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writes:I've never done it before but I would like to have sex with this guy I know, I think he is bi,but I can't be sure, I stop by his house every one in a while,I never known him to be with a woman since we have been friends five or six years,he spends a lot of times with his parents, when I am over their, I just want to drop on my knees an do him,he touches my shoulders once in a while, always walks me out to my truck, should I just comes out an ask him if I can suck him off, or go about it by, asking him if he is seeing any one,he always says no, maybe then I can ask him if he has a Friends with benefits kind of person a guy or woman who comes over every wants in a while an sucks him off, if he says no he doesn't, if he doesn't say he wouldn't let a guy do it to him , maybe that's means he is bi, then I could ask him if I could give him one, doesn't that sound like a good way of asking him if he is bi
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 January 2017):
 Honestly? It sounds like an awful idea. Are you prepared to lose the friendship?
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reader, N91  +, writes (22 January 2017):
 Not a single thing here*
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reader, N91 +, writes (22 January 2017):
Not a singl great thing her implies that he may be sexually attracted to you.
If you ask and he's not gay then I think you could possibly be saying goodbye to your friendship. It would make a lot more sense to actually find out whether he's gay or bi first.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (22 January 2017):
 I have a male friend who I have worked with for years. In all that time he has not had a girlfriend. He used to live with his parents until he bought his own house a few years ago. And guess what? He is NOT gay! He just hasn't met a woman he wants to have a relationship with. And he likes his own space, not having to share with anyone else. He is a lovely guy, and would make a great husband/dad (we all think) but it is his choice to live as he does.Just the same as it is this guy's choice to live with his parents and not have a relationship. That does not automatically make him gay or bi. It is one thing fantasizing about someone. It is quite another to invade their space by making offers like the ones you suggest. What is wrong with getting to know him better on a friendly level so that you can better assess whether he has any sexual interest in you? Going straight in for what you fantasize about could blow up in your face and traumatize him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2017): From the sound of it he just sees you as a friend. Nothing sexual at all in his mind.
He touches your shoulder once in a while and walks you to your truck. Guys do things like that all he time and see it as friendship, not as sexual contact.
He is close to his parents.
I think you will lose a friend if you push things.
Be a friend, ask him about things he likes to do. I mean non-sexual things.
Some guys have a low sex drive and are not into sexual relationships.
If he is extra close to his parents then even if he is gay he may be very hesitant to reveal this to you.
Get to know him more as a friend. does he like fishing?
But don't push things. Let him reveal what he prefers first - or you will freak him out
I suggest you become more social yourself and go out looking for guys who already identify as gay.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 January 2017):
 Does he know you are gay?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (22 January 2017):
 I think this is a really bad idea.Anyway, you'll lose him as a friend, if you ask and he rejected you or if you do get to do stuff, but it won't end well.Personally, I think you need to find someone else to hook up with.
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reader, like I see it +, writes (21 January 2017):
 You can ask, but if you have assumed wrongly about his preferences, be prepared for the friendship to get very awkward after that. It can be strange for people of any gender to know that they are or have been an object of sexual fantasies for someone they see only as a platonic friend.
Only you can decide if it's worth risking this particular friendship to satisfy your curiosity or not.
Hope this helps. Best wishes!
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