I am exhausted and my boyfriend is no help.
Q. I know I'm right but someone please knock some sense into me. I'm in a relationship, we don't live together but I spend a lot of time at his house. Work everyday and come home to him sitting on the couch everyday watching tv and has done nothing ...
A. 9 October 2017: I guess you feel rotten because you lost your temper and you probably wanted to do it calmly and explain it to him properly. You also probably feel rotten because he was horrible and nasty to you. I am glad you have stayed strong and am sorry to ... (read in full...)
I constantly feel jealous about his exes!
Q. Any advice on how to get past jealousy. My boyfriend has clearly had other girlfriends as we have been together only a few months. Yesterday he said about going to Italy and when I asked who with and he said his ex girlfriend from 8 years ago I feel ...
A. 3 October 2017: OP you are going to loose him. Believe me you will loose him, and not to another woman, and not because he does not love you, but because you will keep going until you push him away.
I honestly feel that you need professional help here. There are ... (read in full...)
How do I go about being just her cousin again?
Q. I am just 20 and I hate to be called inexperienced because I have been in two solid relationships before. I grew up in the city of Abuja. so early this year I went to my hometown with my dad where I met my first cousin once removed. after a while we ...
A. 3 October 2017: This is why it is a bad idea to get to close to family members, it can cause so many problems in a family. The best thing that you can do at the moment is give you and her some space apart. It can be hard to just switch off feelings therefore take ... (read in full...)
Will men care if I live at home?
Q. Will men care if I don't have my own place? I am 31 years old and I have been hit with a financial hardship in life at the moment. For the first time in my life I am trying to not care what people think and focus on solving my financial situation ...
A. 3 October 2017: The right man won't care. Look you have a roof over your head, you are doing your best and that is all you can do. It is much better you living with your parents than living in debt. Although I have been in your position before and I know how hard ... (read in full...)
I'd like to be spoiled a bit and shown some appreciation too!
Q. Hi, how do i deal with ex marital jealousy? My husband and i, we've been married for almost 2 years now and we do love each other and all who know us would say we have the "ideal" relationship and marriage. Most unfortunately, within my h...
A. 3 October 2017: Stop comparing your marriage to his old one, that stuff will drive you crazy! Honestly I think their is much more to a marriage than being spoiled. Seriously as long as he is good to you, looks after you and treats you well then you should be happy. ... (read in full...)
He's bragged about cheating on me behind my back but denies it when I confront him!
Q. Have been told by strangers, friends and family that my boyfriend of twenty years has bragged about cheating on me every chance he gets when he's working out of town. He actually butt dialed me during one of his bragging sessions to a friend and I ...
A. 3 October 2017: You heard him telling his friend he cheats on you, numerous people have told you he cheats on you, he has not made a commitment to you after 20 years and yet you are still questioning his loyalty?
My heart really does go out to you to have wast... (read in full...)
Why can a woman reject sex but if her boyfriend does it, it's the worst thing ever?
Q. Why does a female get so offended when you reject her from any pleasure? I been in relationship nearly 4 / 5 years. She doesn’t have same sex drive as me, she felt up for it once in our week long holiday, but because I’m so used to not having it she ...
A. 3 October 2017: I remember your last post. I really don't think you are both compatible. You are both frustrated with each other. I will admit if I am not in the mood in my marriage then my husband says that is okay and if he says he is not in the mood I say it is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend flirts with his employees and it's annoying me!
Q. I've been exclusive with this guy for the last few weeks, its going OK but I get really jealous when he flirts with his employees (he runs a v popular Indian restaurant and has a lot of really pretty Indian girls working there). He moans at me...
A. 3 October 2017: Yeah follow your gut instinct and let him go. He may give out about them to you, but that just says that they are on his mind and that he has a wandering eye. You deserve better.... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken but he said he wouldn't get back together with me because I was acting crazy!
