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*rueLoveWaits2016
writes:I have posted before about my long distance relationship. I believe it has come to an end as the guy told me he wasn't ready, wanted to be single and told me not to wait for him. For the last week I have been completely devastated and tried warming up to him. He is pretty much giving me a cold shoulder, answering my messages and ignoring me. I suggested a week nc and went 3 days w/no messages, I cracked. Anyways yesterday was my 1st day of clarity, I'm wondering if its peace or numbness. I decided to put my pro on the dating site, I just wanna see what's out there and weed out the weirdos. The last I was on there, I met a guy who messaged me everyday for 2 months, until I started dating someone seriously. Well he found me again and this time we actually have a date set up. Its like we started where we left off. Is this a bad idea?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 February 2017):
 Instead off all this online dating and long distant relationships why do you not just come off the internet and get outside. Go to clubs or try new hobbies. Get to know new people face to face. It will do you so much better than sitting in front off a computer screen.
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reader, TrueLoveWaits2016 +, writes (12 February 2017):
TrueLoveWaits2016 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo worries, he doesn't know where I live. I don't find it creepy because he never said anything perverted and I can just feel that he isn't just trying to get in my pants, actually kinda flattering. I have had many creeps and he doesn't give off that vibe.
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reader, TrueLoveWaits2016 +, writes (12 February 2017):
TrueLoveWaits2016 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFor the record, I didn't expect that this guy would find me again. I put up my profile because I know it takes a couple weeks to weed out the weirdos lol. He found me w/in an hour of me putting up my profile, he was never creepy just really sweet.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (11 February 2017):
 Sweetheart, you are hurting and are trying to heal the hurt by dating someone else. This relationship would be totally on the rebound from your last one and would not be fair on you or the man involved.
Meet up as friends perhaps, but make it clear to him you have just come out of a relationship and are not looking to leap straight into another one.
Also, just a word of caution: someone who messages you every day for 2 months could be a bit . . . creepy? If you do decide to meet up with him, make sure you stay safe. Don't tell him where you live or where you work or anything which could make it possible for him to track you down if you were to finish with him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 February 2017):
 I agree with Andie, I think you are rushing it. And that is never a good idea.
You NEED to take some time for yourself, to figure out WHY you stayed in that LDR, WHY you didn't accept the breakup and who you kept chasing the guy who obviously was done.
And you NEED to find your own standards, values and get BACK to you.
What's the hurry? Where is the fire?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (11 February 2017):
 I think it's a bad idea because there's no way you've moved on yet, but it's up to you.
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