rather strange question. I am pretty sure I was raped. I question it becasue I don't think I can do much about it. I knew this guy since forever..he gave me a ride home, and next I know we are out in the woods and he parks the truck. Next, he starts trying to make out with me and after I told him to stop and I hit him really hard, he hit me, and then he told me to be quiet and it wouldn't be very long. He had a knife and I panicked. I let him do his thing. After he acted fine, and said if I reported it he would snap my neck. So, what can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 You need to tell your mum about this. She will understand and support you through this.
Call the police and give a statement of what happened. They might need to take some swabs from you but this is only for evidence so they can convict him.
Get a STI test done. You don't know where this boy has been or what he has got. If he didn't use protection there is a high risk you have whatever he has got.
Get a pregnancy test or if this happened less than 72 hours ago get the morning after pill which will prevent pregnancy.
This isn't going to be easy for you and your emotions will be all over the place so keep your friends and family close to you as they will support you through this and help rebuild your life. I'm so sorry this happened to you, nobody deserved to go through what you did.
Good luck sweetheart
Livia
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reader, lovinlife91 +, writes (28 April 2009):
 oh wow! i am so very sorry this happened to you! my best friend was raped & she was in the exact situation! she called me one night (the night it happened) & told me everything. so her & i went to the police, they got the rapist, & now he is in jail & was sentenced to 20 yrs. minimum.
but def. go to the police! you cant hold it in! that can cause you major emotional issues! and not to mention if you dont then it's either going to happen to you again or another! so get him before he strikes again!
goodluck!
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reader, Rachel :-) +, writes (27 April 2009):
Tell somebodyAnybody at all that you feel you can confide inYou can't keep it to yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): i'm very sorry that happened to you!You need to go to the cops. and tell them everything!No one! No one deserves what you had to got through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): 1. Stay far far away from him2. Go to the police, tell them exactly what happened, make clear that it was non-consensual and he threatened your life3. Get checked for STDs4. Get a pregnancy test
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reader, pebble +, writes (26 April 2009):
 Please, please, please go to the police. Tell them that this man threatened you also. He will do this to other women, probably already has. No one should scare others into silence to cover for their disgusting actions.
It's not going to be easy but this man needs to get what he deserves.
Please don't go near him or speak to him again. Do what you need to to protect yourself and other women. I wish you all the luck in the world. Let us know how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): Tell the police.
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reader, jayronae +, writes (26 April 2009):
 i'm so sorry. i think you should go to the police. i sort of understand how you feel. a previous boyfriend of mine physically forced my to do things against my will, i cried and pleaded for him to stop but...no use
i didn't do anything, but wished i did. i now worry about other girls he may date because i know the numbness i felt. Go to the police for yourself and girls who could be future victims. what he did was wrong but you can make a difference
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reader, Gary Logan +, writes (26 April 2009):
Girl, you need to see a doctor, and if you wish to press charges the police.I cant see how a man can force himself on a girl.. but life is strange.There are alot of resources out there;I know youre scared, but get something done about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): Not to sound insensitive but you should have went to the police right away. Now it will likely be too late to collect any physical evidence to make a case against him. Still, if he did this to you, he's probably done it to someone else. Your silence only helps him do it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): I'm so sorry that's one of those terrible things you see in the news and think if it happned to you you'd never know what to do because is kind of a lose-lose situation. If you report him you'll feel insecure and in fear, and it might be a disgusting experience going through all the legal stuff and seeing him again. But on the other hand if you don't report him you'll risk that he could do it again to you or to somebody else and you might eventually get angry with yourself for not doing it. I know it's not an easy task and it's easier to write it than to do it but I think you should speak up and accuse him with the police. I mean he threatened to kill you and that's pretty serious stuff. Maybe if he'd just had tried and forced you into the sex act only, but he premeditated it, brough a weapon and threatened to kill you. That's something police should know. From what I've seen on the news and forensic tv shows lots of rapers have their long lists of raped women and some even have their own graveyard already. You see, these men are not after sex but after control.Hope everything turns alright for you.Blessings-
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (25 April 2009):
 I'm sorry to hear that you were raped, because that is what it was. I disagree with you: there's a lot you can do about it.
I suggest you report the case to the Police. Let them help you determine whether something can be actually done against him. If it happened some time ago and there is no way to prove you were raped, then no legal process can be started, but then he won't have to know you accused him. You also need to get help to protect yourself from this man.
I urge you to get help with the consequences that rape can have on your soul and your body. You need it, dear poster.
We're willing to help as much as possible, but you need direct, face-to-face help, too. Please get it.
Maybe you can't prove it was rape, but you can do much about it. I don't want you to feel that no one cares about this, or that what's done is done and that's it. This is an awful thing that you need to do something about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): Sorry that happened. I would absolutely go to the police --- if nothing else it would help you process what happened. I would also go to the hospital. You have nothing to be ashamed about and the more SAFE people, friends, family you talk about the more you will release the pain. He is probably more about intimdiation, but with the intimidating types (you have to be strong)... Good luck
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