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writes: One day I used my boyfriend's computer to look something up only to find a website called backpage and he had been looking at escorts. I confronted him about it and he said it was from before we were ever dating and I believed him. Well I was using his computer again the other day and found out he was on it again and it said it was recently visited. He's told me he loves me and would never cheat on me but I can't help but wonder why he's looking at the website to begin with. I don't know what to do about it because I love him as well.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 February 2017):
 Be honest tell him the site has been activated lately and ask him for the truth or else you are walking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2017): A male friend of mine has used the backpage website a few times to hire an escort. Your boyfriend might just be curious, but you are right to be suspicious of his motives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2017): Yeah I agree with honeypie,
Even if it was before he was dating you the first time, why would he want to use a prostitute? The risks of sti's are very high...not a good sign.
Secondly, you know that he is still on this website...
I would bring up the topic again in a non-confrontational manner (the only way you'll get info out of him). Say, "oh, so you used to use escorts? How often did you use them? When was the last time? etc. Try to get info on his habits before dropping the bomb on him that you know he is STILL using them (or interested in using them).
Then I would definitely leave.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 February 2017):
 He isn't going to tell you WHY he does it or IF he actually meets up with an escort. That much is certain.
Telling you that he did it BEFORE dating you doesn't explain WHY and it certainly isn't an excuse for him to be doing it now.
YOU have to decide if this is a deal breaker or not FOR you.
Now he MAY love you, but that isn't going to "make" him stop doing what he WANTS to do. Whether he is just curious about escorts or actually looking to meet one.
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