How can I show him that I'm into him?
Q. okay so, i'm 18 and i went out into town the other night, a couple of people tagged along who i haven't seen since secondary school which is like two years ago. anyway, a guy was there who used to go to my school but i never really used to speak to ...
A. 31 October 2017: Great enjoy getting to know him and just take it slow.... (read in full...)
She strung me along to cancel three times ...
Q. Hello everyone, so about 2 years ago I was in a short film with an actress and we hit it off really well, great chemistry. There was a kissing scene but it wasn't awkward at all. She even suggested "practice kissing" during rehearsal. However, ...
A. 14 September 2017: Thanks for the update OP it is always appreciated when someone updates us how they got on. All the best in the future. ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship yet I find myself attracted to a friend. What to do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now and I love him to death and I can't imagine life without him. When I was living overseas for some time, my elder brother had some room mates and every time we came back to see the house, I obviousl...
A. 13 September 2017: Honestly what kind off guy is he to come away with a statement saying if you get bored message me, he obviously doesn't care about other people and doesn't mind if you cheat or not. It looks like he wants a hook up with you and is not taking it ... (read in full...)
I had a friend check on what he told me and he cut ties with me. Did I do something wrong?
Q. I met a guy online 4 months ago. All along he has been telling me about the particular company he works for and has talked about work at great length because he works really long hours. I have a friend who works for the same company. I told her ...
A. 13 September 2017: First off have you actually ever met this man in real life? You say that you really liked him, but is that possible from over the internet? You could be talking to anyone behind the screen. I don't think you done anything wrong asking him, but if he ... (read in full...)
Angry about my parents divorce.
Q. Long story short, when I was 6 my mom cheated on my Dad with a married man that has 2 kids older than me. Less than a year they both left their spouses for each other. When I grew up my step siblings ignored me like I don't exist. My step dad son ...
A. 13 September 2017: This is a choice that you have to make, but allowing it to build up and eat you up inside is not healthy. Eventually things will get so bad you will need therapy. Do you really need the answers from your mum for closure? I understand that yes she ... (read in full...)
I 'almost' had a relationship, what's going on, s he being cautious?
Q. I am very confused. An "almost relationship" probably best describes what we were. We were close friends prior to any feelings developing. We were not physically intimate, there was a lot of cuddling and closeness when he invited me over. But he ...
A. 13 September 2017: Sweetie he doesn't want to be your boyfriend, he has made that clear. I don't care what lines he uses or what he tries to blame it on, the black and white off the situation is that he does not want a relationship with you. So before getting in ... (read in full...)
Are we dating or are we friends? Long distance friendship with my ex.
Q. Dear cupid, my boyfriend and I have had a 'thing' or more like dated for just over a year. He has moved away from home to go to boarding school and we made the decision that we would stop dating once he left, we also had decided that we were going ...
A. 13 September 2017: You really didn't need to tell him that you kissed someone else it was none off his business you both where broken up. I think if you want to keep in contact with him then fine, but you don't need to share all the details off what you are doing in ... (read in full...)
I'm on the verge of having an affair
Q. Dear Cupid, I am about to start an affair, I'm 30 year old woman, in along term relationship. I've been married for so many years and we have 2 children. I have a stable life, extremely loving husband, too loving he doesn't get the concept ...
A. 13 September 2017: No OP what would destroy your children emotionally is having an affair. If you are tempted now, you will be more so in the future when you become even more miserable and if he catches you he will take your children with him and claim you where the ... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend I'm a virgin but I'm not
Q. I had sex with my partner in April 2016 ...I had sex one time with him and till now I haven't had sex with anyone .. I have a boyfriend to whom I had said that I'm virgin and he is asking for sex so what should I do so to look like that I'm virgin??...
A. 13 September 2017: Sweetie you cannot make yourself look like a virgin. Why did you feel you needed to lie to him about it? You are not married to this guy and he is wanting sex from you, do you love him? If so then be honest with him. I understand that your culture ... (read in full...)
