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30-35,
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writes:Over the last year or so, I became good friends with this woman I work with. We get along really well, but I don't see or talk to her often outside of work, or anything like that, though. I think I'm starting to like her a little more; actually, more than a friend should. I don't typically "look" for women to date (honestly, I've never had a girlfriend, never dated, or anything like that), and I like spending time with her at work when I can. Thing is, I'm really not in a position to date (and I don't think I will be for the next few years). My life is pretty much a mess, has been for a while, and will probably take me years to sort it out. Not to mention, I don't think she's interested in me in that way, because she has a boyfriend.I don't really get the feeling that she's interested in me as anything more than a friend. And I'm okay with that. I'm just... worried that I might start getting ideas in my head, let my feelings grow stronger for her and ending up falling for her. I like what we have, I just don't really trust myself to not start wanting more. Any thoughts on what a guy should do in this case?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 December 2016):
 I think you should try and avoid her. No point in you trying to be friends with someone who you want more with. She has a boyfriend so don't tell her how you feel. Just stay away from her and hopefully your feelings will fade. Why is it you cannot date?
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (6 December 2016):
 I am struggling to understand your situation. Why are you not in a position to date?
That aside, you pretty much answered your own question. So I'm afraid it's cold showers for you until you are available.
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