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writes:This is a question for those who are pro abortion or against it. I know of a person who has been pregnant 3 times and each time she found out she was having a boy and decided to have an abortion because she wanted a girl. Do you think this is ethical?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): As the origianl poster I would just like to say that I only put the question on here because I wanted to know what people thought about the issue. Maybe I shouldn't have said I knew someone who has done it, but knowing someone who does it made me want to see how common it truly was and what other people thought of it. It seems more common than I thought it was, I've done a bit of research and there are actually woman who do it without a second thought. To answer Danielepew's question, I am pro choice, I believe you should have a choice in whether or not you put your body through that type of situation, I just don't think it should be based on sex. If you are trying for a baby and you find out you will have a child that won't even be able to live outside of the womb or a child that will never develope properly I can't blame you for having an abortion. I also think males should have a say in whether a woman should have an abortion or not, it took two to create that child so why is the woman the only one that can make that choice? But then you'll have men that tell the woman to have an abortion and then the woman doesn't want one which would end up screwing up all the child support laws, because he'll argue that he didn't want the child and wave's all custody and parental rights. So until our government finds a "fool proof" method of birth control (not having sex does work about 100% of the time) we will forever have people arguing over parental rights, and abortion.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (30 April 2009):
 Just a comment: some men have impregnated women "unintentionally" and are very much in favor of abortion. The opposite of that, in our countries, is called "responsible fatherhood".
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): Well I agree with the others who say that it doesn't matter because it isn't any of your business :) I don't believe that every little zygote is a gift from God and that abortion is murder. People who think that are either very sentimental, or don't quite grasp the biology of it. Or are men. Or have never been pregnant unintentionally (yes, it happens, no form of birth control is 100% effective).But even still, when some 16 year old declares that she will now become a mother, or a couple who have no money or time for a baby decide to go with one when the condom breaks, then I keep my mouth shut - because it's all about CHOICE. Even the wrong choice. You never know what other people's lives are really like, so you can never really judge the decisions they make. It sounds awful that she would abort only because they were boys, but... who knows...?
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (30 April 2009):
I'll add another grain of salt. In India, many women choose to have an abortion because they know that they will give birth to a girl. It's just the same case as the one you describe, only girls are killed.
Question: Do you, poster, see any problem in allowing women to choose to have an abortion, for non-medical reasons?
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reader, kissxmexagainx +, writes (29 April 2009):
 I think abortion is wrong [&& I had one], but sometimes it's they only way for certain people to get by I guess. Idk, it's something I hate. I personaly see it as murder. but to take a life based on gender?? that's about as wrong as you can get.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (29 April 2009):
 The decision to have an abortion should always be a personal one, but ultimately there is a risk of long term infertility and other complications from multiple abortions. Termination on the grounds of sex of foetus would not be a valid reason here in the UK for women seeking an elective procedure on the NHS. Quite apart from the emotional and physical problems for this woman, there are now clinically effective IVF and sperm-selection techniques available in private medicine to provide a solution to her problem without the need to have abortions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): It's not my business, nor is it yours, but I think that because I child is male doesn't mean it should die.
-GG
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (29 April 2009):
 Oooh, girlfriend, aren't you just stirring up trouble at Dear Cupid? You're going to get a lot of responses on this one!!
Firstly, I'll just let you know straight away - I am adamantly pro-choice. Now, onto your question. Do I think what she did was ethical? No. Her thought process was selfish and thoughtless. Do I think that it is your business? NO! And not your place to be judging her extremely personal decisions.
There are my two cents (and I kept them concise, I could go on... and on... and on...), let's see what everyone else thinks.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (29 April 2009):
No. Why not use contraception instead?
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reader, delicatedevil +, writes (29 April 2009):
 well I think she should keep the baby each child has rights even the unborn child. She many want a girl maybe the next one will be a girl?Who knows?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): No. I think there are only 2 reasons you should get an abortion, 1.Rape and 2.Incest, and even then its still debatable. I would try to convince her to have the baby regardless of its sex and if its not what she wants then give it up for adoption to someone that does. Tons of couples want children but are unable to for whatever reason. She could make someone very happy by making the choice for adoption.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (29 April 2009):
 Not at all, it's her child and she should love it equally be it a boy or a girl.
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reader, Pandaholic123 +, writes (29 April 2009):
 i believe that taking away a life before it even gets to experience the life it could have had is inethical anyways, but just because it wasn't a baby girl? Either way a child is a child why kill it becuase he/she isn't what you wanted? That is wrong. =(
Why won't she except that life brings her sons not daughters? I believe it may be a sign of maturity if she has a boy and lets it live- maybe it's a lesson she is suppse to learn but isn't allowing from being tenatious... maybe? Hm. =P
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