He's the perfect boyfriend .... when his mate isn't around1
Q. Ive met this guy. he is amazing and sweet and just perfect in every way. HOWEVER.. he has this best friend who has very loose morals. when they are together they drink far too much and take drugs. when my boyfriend is not with him he never does dr...
A. 13 September 2017: Maybe his friend is a bad influence but still he is an adult I assume and can make his own decisions. If he wants to do drink and drugs and treat you badly then he can choose to do that. Your choice is weather you want to deal with that in a ... (read in full...)
I often think fondly of my ex but don't want to get back with him
Q. Hi everyone. So I'll start with my ex. He was a lovely guy but there was no sex or passion. we were together a number of years but broke up a while ago now. i was okay. we are 'friends' but don't ever talk. I'm now with a new partner and thin...
A. 13 September 2017: Just because their was no sex or passion does not mean that you did not fall in love with him. Off course it is always hard moving on, but you know in your heart you don't want a romantic relationship with him, so the best thing to do is stay out ... (read in full...)
My mother always gives me such a hard time
Q. Have you ever felt heart ache ? well I have. The feeling of light pain and sour when you're really depressed,and I had one experience for my dying grandma, another one for myself. My mom is a very traditional woman.she always wants me to learn ever...
A. 12 September 2017: OP I had to prepare for my exams and pay all the bills and keep my flat clean as I lived on my own. Can you and your mum have an adult conversation? Maybe tell her your exams coming up are stressing you out and you feel like you have no time to ... (read in full...)
How can I repair the damage done to our friendship?
Q. Hello folks. Just looking for advice. About 2-3months ago I meet a younger guy. I'm 33 he's 24. We met at work. I was between jobs and looking to earn while I looked for something else so found a part time job where I met, I'll call him Tom. I wo...
A. 12 September 2017: Am really not sure you can mend this. It was silly and immature and am sure Tom was absolutely mortified, I know I would be anyway. He may have thought that you and Mary where gossiping about him and that is a horrible feeling. Maybe send him a ... (read in full...)
She says she will leave him for me, but wont say when!
Q. I need some advice. I know that what I am about to say isn’t the best situation or the moral thing to get involved in, but it just happens. Now i fell in love and I don’t know what to do. There are so many parts to this story and I will try to keep ...
A. 12 September 2017: She will never leave him, she is throwing you the same lines that she threw the other man she was having an affair with. He also probably fell in love with her just like you. You are much better out off this situation and meeting some woman who can ... (read in full...)
Now that he's abroad he doesn't contact me at all!
Q. Hi, I'm in a strange "relationship" with my colleague and I don't know what to do..One year ago I've got this new job..when i met with my coworker, it was instant chemistry, he always look at me, trying to contact me..but i heard he's a player s...
A. 12 September 2017: I understand you being sad, but he never saw you as a friend, he saw you as another notch on his bed post. You had a good laugh and a good time because he no doubt is a charmer and knows how to make women feel comfortable and relaxed. It is sad when ... (read in full...)
How do I ask him 'what we are?' Where do you think our relationship stands?
Q. I haven't dated before (own personal choice) so this is new to me. After lot of coaxing, I joined Tinder. I met a guy there and we exchanged numbers after two weeks of casual texting. He makes me laugh, actually cares, puts in effort to meet me, ...
A. 12 September 2017: Sounds like it is going well. However I would avoid asking him this if you have only been on a few dates, this might scare him a bit. I would wait a while longer and just show him that you are interested. ... (read in full...)
Job not how I thought, girlfriend dumping me
Q. I'm having problem at work and I'm not enjoying it currently, ive had time off because of the stress it's caused and my assistant boss doesn't seem to want to leave me alone and he's up my backside every five minutes. I work for a sports company and ...
A. 12 September 2017: Glad to hear that you are cutting down the drink, imagine what it is doing to your liver and body. You are struggling to cope and alcohol is your crutch at the moment, I understand that better than most. But it is not the solution. The solution is ... (read in full...)
If he's not doing anything with his ex then why did he get so mad and ignore me?
