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writes: Hello everyone I need some Advice. I'm gay and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and we love each other sooo much! The only problem is the sex. At the beginning of our relationship my boyfriend was a virgin and I was his first. The first time we did it he top'ed me and we usually rotated for the first month I would top him sometimes and he would top me. We're both young so we tend to get horny all the time. At the beginning of the relationship he would sometimes give me a handjobs and every once in awhile give me head. And I literally always give him handjobs, oral, and regular sex on the daily to this day. But these past six months he hasn't touched me at all! He never gives me head or even touches my penis. He started to complain about me toping him cause he says it hurts too much and is uncomfortable. So for the past six months I've been feeling so sexually frustrated! Every night before we go to sleep I make sure to get him off. Whenever I mention it I feel guilty cause I feel like I'm being selfish and causing problems. The last time we fought about this I told him " I'm sorry but I don't know if I can be with someone who doesn't do the same things I do to him but to me" and he just said "he's sorry and he doesn't think he can change" Its gotten to the point where I question if I'm not good enough or I think " am I really that disgusting?" Sometimes I feel like he just doesn't like penis at all. Another thing that's weird is that he loves my but! He always wants to and offers to eat my butt but I'm thinking " how can you always want to want my but, but you won't go near my penis. I really love him but I don't think it'll ever get better. Literally for the last six months I've just masturbauted cause he won't go near it and I'm to embarrassed/guilty to ask him to help. I feel like your lover is supposed to be there to love you and to both satisfy each other's needs.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 January 2017):
 Honestly you stop touching him and see what he says. He is being lazy because he is getting away with it. Am sorry but if he loved you he would satisfy you. If you are satisfying him then it is clear that he still has his sex drive. If he is not going to change then stop satisfying him and see how that works but if am being honest he sounds like he is using you and I know you love him but you deserve someone who truly loves you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2017): Sorry you are going through this. You sound like a good guy.Your boyfriend is being totally selfish and unfeeling towards you. To be honest, he isn't really a true boyfriend. Yes, he needs to reciprocate. And yes, as a partner, it is his job to please you back. Not only is it his job but he must want to do this for you willingly. It must be a turn on for him to want to get you off.He is taking all he can from you and giving you nothing in return. And he says he can't change? More like he WON'T change! It is up to you to decide what to do now. Because he has already told you he won't change. He won't please you back and meet your needs even though you are always meeting his. In my opinion, he is saying it's his way or the highway. Maybe it's time you pack your bags and hit the road. I cannot imagine being in this kind of a one sided relationship which leaves you feeling unsatisfied, alone and miserable. Love isn't enough sometimes. Especially if only one partner feels it. And one partner is doing all the work. Your relationship is lop sided and all in his favour. No wonder you are not happy!Is it possible that he is having sex with someone else outside your relationship? I am sorry to say that but you need to look at this possibility. He may be reciprocating to someone else. That is why he has turned off you. Perhaps he is just comfortable with you. And has decided to stay out of comfort and familiarity but is getting his jollies elsewhere. You are too young and full of life and energy to allow your light to be dimmed by this clown.You have put up with him long enough. Why should you have to suffer? While he gets it all?I am sorry to say it is time to find a man who will want to give you sexual fireworks. They are out there! And you deserve an awesome sex life. Now is the time. This guy is just weighing you down and bringing you down. I am sure another guy is going to give you all you need and then some.This guy is not for you. He does not care enough. He is likely cheating. You can do so much better.
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