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writes: I live with my boyfriend. I noticed his battery lost 10 % battery power overnight. Is this possible when you do not use the phone?I ask because it has happened twice this week. He said it just fell off the charger. It has never happened before. But this week it has happened twice.I worry he is talking to other women late at night while I am asleep. We had a tiff about it last week. After the fight, I asked him if he was still awake. He responded with a NO but he was. Then he said for me to talk all I want, that he isn't in the mood. I asked him if I could tell him one thing before bed. He said fine. I told him I loved him and that I am happy with him. He said "is that it? You tell me that all the time. Why don't you say something different when we talk. good night." The tiff was because I accused him of talking to other girls after I saw the loss of battery on his phone the first time. Then after he cut me off that night, I noticed his battery lost 10 % again overnight. That was the second time and he said it fell off the charger again. I am not sure where the anger came from. He was quite angry. I wonder if there is some truth to my accusations?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 December 2016):
 If I was him I would be angry as well. OP you sound like you have major issues, has he done something to you in the past to make you so mistrusting off him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2016): Of course it's possibile for the phone to drain that way! Of course it's possible he's been talking with other girls! Are the two linked? Who knows!Such a small insignificant amount of evidence isn't enough to accuse someone of cheating. You must suspect him for some other reason, or perhaps you are the jealous type- which would explain his over reaction.If you think hard enough, you can link almost any act a man/girl does to cheating, it's only you that believes it's possible. If you do think there is something going on, then you need more evidence- but be careful, going down that road can cause problems.If you see no other reason to believe he is doing something he shouldn't be, then you just have to place trust in him. If you can't bring yourself to do that, then something is wrong with the relationhip!
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (5 December 2016):
 If you suspect or worry about him talking to other women, then why not go the whole way and get evidence?
It'll be found in his Call Logs on those dates the phone fell off the charger.
Other than that, tape the dang phone to the charger or put it in a place where it doesn't get knocked.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 December 2016):
 The more apps you have on your phone and the older the phone is, the faster the battery drains.
My middle daughter put snap chat and skype on my phone and those things ZAPPEd my phone in no time, before the apps my battery could last 5 days now? 2-3 days tops. VERY annoying.
I think it's crazy that you think he is cheating because his phone needs charging... If that is your ONLY "evidence" then I have to ask what is up with you? Are you unhappy with the relationship to the point where you are grasping at straws so you can end it?
If you constantly accuse him, no wonder he was so rude to you at bedtime.
If you can't trust him WHY are you with him?
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reader, Stephsav76  +, writes (5 December 2016):
Go by your gut feeling. It's never wrong.
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reader, Slippers +, writes (5 December 2016):
As tisha has pointed out .. I'm unsure whether you are with him or on text ..
Might give a better idea on how to answer .
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 December 2016):
 I am sure that there are push notifications etc that are causing the battery to drain. I can go to bed with a fully charged battery and wake up with the battery at 65% even with "do not disturb" activated on my phone.
What other "clues" do you have that he may be cheating/talking to other women. I sense that the problem may lie with you OP not your BF.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 December 2016):
 Yes, there are many apps that can drain a battery. That exchange you report sounds more like a text message conversation, not a face to face real life in person. Did you spend the night apart?
You are the one who seems angry. Checking his battery? Accusing him of chatting with other women while you are asleep?
What "evidence," besides a dodgy battery, do you have?
No trust means the relationship is dead in the water.
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reader, Flabby Thighs +, writes (5 December 2016):
Omg, you sound like a nightmare. If you trust him, trust him. If you don't why are you with him? Low battery could be, the battery is on its last legs, he left his 4G roaming on, which rapes battery power or he left loads of apps on. Get a grip.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2016): There are two possibilities:
It could be apps running in the background or
There could be spyware which tends to drain batteries!
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reader, N91 +, writes (5 December 2016):
 My phone is a bit dodgy and I sometimes wake up to it being charged less than 50%.
Unless there's other reasons to think he's cheating then these are very weak grounds and I not surprised he got pissed off at you for accusing him.
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