Q. Hello I would like to get your opinions on this: I've noticed how ironic it has been in the past 6 months how every time my BF's ex is online (Her Facebook shows she is online), he is also showing online but is unavailable to take my calls. I've bee...
A. 12 September 2017: OP it is time to end this relationship. Take a look at yourself in the mirror, where you always this needy and clingy? Or is it just since the trust has gone? Honestly you need to call it a day with this relationship, the more you stay with him the ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being the other woman and need to break things off but how?
Q. I once met a guy that by just shaking hands with, I forgot my existence, I don't know why or how but before even knowing his name I felt something so strong inside me that made my legs weak. Anyways, I got to know him and you know the rest, I fell ...
A. 8 September 2017: You need to end it and block him from contacting you. He does not love you, if he loved you he would have got divorced and then started a relationship with you. He is with you because you are young and he can take advantage of that. Honestly get out ... (read in full...)
If he doesn't trust me then I can't stay
Q. OK, so i have fucked up..... Multiple times and i obviously haven't learnt my lesson else i wouldn't be in this situation to begin with. Some history: I'm a single mom of a beautiful boy (Almost 3 years old). I left his father as i was no longer ...
A. 8 September 2017: What you done does not warrant what he is doing to you, it is controlling and you need to get out off it now for your sons sake and for your unborn baby. You cannot live your life like this, call your parents and ask them to come and move you home ... (read in full...)
My co-worker is trying to paint me as a bully!
Q. Hi Agony Aunts and Uncles. I work with this girl who is trying to paint me as a Bully. We don't always see eye to eye. She says I pick on her when I have to tell her she is doing something wrong. I don't like being that person. Its because I have a...
A. 6 September 2017: If you are not her boss then you should not be telling her what to do. If you have an issue with things she is doing then go to your own boss and let them know. Honestly it is hard to work with people who tell you what to do and confront you, am ... (read in full...)
Advice please on handling these locals glaring at me!
Q. Hello, this might seem like a silly problem. I am 44 years old and while i can be fiery i have calmed down a lot as i have got older. When i was younger i was very different as a person, fiery and i thought nothing of having casual partners. I ha...
A. 6 September 2017: Let them be, why should you care, look happy that they are showing you attention and don't let them see you upset, that is what they want. Whatever reasons they have they are the immature ones, so you be the bigger person, go and enjoy nights out ... (read in full...)
Should I be honest about kissing my friend, or leave it in the past?
Q. I can't tell if I'm over reacting about this situation and I'd really appreciate some insight. Here's a bit of a back story... Late '16, early '17 I met this guy and we really liked one another to the point where we started developing a sem...
A. 6 September 2017: You told him you kissed someone end off story, he could have asked if he wanted but he choose not to. Now lay it to bed because you will only cause a big fall out if you go stirring the pot.... (read in full...)
I'm starting to overanalyze again, I'm afraid of self sabatoge in my relationship?
Q. Due to me making the wrong choices w/the types of guys I date, I always have doubt of his interest in the back of my mind. My bf came from vacation and I have asked to see him. Before anyone tears me into pieces about him being tired, overwhelmed ...
A. 6 September 2017: Yeah you are over reacting here big time. Give the guy a chance. Am sure he is looking forward to seeing you. Try not over think the little things, they can make you paranoid.... (read in full...)
She suggested a holiday but then didn't raise the topic. She finally said it was too expensive, is this a sign of problems ahead?
Q. My girlfriend suggested we go away a few months ago on a specific date. Since then, shes never raised it - but I have on numerous occasions, offering to book things, asking if she was still interested, or even not wanting to go, and all the time she ...
A. 6 September 2017: Sit down and talk to her about this. It sounds like she was to embarrassed to tell you she could not afford to go. So she kept putting it off. Maybe you could both save and go in a few months time to somewhere nice?... (read in full...)
Am I just hoping for the best and not wanting to accept reality?
Q. Just in a new relationship and he's moved back home to the south of our country (about 200 miles from me). We decided to just see how things go and he definitely asked me to be his. However, he hardly calls. If he does, It has to be before ...
