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writes:Hi, I have a question and would appreciate your help. I'm not an American and this is the first time I'm dating here, 3 years after divorce. I'm 39 and my date is 42. He is single, indian and educated and moved to the US when he was so young. I'm not an Indian by the way. We are meeting for the first time and I have heard about the kiss on the first date which I'm trying to avoid. Is it really everybody kisses on the first date or just younger people maybe? And how I can avoid it without hurting him if it ever happens . Thank you for your help!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 January 2017):
 I am glad you where just honest with him, it is much more easier than that. Did you both have your date and how did it go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2016): I'm the op- Thanks for the advises, actually I talked to him today and mentioned that I can't have any physical relationship, including kissing, outside the marriage and he said he loves the idea and respect that and I shouldn't be worry about it. I said we haven't met yet and we should see how it works but just wanted to ler you know that if this is a deal breaker we shouldn't meet. He said he is really impressed and really likes my personality and doesn't care about the rest, even though is too soon to even say this. So I'll find out on weekend!
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (29 December 2016):
Then offer your cheek for the kiss. You do not have to kiss if you do not want too...and if he really like you, it will not matter. He will go out with you again.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (29 December 2016):
 Why is this such a big issue? Is it just on the first date you want to avoid this?
I suppose, practically, you can just turn your cheek if he leans in to give you a kiss, and do a "continental" kiss on the cheeks. Or hold out your hand for a hand shake, thus making it obvious you are not ready for more intimate contact.
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