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writes:The last 5 years I've been single and primarily friendless so I've stayed in watching tv trying to convince myself I wasn't bored. This year I'm still single, but my friends are coupled or will be out of town and I just can't stand the thought of yet another new year's at home. I'm kicking around the idea of going to see a band, comedy show, or some other type of performance alone since I'm not into the club/party scene. I'd stick with an early show and likely be home well before the countdown. I go out alone occasionally,, but holidays just seem different and like a single guy will stick out more than normal. What do you think? I'm not hoping to meet anyone, but do want to just have a drink, relax, and enjoy a show in the company of others without looks of pity. Is this possible? Is it safe? Have any other guys done this or would you? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 January 2017):
 I saw the exact same question posted yet it was by a female some time back. Word for word. Did you go out alone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2016): It depends how you have behaved in the past!
Is it safe for women to be around you and will you be in predatory mode?
Some people cant be trusted in any circumstances so you need to know yourself what your standard is while watching out for others.
A lot depends on your past.
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reader, Slippers +, writes (26 December 2016):
I think what your suggesting is fine, more than fine ..get a pew at the bar and smile cheekily at girls and freindly at guys or both haha .. I think single males are more not even given a second glance .. single girls not so much which isn't right . JuSt go out and be cool casual not to in peeps faces but say hey strike up a convo if they ask say yea my mates are with their girls etc .. and you may make some new friends on the way
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (26 December 2016):
Unless you're planning on going to the roughest part of town, I'm [pretty sure you're going to be safe.
I'm single and I do a lot of stuff on my own and I don't think I've ever garnered looks of sympathy.
To be honest, when people are out in groups I don't think they even notice people who are out on their own let alone have time to pity them.
So go do it! Go out for the evening and leave your insecurities at home.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 December 2016):
 Let's start with saying that ideally you should not worry or care at all about what perfect strangers may think about your singletude . One can be out and about on his own for dozens of different and excellent reasons , without for this having to be a loser, a desperate case or a social misfit.
But if you are a bit sensitive about the image you "might " project in the eyes of perfect strangers... probably holidays, and NYE particularly, are better than other times. You could be a tourist . You could be a supercool dude that willingly kills time somehow BEFORE joining the best fanciest wildest party in town at midnight, or fashionably later. So, just do whatever you like and enjoy your show.
Said that, if you really feel awkward in being on yout own on NYE... you don't have to . A bit of fiddling on the Web will provide you with possible options for people in your situation. Either from some organization, a Meet -up Group, a single club, etc. - or just spontaneous , people organizing something spur -of- the- moment to ring in the New Year. Not necessarily involving wild parties and binge drinking. There are theatre buffs and movie buffs organizing outings, food lovers seeking company for a gourmet dinner... hey don't tell me that I, who was already an adult when Internet came out, should tell a YOUNG man how to use the Web to his advantage :):)
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (26 December 2016):
 I think with the amount of people out and about NYE, you being a single man, would hardly stick out and really why should it matter anyway? If going out is what you feel like doing then you should go ahead and do just that. Pity should be for anyone who feels the need to pity you. Footloose and fancy free sounds like a great night out to me. Happy New Year!
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