Do I tell my son she's cheating?
Q. My son's wife is cheating on him. Both she and my son are 29 and have been together for just over 9 years. I received an e-mail about 4 years ago from someone who has sent me evidence that she has been cheating on him for the past 5 or 6 years w...
A. 28 November 2017: I really don't understand as a mother how you could hide this from him, I would be devastated if I was your son.... (read in full...)
I love my long term partner but feel a spark for a coworker!
Q. Hi, i'm in a situation i never thought i'd be and i need advice, because i can't talk about it with anyone..I'm in a longterm relationship (7 years). I love my partner, although i can't deny that our relationship is much of a rutine now. We live ...
A. 2 November 2017: OP you have already cheated on your partner off 7 years, and the only reasons you are not being honest with him are selfish ones. Most people would say they don't want to tell there partner because they don't want to hurt them but your reasons are ... (read in full...)
Am I asking too little of him?
Q. I have posted before and thankfully we solved a little issue in our relationship. This may be hella stupid for me to be resentful of how he treated his ex, but I kind of am. Idk how true this is, I'm only hearing his side of the story, but ...
A. 1 November 2017: OP you have a lot off issues in your relationship, I remember all your other posts, about over thinking things, him not wanting to see you after holidays, him not giving you lifts home, him not texting you enough through the day and now it is how he ... (read in full...)
Should I give it a week? Am I worrying too much for no good cause?
Q. I started chatting with this guy online on Thursday. I messaged him first and thankfully the messages have not stopped since and he has been the one to initiate conversation since the first message. I hate over thinking these situations but I...
A. 1 November 2017: You really are over thinking this, it has not even been a week yet off contacting him and already you are worrying, you need to slow down and enjoy chatting to him. You say he is keen to talk to you so that is a great start, remember to keep things ... (read in full...)
I'm dating someone who has a twin brother and when the brothers and the sister-in-law get together, they make me feel very left out
Q. I have been dating an identical twin for the last 4 years. We have been doing well except when it comes to spending time with his brother and his sister in law. When we are all together, I am always to one that is left out. I always get left out of ...
A. 1 November 2017: I could understand this being a problem early dating but four years in to the relationship and you still feel like this? Honestly am not sure I could have coped with this. Sometimes my husband gets carried away talking about something and forgets I ... (read in full...)
My husband is inefficient and forgetful. How do I deal wth him?
Q. My husband is inefficient, forgetful and I can’t count on him to get things done or remembering schedules. Any advice? Last week, he fixed something at work on Friday and spent the whole day playing games on Saturday. On Saturday evening we were ...
A. 1 November 2017: You are both very young still so if he is truly listening to you and he is really that forgetful then he needs to go to his doctor for a full check up and get this investigated. We all forget things but if he is as chronically bad as this then he ... (read in full...)
My husband ordered diet pills for me!
Q. My husband ordered diet pills for me online without saying anything to me about it first. He said he just wanted to help me because he knows my weight bothers me. I don't know how exactly to feel about this am I wrong that him doing that bothers ...
A. 1 November 2017: Okay so your BMI suggests that you are over weight, do you talk to him about your weight? Is it possible he was genuinely trying to do a good thing for you or do you feel he was telling you that you need to loose weight? Men do tend to do some silly ... (read in full...)
I need to give my wife an ultimatum... Get a better job or lose me
Q. my wife and i are in our mid 20's. we really want to get a house soon but i just dont think its in our budget at all. she has a 4yr degree at a top school and im a laborer. im making $25+/hr with no student loans and shes making $14/hr with $95,...
A. 1 November 2017: I really don't think it is a great idea giving her an ultimatum all that will achieve is hurt and anger and possibly break you both up. I can understand why this would stress you out, but please take a moment to think positive and how lucky you are ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my son she's cheating?
Q. My son's wife is cheating on him. Both she and my son are 29 and have been together for just over 9 years. I received an e-mail about 4 years ago from someone who has sent me evidence that she has been cheating on him for the past 5 or 6 years w...