A. 6 September 2017: He is using you and I cannot see why you are not able to see that?! Stop sending him pictures, if they are nude pictures they could end up on the internet have you thought off that? The best thing to do here is to tell him it is over. It won't work ... (read in full...)
How to get off on the right foot with his parents?
Q. Hello! I hope you're doing well today. I met someone new and so did his sibling. He is 30, sibling is 28. It's been on 4 occasions that their parents cater to the sibling's new paramour in my opinion. They initiate conversation with them more than ...
A. 6 September 2017: You just need to try and get involved but also not over do it. Remember it is not a competition between you and the other girl, and maybe the other girl has just clicked with them more, there is nothing wrong with that. Ask your boyfriend for a few ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mother is a bully
Q. At my bf’s family get-togethers, my bf’s mother would rudely tell her husband Tom to shut up if one or two words came out of his mouth. Tom is her 2nd husband and not the father of her children. I was aghast at her treatment of Tom. I think I am the ...
A. 6 September 2017: To be fair I would not get involved. It appears Tom and his Wife are both elderly and in that case am sure they can look after and stick up for themselves. Personally I would not get involved as it might just come in between you and your partner, ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is going a bit too far
Q. I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 15 too We been together for almost 6 month but sometimes when we just kissing and stuff he grabs my butt and stuff but in the beginning I would always take his hands away from my butt but know I kind of got use to it and s...
A. 6 September 2017: His hormones are raging and he wants to explore your body. But you need to be strong and say no, if he doesn't listen get up and leave. No boy should ever push further than what you are comfortable with. If he does keep pushing then he is thinking ... (read in full...)
My fiance refuses to drive 15 minutes to visit me!
Q. I went from single, to now engaged... this took 2 and a half years. But as much as I love her and she is always telling me she loves me I am having some issues... her actions are not lining up with her words. In the past 2.5 years she has co...
A. 6 September 2017: I think this is less about the driving for you and more about her making more off an effort. You work hard, am sure she does to. Do you ever surprise her with dinner? I agree she needs to make more off an effort for you, but you both need to talk. I ... (read in full...)
How do I explain my decision to skip the reunion without bad mouthing the Dean?
Q. When I was in high school (a Catholic school), the Dean of Men was one of the worst people I ever known. He played favorites (if you were one of his favorites, you would never be in trouble no matter what you did but if you were not his favorite, ...
A. 6 September 2017: You don't need to make up an excuse. But are you sure that you want to miss out just because he is there? Surely you could avoid him? Off course the choice is your to make I just find it sad that after all this time you still feel like you need to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has just confessed that he slept with someone else
Q. I'm after some advice, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. I have never doubted our trust or believe he has ever done anything to jeopardise our relationship. Well that's what I thought until this Wednesday he called me down the...
A. 5 September 2017: I honestly cannot see how this would make your relationship stronger, when people say that I don't tend to believe them. It will put a crack in your relationship. Only you can decide if you are able to forgive him and learn to trust him again. I ... (read in full...)
Why won't he be honest?
Q. Why wont he tell me the truth? Me and my ex split in 2013 both are choice. He moved to the north of the midlands. Anyway last yr he got bk in contact with me and since we have met a few times and he's been on weekends away with me and my little on...
A. 5 September 2017: He is lying to you for a reason, if he wanted to be with you he would be honest and trying to make things worse. Don't put you and your little one through this, its not fair on you both. ... (read in full...)
How can I let go of the anger I have toward my parents?
Q. How can I make peace with my absuive childhood? My parents were absuvice verbally and physically towards each other - and raised me in that environments - I cannot remember a day of peace - they are way too judgemetnatl - my father is a man that is ...
A. 5 September 2017: At 31 you should be standing on your own two feet and not free loading from your parents, you should be thankful that even though you have gotten angry with them and called them names they still allow you to live under there roof as a fully grown ... (read in full...)
How do I materialise this online association?
Q. I have been using online dating and started talking to this guy 3 months ago. We quite quickly got to messaging each other everyday. He has a really busy job and when I kept suggesting meeting up he would say he is working late so can't meet and at ...
