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writes:Hi I'm a bi guy who is falling quite literal for my best. Friend. He's st8 as far as I know but we hang out together a lot I'm best friends with him and his younger brother I really don't know what to do and it's killing me. Do I tell him and risk loosing him or stay quite and keep his friendship he always hugs me and sometimes when watching a movie we will cuddle up please helphes 35 and so sweet i really dont wanna muck things up between us
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 February 2017):
 It sounds to me like he is not straight. He may also be bisexual like yourself. The reason I say this is most straight men would not cuddle up to a guy who the know is attracted to men. It is great that you have both a close friendship. It also sounds good that he automatically wanted to spend Valentines with you. Therefore I think you should just bite the bullet and ask him. Nothing to be afraid off. Good luck.
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reader, Fallen angel22 +, writes (11 February 2017):
Fallen angel22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question We'll I. Nearly did it picked up the courage and asked him what he was doing on valentines day. His answer will be spending it together won't we I stammers and said sure if you want to do that it's fine with me. I don't know weather it's a date or not
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reader, N91  +, writes (11 February 2017):
 I ageee with Duszj. I'd never do that with one of my male friends if I knew he was gay as that could give mixed signals.
You like him more than a friend and I don't think you'll be able to just deal with this looming over you forever. How will you take it if you don't tell him and he gets with someone else? Will you be able to stay friendly with him? I'm not so sure.
Life's too short to wonder what if. Take the plunge, if he doesn't see you that way then you can decide if you'll be able to continue a friendship. If not, you have your answer and can move on.
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reader, 02DuszJ +, writes (11 February 2017):
 Straight men surely dont cuddle up with their friends- especially id they're gay! What man does that??
Ultimately you have a nightmare decision to make... If you think if you came on to him, and he rejected you would he/ you be happy to be friends? If you think you could live with it, then tell him.
If you're happy to sit on your feelings and prolong the pain, raising your hopes until he gets into a.relationship and crushes you. I wouldn't be choosing this option.
What can you live with more happily? Follow your gut, and maybe put the feelers out a bit first, gauge his response. Light hints, extra eye contact maybe. Suttle as he could well be in denial. Good luck
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