A. 1 November 2017: I honestly am shocked you could keep this from your son for four years. My guess is when he finds out not only is he going to be heartbroken but he is going to feel betrayed by his own mother. The poor man deserves to know the truth, and as your son ... (read in full...)
Still not comfortable with my sexuality
Q. Hey all! Forgive me from the beginning if I am over graphical! I've known, and accepted that I am attractive to my own gender in a sexual way for years now. I identify as bisexual, but in private. Anyway I really come with 2 separate questions. I...
A. 1 November 2017: I wouldn't worry about labeling your sexuality, it is not black and white and not everyone feels the same just because they are attracted to both sexes. I get why you probably feel frustrated and confused. But only you can decide how to move forward ... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a separated man but don't like some of his actions. Advice?
Q. Hello, I recently joined a dating site, and I found someone I know, I actually was at his wedding. But his currently separated from his wife of 2 years and has 2 kids with her. At first I contacted him and told him that I know him and that I was at ...
A. 1 November 2017: I don't think he is immature, I just think he is just out off a failed marriage and by the sounds off it he is still recovering from that but yet would like to meet women to fulfill his sexual needs. To be fair it doesn't sound like either off you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend lost feelings for me - is it her depression?
Q. Hi there. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I will try and be informative but brief! Myself and my partner (now ex) couldn’t be more perfect for each other. We were together just under a year and our relationship was great. We rarely...
A. 31 October 2017: Can you arrange with the step mum or her dad to come and collect your stuff when she is out at work? No contact might be the best solution for you both at the moment. It could be her depression or it could be she is just unhappy in general and the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says his phone was hacked. I don't believe him.
Q. I recently found pictures of my significant other in his phone along with seeing him on website called backpage. I viewed his history and found him looking up girls in different areas. He denied taking those pictures in my bed from not even less ...
A. 31 October 2017: Sweetie I am so sorry that you are going through this at the moment, it must be very hard for you. I think you know deep down the only way forward is to end things with him. Now I know that this is hard as am sure you love him, but he is not ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my online guy friend that I won't be able to keep talking to him every night when I move in with my boyfriend?
Q. So to give you a little bit of context - I've been talking with this guy over the phone for a little over a year (we met online) - Let's call him James. He lives in the US and I am in Canada. We used to talk dirty to each other over the phone during ...
A. 31 October 2017: If you want a proper relationship with Anthony then stop lying to him and start telling him the truth. Don't move in with someone until you can be completely honest with them. Surely if James is just a friend then you can both still communicate with ... (read in full...)
Can I believe him after just 2 months?
Q. I am from Palestine and currently living in Jordan. so I met a turkish guy at a resort 2 months ago, and we started talking and liked each other, and I kept talking to him even after going back to palestine. He then started telling me that he wants ...
A. 31 October 2017: Talk to your family and allow them to look out for you. It is much to soon to be talking about marriage, you barely know each other. You need to spend more time with him and get to know his family and he yours until you feel more comfortable. ... (read in full...)
How do I lay my cards on the table? He wants to go into the Navy but I think he's missing a good thing in us!
Q. Hi. I'm sorry for the long email - but I feel like I need to get loads of details into this to give afull picture. Here's my story: I'm a 25-year-old woman who struggles to meet guys that I'm attracted to and have a really great connection with....
A. 31 October 2017: Hi OP off course you will have better luck, you just need to remember that a guy should treat you well and don't settle for anything less. You are only young OP so enjoy your youth. ... (read in full...)
How can I show him that I'm into him?
Q. okay so, i'm 18 and i went out into town the other night, a couple of people tagged along who i haven't seen since secondary school which is like two years ago. anyway, a guy was there who used to go to my school but i never really used to speak to ...
A. 31 October 2017: Great enjoy getting to know him and just take it slow.... (read in full...)
I can't bear to let him near me since I discovered he is still watching porn!
