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writes: Is it possible for your boyfriend to have two separate Snapchat accounts on one phone?Just today I went to Add Friends from contacts in my address book and I saw my boyfriend's name under another user name and it said ADD beside his name. I already have him as a friend under a different user name and I am his only contact. Just him and I. I have seen his app. We both downloaded it months ago to chat with each other and video message etc. I am not sure why he would be listed under Add Friends with another user name. He is the only Mike in my contacts. What does this mean??? Why would he have another user name??? And why would it have add beside his name? Can anyone tell me if this is shady? And what should I do about this? I am feeling pretty gutted right now. :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2016): Thanks, Cindy. It's the poster again. No, I trust him. And I have never seen or caught him doing anything inappropriate. But this is the first time both of us have used Snapchat. I am his only friend on his one account. So, when I noticed a second account linked to him, (he had never mentioned it to me) then I must admit it did worry me.
But even more than her nickname he actually named it after his mother. So if you add his username it actually says her first and last name.
If he was being dodgy, I doubt he would go so far as to use his mother's full name, and same last name as him. It definitely kills the anonymity of it all. And using her name would just strike me as way over the top.
I am looking forward to what he says when he returns.
Thank you so much for helping me figure this out in the meantime. :)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 November 2016):
 OP, no, I had figured out that you did not mean that his nickame is LITERALLY " Jewish Grandmother ", lol, but just a word for J.G., - like Bubbe or Bubbele, for instance. And in this age of globalization, ...I think lots of people know a few basic Yiddish words.... if I were your bf
( and supposing that I were up to no good ) I would not risk naming myself something so domesticated, I'd go for something sexier, more suggestive ... being a Mike, I don't know ... " Mick Shagger " maybe :):)
Anyway : since it seems there at least MAY be a very logical,normal ,innocent explanation for this account, I'd say that you are too worried and anxious if this is a first and only " weird " thing you find out about him.
Maybe you are prone to trust issues , by nature ?..... If instead this is not the first time that two plus two do not make four, or if you have caught him red handed before in online ( or real life ) inappropriate activities, well, then it would be another story and you 'd have much more reason to be concerned, at least until he can offer a valid explanation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2016): Hi Cindy. It is the poster. Thank you! Your comment made me laugh! :) And it makes sense.
Just to clarify though. It is a nickname for Jewish Grandmother (ie. "Pokemon") and a lot people would not know what it means... and not actually Jewish Grandmother itself.
That doesn't make any difference?
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (16 November 2016):
Yes, the best thing is that you wait for him to be back and discuss this in person. In the meantime, though, I'll try to alleviate you with my opinion, which, FWIW, is : I don't think you have got a lot to worry about , probably this is an account he made for his mom or some other older lady.
I mean, I doubt, strongly doubt that if he had made a second secret account with the intent to pick up girls- he would have chosen a nickname like " Jewish Grandmother " !That would make any girl think that what he's got to offer is not hot steamy sex, but at most, hot steamy chicken soup with matzo balls :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2016): Thanks, aunt honesty. It is the poster.
But, does anyone else have an opinion in light of this new information?
I cannot ask him because he is away right now. And I do not wish to do it over the phone.
It was bothering me and I was hoping to alleviate some of my concern while I wait for him to return.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 November 2016):
 Okay really am not sure why you have not just asked him. You obviously have no trust at all in him. It is possible that he set it up for his mother, it is also possible that he has two accounts, maybe he forgot a password. Either way I wouldn't automatically think he is cheating because off this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2016): Thank you for your advice everyone. It is the poster.I have some new developments and I would hope you can now advise based on this new information.I went onto another Snapchat account. One that I created on my PC that is not linked to me. I set it up through another email. I had to in order to get some facts in light of this situation.I had a look at his username. And it said on top of the user name his mother's first and last name. And the username was her nickname which means Jewish grandmother. And she is Jewish and a grandmother. So?It seems an account he set up for her?By why then does it show up under his name in my address book? Could he have used his own phone number when setting her up? Snapchat asks for such personal info. Because she is in her 80s and I think she does have a cell phone. He just got her one recently I believe. And she has had a surgery and I wonder if he is just setting her up so he can chat with her and keep in touch if she needs anything. He has been helping her get back on her feet the last little while.But the question is why is her account and username linked to his name in my address book?I mean would he be that cunning to know I could see it and actually create another username under his mom's name? If he was going to be shady and go on Snapchat to cheat with other women, he would NOT have linked it to HIS OWN ACCOUNT, right? He could have linked it to a new email or another phone number. But it is linked to his name. So, it is not as shady as it could be. Or could he not know it would be linked to his name? He is pretty tech savvy.What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2016): Honestly? I'd follow the app "suggestion" to add him. Then he can explain himself. Looks like he didn't want you to know about it.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (14 November 2016):
Women have great intuition...I am not a woman, and even I feel exactly what you already know.
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reader, N91  +, writes (14 November 2016):
 Sounds like it could be a little dodgy. I'd ask.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 November 2016):
 Ask him?
It's impossible for us to know what's up with that.
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