Q. Okay so I'm looking for a little perspective... I was dating this guy (both in our early to mid 20s) for 6 months. During this time it got very intense. In the beginning he was incredible... suggested we go on holiday together after 1 month, a...
A. 3 October 2017: Why would you want to be with a dishonest person after already being cheated on? If I am honest it does sound like he is in to his engaged friend. Either that or you pushed him so far to the edge that he felt all he could do was lie, it is hard to ... (read in full...)
What's with his constant stares?
Q. My husbands friend will always glance and stare at me and I know it doesn't always mean attraction or something just because someone stares but I'm just getting some kind of weird vibe. He always looks straight into my eyes, even when we aren't t...
A. 3 October 2017: If you say you have a friendship with him then surely you can say hey buddy your staring is starting to bug me! I do think you might be reading to much in to it, either that or he is trying to unnerve you, although if he is staring then you must be ... (read in full...)
I feel excluded by boyfriend's decision to visit alone...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost six years--on and off--but consistently now for the past three years. I suspect that he’s a bit emotionally unavailable because of his compartmentalization tendencies and the fact that he’s told me he’s ...
A. 3 October 2017: I can understand your pain here. My guess is that your partner is trying to keep his son in law happy. He seems to feel some tension and thinks it might be best to avoid conflict. Could it be possible that his daughter is still coming to terms with ... (read in full...)
I feel so guilty about leaving my abusive ex
Q. Hi, I previously asked for advice regarding a relationship I was in for 3 years with a guy I lived with who was controlling and violent. It went on for a number of years and last December I cheated on him with a guy who had been keen on me for a wh...
A. 2 October 2017: You would be selfish to go back to your ex and have children with him, what sort off person brings children in to a violent relationship?
As for this new guy it seems you are his dirty little secret, talk to him, if he does not want the same thin... (read in full...)
After a week of dating he wants to have sex
Q. i met this guy a year ago and he wanted me to be his girlfriend but i refused ... we were not in a relationship then but now after that one year he came back and i again refused so after four months i started having feelings for him and i talked t...
A. 2 October 2017: It is not love after a week, he may say he loves you but it is only because he wants sex, if he had respect for you he would not be trying to have sex with you after one week off dating. ... (read in full...)
He's starting a new job and I've begun to worry about it!
Q. Hello everyone! My hubby has been unemployed for over a year. Last summer I encouraged him to apply for a good job I knew he wanted... and today we got the news that he got it and he starts on Monday!! Exciting, right? Well... I was excited at first ...
A. 2 October 2017: You say you trust him but how on earth can you when you are thinking like this? You should be supporting him and encouraging him to do well, not sit at home living off the state! Honestly you need to be less clingy and controlling or else you will ... (read in full...)
I am tired of feeling unsatisfied and sexually frustrated!
Q. My boyfriend of over 1 year now will not satisfy me sexually. I feel like my needs do not matter to him! When I say I still haven't cum yet. Hes like "well what do you want me to do?" Then I tell him to finger me or something. He usually falls ...
A. 2 October 2017: He sounds like a selfish lover, you have spoke to him and he still hasn't changed so my thinking would be that he is not going to be, maybe get him to make you orgasm before having sex it might work out better.... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but I feel jealous of the way he treated another woman he liked
Q. My boyfriend lost his job last year and since I have been with him he has been trying to secure work. I'm not with him for money at all and love him for who he is. By his own admittance he had a good job and he liked a particular woman, she didn't ...
A. 2 October 2017: He is right you do need to stop going on about his past, it has nothing to do with you or your relationship what he bought his ex. Also I assumed he had posted the comments recently, am not sure how you even are aware he posted these things but you ... (read in full...)
Is she seeking attenton from me or just comfortable?
Q. We chat a lot. She seems to remember conversations like from two weeks ago, like we had a conversation about buses and she was per your conversation two weeks ago, she'll remember stuff about me things that I do etc We've known each other for q...
