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writes:My friend uploaded a video of us playing drinking games when we were at hers. In it, I am slightly tipsy (as we all are) and I can be heard saying rather inappropriate things which I feel could implicate my future.I've told her I'm worried about it and scared of what it will do..But she hasn't taken it down. What can I do.I'm sick with worry and crying as I fear it will have a negative impact on my career :(
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 February 2017):
 I agree with the others, report it to social media, if they do nothing about it draft up a letter saying that it will be taking further and get your parents to give it to her. That should be enough to get her to take it down. Then block her from your life and learn that she is not a friend.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (12 February 2017):
 This is not friendship. This is bullying, pure and simple.
Ask her one more time to take it down - not in a joking way but in a way that she is left under no illusions that you are serious. If that doesn't work, get your parents involved if you can.
We've all done daft things we regret when under the influence of alcohol. Lesson for the future: choose your friends more carefully and watch how much you drink.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 February 2017):
 I agree.
If it's on Facebook - CONTACT them and ask them to remove it. Or like Auntie BimBim mentions GET your parents involved.
And THIS is NOT a good friend. A good friend would take it down if asked.
And OP, we have ALL done something stupid. Us older folks have the advantage of it NOT being on the Internet...
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (12 February 2017):
 Get your parents to write a formal letter requesting the video be removed immediately or they will be seeking legal advise from their lawyers. (Friends of mine did this when their daughter had something similar happen).
Then accept she is not your friend and act accordingly.
Good luck, I hope the little cow sees sense!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2017): You call that a FRIEND?
That is why you must always be careful about what you say and do. And make sure it is never recorded. It is so easy today to see nasty videos of people all over the internet. You just never know who you can trust as you have just found out. Always best to be cautious. Drinking can lead us to do stupid things which we later regret and there will always be that one person waiting to take advantage of our state of mind. You would never suspect a friend, would you?
I am sure this is a lesson learned the hard way. It has happened to many people. So, don't beat yourself up. We all make mistakes in judgment. However, there is a price to pay.
What I suggest you do is tell this "friend" that you are no longer interested in her friendship and cut all contact.
Say what she is doing is hurtful to you and will damage your reputation. And that this is not the behaviour of a friend, a person who is supposed to care about you and have your back.
Hope this appeals to her conscience and she will not want to lose your friendship over this. And decides to remove the video.
Where did she upload it?
If it is on a Facebook page, and you have the same social media app, you could post a retraction of sorts, explaining you were tipsy and did not mean what you said and regret that it was posted and you did not mean for this to happen. It is called damage control. And hope that's enough. You can say so and so posted it against your wishes, which by the way, you think is very mean and cruel of her as a supposed friend. So, you can fight fire with fire too. It will blow it up a little but at least you will be able to say your truth and your peace. Do you share a lot of similar friends and people you work with?
Sorry this happened but sometimes things happen so that we can learn from them, (hopefully) never to repeat the same mistakes again.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (12 February 2017):
 First of all, report it to the social media site.
Secondly, demote her to untrustworthy.
Lastly, don't get tipsy or drunk if you can't handle the potential consequences. This isn't your fault, but could have been easily avoided.
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