Q. During our recent holiday, my partner and i were in our room and i decided to have a shower. To my surprise i saw my partner change channel on the tv to a porn channel! I could see the tv reflection in bathroom mirror...i alerted him to the fact i ...
A. 27 October 2017: I am sorry anon female but I have to disagree with you. You cannot pin men watching porn as degrading just because abusers may or may not have used it. At the end off the day I know plenty off women who watch porn and you have no right to say it is ... (read in full...)
How do I end a FWB relationship and just be friends?
Q. How do I end a friends with benefits thing? I'm 18 and he's 21 and we were friends for about a year and a half before we started sleeping together basically, and he took my virginity. There was a point before we had sex where I thought I had ...
A. 27 October 2017: Tell him the truth. It is obvious there is no feelings between you both it is just sex and nothing more. So be honest with him, tell him you still want to be friends with him but you have met someone and you want to stop the FWB arrangement.... (read in full...)
How do I explain to my fiance that I want to go out dressed up as a female without hurting her feelings?
Q. I'm engaged to a wonderful girl. I've always considered myself a female in my heart. I have been crossdressing secretly in the past but I can't anymore. I really want to go out and be feminine once in a while. I explained my fiancee my situation. I ...
A. 27 October 2017: I don't think your fiance wants to see your dressed as a woman and that is what might make this situation very difficult for you both.
Taking your partner out off the equation for a moment you need to work on your life and what and who you want... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't trust that I love him. Its getting old
Q. i grew up with my husband as teenagers when we were 16 he moved away.i never saw him for about 37 years , we both had spouses and children but seperated, when we met after all those years we fell for each other very quick got married 3 1/2 years ...
A. 27 October 2017: He is insecure and has low confidence, it seems he can't believe his luck that you love him. As cute as that is off course it is going to be draining and upsetting for you to have to keep reassuring him.
He obviously has issues from his past, do y... (read in full...)
What is my best course to date my cousin?
Q. I’m in love with my cousin. We haven’t seen each other in 3 years her mom is my aunt and she has been going through a custody battle but she finally won. Anyway, when we were younger we would swim together and I was ten she was 9 and she would flash ...
A. 27 October 2017: How do you know you are in love with her if you have not seen her in three years? What use did when you where both younger was children having INNOCENT fun, there was nothing sexual about it and should not be seen as sexual now considering you where ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong if I want to be a housewife and not work for a living?
Q. Hi , is it wrong to wants to be housewife? I want to get marry and want to have kids. I don’t think I will be able to work. Since, I am taking care of my elderly mom and I am going to have kids as well. I want to be housewife. Is it wrong to think ...
A. 27 October 2017: No it is not wrong if that is what you want to do with your life. We all have different goals and wants in life. However I do feel that you are looking ahead in to the future and worrying about things that you don't need to worry about at the ... (read in full...)
How can I live down my mistakes?
Q. My wife is upset with me due to my past mistakes that I didn't remember??? I love my wife! My family and my friends have told her about my past mistakes and she won't let me live those mistakes down! I have also lied to her about some of my past, ...
A. 27 October 2017: It is really hard to offer you advice when you don't tell us what you have done in the past that you have lied about? Talk to your wife and tell her the truth and why you lied to her. It really is her choice if she wants to forgive you and move on ... (read in full...)
Finding my move to a small town difficult
Q. I moved from the city to a very small town on the other side of the country. I know no one from this town and I find adjusting to "small" town harder then I thought. I've been here for three months and I have heard more stories about "me" then I ...
A. 27 October 2017: It can be hard to fit in anywhere but small towns are harder because most people already know each other. Just be friendly and approachable. Ask people questions and make an effort to get to know them. Ask people about the town and the history off ... (read in full...)
I want to help my friend but how?
Q. I’m in a bit of a pickle, dear Aunts and Uncles! I wish I could tell a friend of mine something that very much concerns her, but I’m afraid it may really hurt her and maybe force her to do something she otherwise wouldn’t. I know that she has pro...