A. 5 September 2017: Maybe he is only just meeting with you, but if he was interested in something serious he would make more off an effort to arrange a second date! Why don't you set up a date? Show him that you are interested? I think sometimes women forget men need ... (read in full...)
Are there tips to make a man fall for you?
Q. I recently went back into the dating world after a few years in a relationship. I'd like to think that I'm confident and decent looking and guys do want to meet up with me. However on two occasions now I've met a guy in person and he has completely ...
A. 5 September 2017: It is only two dates so try and not let it bother you to much, many people have to go through lots of dates to find the perfect partner. So guy number one am shocked you gave him the time off day after chatting up the waitress, if that was me I ... (read in full...)
How do you start a FWB relationship?
Q. Am told I'm a nice looking (60 yo) guy. I still workout daily. Wife and I separated several years ago and soon will make it a formal divorce. I am interested in a FWB relationship with a younger woman (30s, 40s or 50s). I am pretty shy and not ...
A. 5 September 2017: Unless you are rich and you want to attract a gold digger I would imagine that your chances are slim. Most women who are that age want to have someone who cares about them not just to have sex with them and be a friend. Good luck searching but I ... (read in full...)
Why does every girl that I like want to be "just friends"?
Q. So I m now 29, for the last several years I haven t been able to start or get a relationship. Every girl I ve shown interest in has turned out to be asexual, gay, not interested and only wants to be "friends". In the last 7+ years I ve asked...
A. 5 September 2017: It is impossible to say but it could be a number off reasons. Maybe you come across to needy or clingy. It could be that girls feel intimidated by you or that you make them feel uncomfortable. How do you go around a date? What do you do and what do ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of my husband and his lack of responsibility. Should I ask him to hit the road?
Q. I am a 34 year old female and my husband and I are married for 14 years,we have 3kids aged 12,7 and 5. From the beginning of our marriage i have assisted my husband financially and for a good portion of our marriage have been the sole bread wi...
A. 5 September 2017: It sounds like he puts himself before you and your children. I think you do need to sit down and tell him how you feel. Did you support all these decisions that he made in the past? Or did you try and reason with him? Children need stability and a ... (read in full...)
How can I show him that I'm into him?
Q. okay so, i'm 18 and i went out into town the other night, a couple of people tagged along who i haven't seen since secondary school which is like two years ago. anyway, a guy was there who used to go to my school but i never really used to speak to ...
A. 5 September 2017: If you see him out at the weekend, before getting drunk have a chat with him and ask him for his number? At least then you can see if he is interested or not!... (read in full...)
What's the future for me as the other woman?
Q. I am in a relationship with a wonderful man who I love and he loves me. We are very happy however I am "the other woman", even though our relationship is serious and we've been together for like 3 years, because he's cheated on his current/previous ...
A. 5 September 2017: This is not a serious relationship, surely you can see that? How can it be serious when you are only a bit on the side? You have waited for three years for this guy, are you willing to keep waiting while he goes home to his girlfriends bed at night?... (read in full...)
My wife of 30 years just confessed that she was not a virgin
Q. my wife of 30 years confessed that she was not a virgin when we were married. I was not a virgin when we met and if she had told me before we were married I would have been fine with it. My problem is she made such a big deal of telling me she was ...
A. 5 September 2017: I would find this hard to forgive as well, off course it is going to upset you, it doesn't matter that it was 30 years ago she still lied to you and that is a hard thing to get over. Am not sure what her reasons where, and am even more confused now ... (read in full...)
She strung me along to cancel three times ...
Q. Hello everyone, so about 2 years ago I was in a short film with an actress and we hit it off really well, great chemistry. There was a kissing scene but it wasn't awkward at all. She even suggested "practice kissing" during rehearsal. However, ...
A. 7 July 2017: She seems like she is the flaky type off girl. Maybe she done it to get the attention, or maybe she just puts everything else first. Who knows? But for me I would stop with the contact and leave it there. ... (read in full...)
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