A. 2 October 2017: Logically we see all sorts on this website. She does look like she is seeking attention from you, but she could also be the sort off girl that seeks approval from other men as well over social media. Take things slow and don't expect to much or you ... (read in full...)
Why am I the one suffering when all I tried to do was help my family?
Q. I am in some real need of help here. Or maybe just a little support. Its a long story but here goes... ok so after 25 years my husband left me, my kids were 18 and 23. My daughter moved in with her then boyfriend. My son,who was my best friend i...
A. 2 October 2017: Oh it is your house, and you are one off them mothers that will do anything for there children. You have always put everyone first but when are you going to start looking after yourself? I understand it is scary to live alone, and to not have your ... (read in full...)
Is she seeking attenton from me or just comfortable?
Q. We chat a lot. She seems to remember conversations like from two weeks ago, like we had a conversation about buses and she was per your conversation two weeks ago, she'll remember stuff about me things that I do etc We've known each other for q...
A. 2 October 2017: Are you really in your 30s? She sounds like a very immature 22 year old. ... (read in full...)
We want different things in life ... should I just let it go?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. I’m 20 and he’s 22 so we’re still pretty young and we don’t plan on getting married or having kids any time soon. Especially since we’ve only been together for 2 years. But we have com...
A. 2 October 2017: Honestly the best thing you can do is end things now. You are both young, but yet old enough to know what you want. You and he both want different things, he is not going to wake up and see the understanding in marriage, and I doubt he will change ... (read in full...)
I am exhausted and my boyfriend is no help.
Q. I know I'm right but someone please knock some sense into me. I'm in a relationship, we don't live together but I spend a lot of time at his house. Work everyday and come home to him sitting on the couch everyday watching tv and has done nothing ...
A. 2 October 2017: I really hope you do take your own advice and end things with him. You deserve much better than this. He sounds selfish. He should be supporting you through the hard time you are having helping your mother and daughter. You sound like the type off ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I argue constantly but I love him.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 and a half years. Things were great in the beginning but more recently we seem to argue about everything. Things are lovely when we're getting on but we seem to argue most days and he goes silent and will ...
A. 29 September 2017: You said it yourself, you want different things. You may have spoke to him but it is his life and it is his choice how much football he goes to, if you don't want this life style then don't waste your time and leave.... (read in full...)
What should I do as I see my husband is not using his own proportion in his family? Should I support him to keep independent and works extremely hard like this?
Q. I need honest opinion. My husband is the youngest and only son in his family. Got 2 older sisters. We are asian. We just married for a couple months ago. I found out recently that his sister has a glamourous lifestyle eventhough she keep borrow ...
A. 29 September 2017: Honestly good for him for not running to his parents. It is great you have a hard working husband. They are allowing you to live in their home, so you should be thankful for that and not look for handouts in fairness. The fortune teller could be ... (read in full...)
How else do I show my long distance cheating girlfriend that I love her?
Q. I am in a complicated relationship with my girlfriend. We both have a distance between us which has affected our relationship . I found out a few weeks ago that she had been sleeping with her ex gf which made me very upset. She opplpgised to me and ...
A. 29 September 2017: How else you should show it? Really? Girl you need to get more confidence and tell her she is the one that should be showing it to you, she cheats on you and now she wants you to show her how much you love her. Am sorry but she sounds selfish and ... (read in full...)
Fiances mother is refusing to come to our wedding unless we change our plans
Q. firstly, thank you for taking the time to read my post. I'm having problems with my fiancées mother. Backstory: me and him met in school, at15, we've been together ever since. We got engaged may 2016 in Fiji we had originally planned a two wee...
A. 29 September 2017: Gosh I hate when parents get involved, she is being selfish when she should be happy for you. If you both want to go to Fiji that is all that matters. Get your boyfriend to talk to his mum about how important this is to him and he is still going ... (read in full...)
I am so madly jealous! How can I overcome this?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for 4 months now, we work together. Me and this girl (both 23 years old) started working at this job at the same time. Obviously every male co worker wanted to hang out with us, since we were new and they all flirted ...
