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writes: What does it mean when your boyfriend stays up with you all night after you accuse him of cheating on you, trying to convince you he ISN'T? Does it mean he really isn't cheating? Or does it mean he is doing his best to throw you off track because you are right? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 November 2016):
 Hmm I don't contact my other half all day when am at work. I am pretty sure that is legit enough. If it only takes an article on the internet to accuse him off cheating them maybe you don't trust him as much as you should? A relationship is pointless without trust.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (13 November 2016):
 So an reading article on the internet and his busy schedule and a new hire made you suspicious of your boyfriend?
There are so many articles out there, about so many things, why did this one start this mistrust?
Fascinating that reading a random article would create an emotional crisis in you that resulted in your accusing him of cheating. It's a puzzling overreaction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2016): It is the asker of the question.
Thank you for your answers. I saw a check list on the internet the other day on what signs to look for when your partner is cheating. It says if your texts or phone calls go unanswered for hours then that is a sign. My boyfriend is a lawyer. He is frequently occupied by his job as he is a partner in the firm. And he is quite attentive with me normally as well as keeps in touch several times a day. However, lately he has gone hours without contact. And as I read this article, it got me thinking. His behaviour is different. Therefore I assumed cheating. Perhaps I am overthinking it? Perhaps I am edgy since the firm has hired an attractive female secretary.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (13 November 2016):
This question really shows that you have no trust whatsoever in your boyfriend. No one here will be able to tell you which camp your boyfriend would fall into: the caring innocent one or the conniving cheater one.
You don't trust your boyfriend.
Why is that?
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reader, like I see it +, writes (13 November 2016):
 I think the answer to your question would depend primarily on what evidence you have that he's cheating in the first place.
For example, if a girl from work texts him to say hi, you see the text somehow and he stays up all night trying to explain that it was innocent, you can probably believe him, although most people would probably give up on trying to convince someone who was that disinclined to trust them and use the late night to reflect internally on their choice of partner instead. On the opposite end of the spectrum, if you catch him naked in bed with another woman (again, just for an example), it shouldn't matter if he stays up all night trying to explain himself to you or not, because there simply is no good explanation for that.
So, what makes you think he is cheating?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 November 2016):
 Impossible to guess with that little info.
Personally? If I was innocent I wouldn't spend a whole night trying to convince a partner, but... I wouldn't do it IF I was unfaithful either. So it REALLY is neither here nor there.
I agree it would be helpful if you add what exactly makes you think he is cheating.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (12 November 2016):
 A little more information would be helpful.what make you think he is cheating?
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