A. 27 October 2017: Your friend obviously lacks in self confidence and she tries to cover it up and go for men that she cannot have. You could have a word with her but if I am being honest I don't think it would go down well with her at all. Am sure she knows rightly ... (read in full...)
Is this the wrong time to have a baby?
Q. Hello,n I'm currently living with my parents as I've just graduated and it's quite crowded, I've also just found out I'm pregnant. My boyfriend lives 100 miles away but has said if I choose to keep it he will move down and get a part time job al...
A. 26 October 2017: Okay so you are still young at 21, but I wouldn't say to young to be a mother, there are plenty mothers who are younger than you. First off you are pregnant and there is a baby growing inside you so you need to decide what is best for you. Can you ... (read in full...)
I want marriage and emmigration with him. How do I approach this?
Q. I have been dating this man that I love for a year now. I do not get (on) very well with my family, nor am I adapting too well with in my country and culture. My boyfriend is English and he is working here until summer 2018 then leaving. I wan...
A. 26 October 2017: Do not approach him with marriage as it has only been a year and it may scare him. But do be honest with him. You love him, you have been together a year now, so I am sure you can both talk about your future. Summer 2018 is not to far away so you ... (read in full...)
I would like to try sex with him - secretly
Q. My question is I met this guy, a friend of a friend, am a virgin, I would like to have sex with him. Should I ask my friend to ask him, or should I ask him? I would only like fwb. I have fantasy's. am not gay. I wouldn't want this to get out....
A. 26 October 2017: Are you really in your late 30s? You sound like someone who is just a young adult exploring and not knowing where to turn to?
Anyway you have met a guy great. If you would like to have sex with him then firstly you should ask him how he feels abou... (read in full...)
I want a relationship with her! What should I do?
Q. Help! I've been asked by a lady friend to join her to a play this Saturday. I like her and my gut tells me the feeling is mutual. I want a relationship with this woman. What must I do to make my intentions clear? Do I take her to dinner after th...
A. 26 October 2017: Well all the signs are looking good, you like her, she asks you out to see a play with her and you also feel she likes you. So we just need to get the ball rolling. Ask her does she want dinner or drinks before or after the play and most off all ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took small amounts of money from my purse! What should I do?
Q. I was dating a guy for 3 months, who I love, and knew was broke/unemployed. 2 weeks ago, $15.00 was missing from my wallet. I thought I miscounted, so the next time he came over I took a pic of my wallet, so I knew for sure. $20.00 went miss...
A. 26 October 2017: I understand that you are hurting at the moment because you really like this guy and you don't want to loose him. But you need to be honest with yourself here. Can you honestly forgive him for stealing off you and then not bothering to apologize ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is being too needy, is it unhealthy?
Q. How often is too often to see your significant other? In the last few relationships I’ve felt burned out too quickly from them and I think it’s a problem I’m having with myself. I’m dating a girl now and have been for the last year. She does e...
A. 26 October 2017: Everyone is different and has different needs. She obviously needs a lot from a relationship while you need your own space, nobody is right or wrong you are both just different. Personally I can see where you are coming from because I love my own ... (read in full...)
He's changed how the trip expenses will be split!
Q. So, I'm in a relatively new relationship.....we met in June but things have gotten more serious in the past 2 months where we now are exclusive......he's been talking about an event he wants to attend in the big apple in december and so we've been ...
A. 25 October 2017: Women do not usually earn less than men in this country, am not sure where about in the world you are based, but remember it is not the same everywhere. In actual fact I earn more than my Husband. I feel if a woman wants equal rights then surely ... (read in full...)
Haunted by the past and now I'm expecting
Q. Hey, my name is Nancy, I'm 22 years old. I don’t know how to make this story short, but here we go Man, I've been feeling really depressed since early this year, my mental stability was ruined the day I accidentally found my husband's sex tape wit...
A. 25 October 2017: Nancy surely you must have some friends or family somewhere that can help you here?... (read in full...)