A. 29 September 2017: Yeah you are, you cannot be that insecure and demanding in a relationship or it will kill it. You need to learn to have trust and confidence. Most importantly you need to relax.... (read in full...)
If she wasn't interested why did she bother to text me?
Q. Hello, Before I start I am a gay girl, 24 years old. So I went on a night out on Friday with a group of people, and got very drunk. We all ended hooking up with someone (everyone else is straight) and we went out until about 6am. The girl...
A. 29 September 2017: Just because someone shows a lot of interest in you on a night out does not mean that they are interested in you. She probably just wrote back to be polite, or maybe she doesn't know what she wants. Either way if she hasn't bothered replying in four ... (read in full...)
Long distance boyfriend is asking for naked pictures, should I trust him?
Q. Hi there friends...I really need your advice.. I have a long distance relationship and know for a year.we don't meet yet and we both christian born again... and I dont want this guy to entertain but he was keep in contact with me even if j don't....
A. 29 September 2017: No please do not send naked pictures to someone you have never met he could be a scammer asking lots off girls this.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mother came over and rearranged our bedroom, I can't find anything!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now and we live together. He is 22 and I’m 20. Let me start off by saying, I think family is super important and I would never want to come between my boyfriend and his family. But it bothers ...
A. 29 September 2017: Wow what a strange mother he has. What she done was not acceptable, and if you do not want her cleaning your apartment then you need to put your foot down. Who cares if she is OCD, she can clean her own house!
Also your boyfriend sounds rude and ... (read in full...)
My past won’t go away, should I talk to him?
Q. Hey aunts! Quick advice please! I post a few years ago asking well venting about my situation. When I was 22 I got pregnant by this guy I was dating and I thought the best decision for me was to have an abortion. At the time the guy ag...
A. 29 September 2017: You don't need to delete facebook or snap chat their is an option to block him from being able to contact you. Don't listen to him or your friends, this is about you and what you went through with him. If you do not want to talk to him then don't. I ... (read in full...)
He is married and will not stop contacting me for sex
Q. I dated this guy that stringed me along for 7 months - through therapy and maturity I realized it was my fault for "wanting to prove him wrong" when he said "I'm afraid of commitment" - I don't want anything serious- him being a ghost for a month ...
A. 29 September 2017: Who says he is not happy? He could very well be happy but sees you as a challenge and wants to hook up. Block his number, not sure why you haven't already. Also why keep looking at his social media, block that as well. It is for your best interest.... (read in full...)
Tough love or does my dad mean it when he says it?
Q. I have a job which I'm not enjoying and parents who flip out at me, I suffer with depression and find that when I'm backed into a corner, I lose my anger and have to defend myself, ive been in trouble with the law, had partners who have cheated on ...
A. 29 September 2017: You sound like a child who has had their toys taken away by mummy and daddy. IF you don't want to follow their rules then get another apartment. Dad probably did mean what he says. If you have depression then get help for it. Stop wallowing on what ... (read in full...)
I went along with planning for a big wedding. Now I don't want it!
Q. Hi I'm getting marrried in a few months and having some serious regrets about the way we've gone about things. We're having quite a fancy wedding with around 100 guests. I thought at the start that a big wedding was what i wanted but now I'm havi...
A. 29 September 2017: Well you are going to upset 100 people if you decide to tell them now that they are not invited. I think it is a bit late to change your mind. Unless off course you call off the wedding completely.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for sex to slow down in long term relationships?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years we were friends with benefits prior to this for 2 years. In the beginning sex was great and frequent and lately has gone to maybe only once a week and has caused some problems in our relationship. ...
A. 29 September 2017: It can be normal yes. But if you are feeling unloved and neglected then talk to her about how you feel. Maybe you can both make more off an effort. Get a babysitter, go on dates, romantic dinners, candle lit glasses of wine in the house. Whatever ... (read in full...)
