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41-50,
*laudio
writes:MOD NOTE: I believe the asker has a male friend who is close like a brother. They are both married. Her friend ignored her for two weeks, and when she insisted he say why he sent by text pornographic images which he believes to be her. He is asking to be forgiven. Im claudio married. And i have a not blood brother and he also married. we were b known 2 years and pretty close also and im taking him as brother only. All of sudden he ignored me for 2weeks and when i text aslo no reply. After awhile he told he that something bothering him very badly for 2 weeks. He also dont want it to happen but he said cant change. Initialty he refuse to tell the reason but when i insist he said he cant tell but text me. Once i receive text from him im shocked coz he send all semi nude and intimacy photos. He cant avoid to think im in that pictures. I scold him. What should i do. H3 is askinh sorry.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 November 2016):
 If it is the third interpretation then my suggestion would be to tell him that he has crossed a line. Also tell your husband what he has done. He does not see you as a friend, or a sister, he sees you as someone who he hopes to have sex with, and that is not okay when you are both married.
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reader, Claudio +, writes (13 November 2016):
Claudio is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTq so much female reader. Actually my situation is the third interptetation.
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reader, like I see it  +, writes (13 November 2016):
 There are a couple ways your question can be interpreted so I'll address all three of them.
Are you in the pictures he found? If he thinks these are pornographic photos of you and they are not, simply tell him it's someone else and ask him to kindly drop the subject.
If he *does* have intimate photos of you, ask him to delete them, but also find out where he got them, because some person or website is spreading naked photos of you without your consent and if this guy can find them, others can too. Consider speaking to law enforcement or to a lawyer to find out if what has happened is a crime in your country and if so, what your options are for stopping the spread of the pictures.
There is one other way I think your question could be read, and it is this. If your friend sent you intimate photos of other women saying that he is *imagining* you in those photos or doing those things, that is inappropriate. He is married and so are you, and you see him as a friend but he is trying to cross a boundary. In that case he is right to apologize, but the damage has already been done, because you know he sees you as more than a friend and it will be very difficult to take things back to a platonic friendship - or to feel like it is fair to your husband for you to be spending time with another man who also wants to have sex with you. If these messages were him flirting with you, you were right to scold him, and it's probably best and safest to let him look for other women friends while you make new friends yourself.
I hope this helps you. Best wishes!
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