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36-40,
*each1908
writes:I dated this guy that stringed me along for 7 months - through therapy and maturity I realized it was my fault for "wanting to prove him wrong" when he said "I'm afraid of commitment" - I don't want anything serious- him being a ghost for a month and then re- appearing - it took ALOT to stop talking to him - only to find out five months after we stopped talking he was All of a sudden engaged? When I was with him I never saw any signs of women - any signs of anythifn in his apartment- long story short he married this woman - fast forward three years later he is married to this woman . Two weeks ago I get a random text (saying hey I don't know if u remember me how's it going) from him. I decided to respond because sometimes I am vendictive and wanted to string him along like he did with me. He started talking about how he is getting seperated from his wife etc( in social media this plays out to be the opposite) . He asked to meet and I almost wanted to say yes just to stand him up but I decided that "trying to get back to him " won't change anything so I just never responded He hasn't stopped messaging me- he is talking to himself - has send me messages not unsterstandig why I won't respond-I get that this was a blessing in disguise but why be so aggressive now when ur married? Why not leave ur wife if ur not happy? If I'm. Ot happy in something I would leave - why do some people stay?It's so puzzling to me because when we dated he was so cold - the moment the tables have turned he is going nuts mwssaaging me in all social media platformsI don't get this behavior?I also want to say I would never sleep with a married man or entertain the idea I want to know why this action is happening
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 September 2017):
 Who says he is not happy? He could very well be happy but sees you as a challenge and wants to hook up. Block his number, not sure why you haven't already. Also why keep looking at his social media, block that as well. It is for your best interest.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (28 September 2017):
 If you're so bothered by being messaged by this guy then just block him and never speak of him again. Simple. Unless there's a part of you actually thinking of entertaining this married man?!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (27 September 2017):
 Why won't he stop messaging you? Because you haven't blocked him.
You won't move on until you stop allowing him to text you. He's hoping he'll get you to have an affair, so you need to get rid of him from your life - permanently.
Cut all contact and stop trying to figure cheaters out. Make yourself busy with other things and you'll start to move on, so you can find a single man.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 September 2017):
 He doesn't stop texting you because YOU opened the door and let him back in. He presumes that he can manipulate you like he did in the past. That you are pliable and will eventually have sex with him.
If you want him gone (for REAL) tell him to STOP contacting you or you will get in touch with his wife - (don't actually do that but use it as a threat)
OR... lo and behold! YOU simply block his number and perhaps change your own.
From reading your post it doesn't sound like you are entirely over him nor want him gone from your life.THAT is why you didn't tell him to go fly a kite of a cliff but instead started texting him back.....
Look at your own actions before you get so fixated with his. His actions don't matter AT ALL in the bigger picture! YOURS does.
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (27 September 2017):
It's happening because he wants to get with you again. If you're not interested why haven't you told him you know he's married and for him not to contact you again. Then block his number.
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