Its been over with my boyfriend, I'm pregnant by someone else but I'm afraid if I end things he will try and kill himself
Q. I've been trying to end my relationship for the last 8 months without feeling a massive amount of guilt. The situation I'm in has became incredibly messy and I just feel very broken by what has happened over this passed year. I've been with...
A. 29 September 2017: Sweetie that would never be your fault. My guess is he is all talk and nobody who loves you would threaten that and say it would be your fault. He really is a nasty piece off work. While I don't agree with the cheating, it is clear to see you need ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but I feel jealous of the way he treated another woman he liked
Q. My boyfriend lost his job last year and since I have been with him he has been trying to secure work. I'm not with him for money at all and love him for who he is. By his own admittance he had a good job and he liked a particular woman, she didn't ...
A. 29 September 2017: He had money when he bought her the bag. But the comments where insensitive. Tell him you are feeling a bit neglected and see what he has to say. ... (read in full...)
Hard to love a man's children like my own.
Q. I've been dating a man for 7 months. I have no children, he has 2 daughters ages 9 and 7. He doesn't see them very often (once a week) on the weekends. I have spent almost every weekend with him and when he gets them. They are great kids don't get ...
A. 29 September 2017: It sounds like you are not compatible at all. You want a child and he doesn't. That is a deal breaker. He hasn't introduced you to the mother or them as your girlfriend, that is good, he is being responsible. It is to soon to let the children know ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my husband's sexual demands are taking a toll on our marriage
Q. Yesterday my husband came away from a childs party to use his fake vagina, which i never knew he had. I know this will seem like a pathetic reason to be upset but i just cant help feeling insecure and disgusted. Weve been together for over 11 years, ...
A. 29 September 2017: It never seems to be an issue when women use vibrators but as soon as its a man it becomes an issue. Honestly I don't understand what the issue is with it at all if you where not in the mood for sex, it is not like he turned you down for the sex ... (read in full...)
I know I could have an amazing life with mistress but don't want to hurt my wife and children
Q. Hi. I am really confused and need advice. Here goes with a bit of background and my position. I am an almost 49 year old man and have been married for almost 25 years.we have 3 Kids.one of which has now left home. My wife gave up work 17 years ag...
A. 29 September 2017: If you are so unhappy with your wife, and if she is lazy and you do everything while working and providing then leave. Simple as. If she really is taken so much advantage off you go and start your new life. All you done wrong here was have an ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a new friend & he seems to care more about their relationship than ours.
Q. I've been in a relationship for five years, and cheating has never been something I was concerned about. But about six months ago my boyfriend made a new friend through a club at colleg, and they became close friends real quickly. They talk all the ...
A. 29 September 2017: You cannot ask him to stop contacting her completely. Your problem is not her, your problem is that you feel you and him are running out off things to talk about and have things in common. Although I would say that 2 to 3 hours is excessive am ... (read in full...)
My parents don't know about my relationship till I am 18. A parents advice would be nice
Q. I am currently 16 and live in Victoria Australia and my boyfriend is 20 from punjabi india.All aspects of our relationship is legal We have been together for just under a year and my parents don't know i plan on telling them when i am 18 but his ...
A. 28 September 2017: Honey everyone thinks they are mature at 16 but the truth is you are only starting out in life. You should not be lying to your parents, if they flip out it is because you are their teenage girl they love you and want to protect you. It is worrying ... (read in full...)
I feel like leaving my husband how do I change this feeling ?
Q. I need advice, I'm 22 and my husband is 39. We are married one year and have a 6 month old daughter. My husband and I got on well most of the time and he was generally someone I could call my best friend but Lately I have just felt like leaving him. ...
A. 28 September 2017: Even though I think you got married much to young, you still need to realize the importance off a marriage it is meant for life and some people take it to lightly. You need to fight for it. Stand up for yourself do what you like with your own time, ... (read in full...)
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