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writes: Could missing someone make you realize that you love them, even if you might not have realized it before?The reason I ask is that my boyfriend is overseas and he's been gone for 4 weeks. He's back in 2. But for the very first time he told me last night that he loves me.I was wondering what your opinions were. Thanks all. :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 November 2016):
 I do think distance & absence makes the heart grow fonder on some occasions and with some people.
I think he KNEW that he loved you BEFORE this, but he might not have felt comfortable telling you. Telling you from a distance seems safer and easier. It might also be that he WANTS you to know. He might have felt he showed you that he loved you, but now he also added the words.
Either way, enjoy it.
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reader, WickedPoet +, writes (12 November 2016):
 You don't say how long you have been in this relationship which could effect the evaluation. Also, is this the first time you have been separated like this? I am also wondering what the context was that he told you he loves you. Putting all of this aside, yes of course being away from someone with whom you share a positive relationship can deepen those positive feelings.Absence does indeed sometimes make the heart grow fonder. A big part of it is it allows your partner to experience what his life would be like without you. In this case, he thinks of what is missing from his life and how important that is to the quality of his life. The words you have spoken, the things you have done for him and with him, the times you comforted him or made him laugh are all swirling in his mind. He probably has thought about his feelings a lot but never had the chance to judge them through the lens of extended distance. Now he realizes he wants you to stay in his life.But I'm curious, did his absence change or enhance any of your feelings towards him?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 November 2016):
 Yeah my guess is that now he is away he realizes how much he does love you and he misses you. He probably just wanted to reassure you that he is thinking about you.
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