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writes:My best friend and I have known each other since we were 12 years old. So about 9/10 years now. We've always been best friends. Never argued etc.. he was there for me after my terrible breakup from my ex boyfriend. (He would tell me he will always be there for me, never leave me and I have his support as a best friend) after giving birth to my daughter (from my ex) he admitted he loved me, and had done since we were 12. He still loves me now and said that regardless he will always be my best friend. He's a great guy, sweet, funny and I love him (as a friend) but lately I've been feeling weird. He told me he had been seeing someone (no longer seeing her now) but I can't figure out why I got a little jealous, I don't like to think of him being in a relationship but I also don't know why. My mum LOVES him and is always saying that I need to be with him cause he treats me like a gentleman. We're planning holidays and trips together with my daughter. I can't figure out what's wrong with me, and what do I do? Help!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 February 2017):
 You need to decide if you are attracted to him and want more than friends. Because honestly one day you might just regret not taking that chance. Yes I do understand you are scared, he is a very dear friend. But if you are feeling jealous then maybe you do feel more for him than you think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2017): Don't you fear someone coming along that might take him from you, and he will redirect all his feelings toward her?
How long must he hold these feelings with no reward? It would be different if you didn't have them too.
I know you are friends, but exactly why haven't you considered a romantic-connection? He has been totally loyal and constantly tells you how much he cares for you. From your description of your connection with this guy, I see a little more than just "friends."
I guess the weirdness is just fear things will change. If you ask WiseOwlE, I'd say it would be for the better.
Give it a go. In this case, it's a sure thing! Mother's always right! Except when mine disagrees with me. ;)
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reader, N91 +, writes (11 February 2017):
 Agree with the other posters.
Why have you never given each other a chance? What do you have to lose? If a relationship isn't for you, then go back to friends only.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (11 February 2017):
 Why are you not in a relationship with him? What's stopping you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2017): I'm not sure, I don't think he's unattractive but I just... honestly I don't have a clue. I have no idea why. As I type this he just admitted to me that he still really likes me, a lot. I'm just so confused with what to do. I love him and I'd die if I couldn't be friends with him. But I'm scared of getting hurt again. He's literally the ONLY person who's been there and understanding.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (11 February 2017):
 Why on earth have you two not tried being in a proper boy/girlfriend relationship? What is scaring you?
What better foundation for a relationship than being best friends?
Life is too short to look back with regrets. Listen to your mum. She is right.
Good luck.
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