My ex hasn't told me his wife is filing for divorce
Q. I've been seeing ex for some time. Yes, I know it's wrong it's a long story. anyway, his now wife is filing for divorce but he hasn't told me. heard from mutual friend. why would he not mention this?...
A. 25 October 2017: I do really hope that you are not considering taking him back after all off this. You should never be someone else's second best.... (read in full...)
How do I handle this meeting with him after the news that he's trying to reconcile with his ex in Italy!
Q. I met an Italian guy recently. We talked on-line for a few weeks. Then he was in Italy for a month. We met when he came back. I was a little suspicious as to why such a long holiday in Italy as he has no children or parents. We met for the...
A. 25 October 2017: If he had any respect for you though he would not be trying to patch things up with his ex and yet he is. I can tell by your response that he is going to be able to talk you around to his way off thinking. Good luck, because you will need it. You ... (read in full...)
How did I get involved in their drama?
Q. Well I'm feeling kind of embarrassed. I reach out to my old friends probably once a year. I reached out to who seemed like a little brother because his parents were like surrogates to me for 6 years. He never saves my number so I said can you save ...
A. 25 October 2017: You didn't do anything wrong so don't blame yourself. Whatever is happening in there marriage it has nothing to do with you. If they have trust issues or disagreements again not your fault. Maybe he likes to make her think that other women are ... (read in full...)
Guys, do you miss the other woman if the affair ends suddenly?
Q. Guys, do you miss your mistress when your affair ended suddenly. I just ended my affair with a married man. Without stating the reason why. I know it’s wrong to be in love with him. So please spare me all the nasty comments. I feel kinda ...
A. 25 October 2017: Nobody can read this mans mind or tell you if he misses you or not, but from your post it sounds to me like you have had a lucky escape. He lies to you, he lies to his wife, and who knows who else he is lying to. He is a selfish man who is playing ... (read in full...)
Do I need to' know' he is the one?
Q. I’m 29. My parter is 10 years older. We’ve been together 5 years. I love him; he loves me and everything is great. I just want to know what people think of soul mates? Or when people say ‘when you know, you know’ i guess i just know that our re...
A. 25 October 2017: Look to your future, do you see him as part off it or do you see something else? It really is as simple as that. Don't put your life on hold because people say you get a feeling or that you should know. If it was as simple as that then there would ... (read in full...)
Just a kiss but what should I do now?
Q. Hi, So I've recently been partying a lot more, fairly common for someone my age. Anyway, last night, I got very very drunk and ended up kissing a boy. Now this may seem like a really silly question but my issue is that I can't stop thinking...
A. 25 October 2017: If you are looking for a boyfriend then rule number one don't kiss while being drunk. Following each other on social media doesn't mean anything. He may remember you he may not. If you want to take things further with him then write him a message ... (read in full...)
Why am I settling for second best?
Q. Hello people, I'm the type of person who keeps to himself a lot. I'm not unhappy because the perks of being outgoing don't really appeal to me much...I have very few friends and I feel uncomfortable around them too if I have to hang around for too ...
A. 25 October 2017: Do you have family or friends that you can talk to? It sounds to me like you have to much time to think things through and that is what makes you obsessive? Do you have any other signs off anxiety or worry? Talking to someone might make you feel ... (read in full...)
I found out my husband went for an adult massage before we married
Q. I just checked my husband phone and found out that he went to adult massage before we marry 2 months back. His friend asked him to join last week and he rejected it as he said hes broke now. Yes he is financially unstable now as he loss some from ...
A. 24 October 2017: It is normal? No I don't think it is normal and if I found out my husband had been to one and did not tell me I would consider it cheating and I would divorce him. To me trust is a big thing in my marriage, I trust my husband and if he broke that ... (read in full...)
He's changed how the trip expenses will be split!
Q. So, I'm in a relatively new relationship.....we met in June but things have gotten more serious in the past 2 months where we now are exclusive......he's been talking about an event he wants to attend in the big apple in december and so we've been ...
A. 24 October 2017: I don't understand why you wouldn't just ask him in the moment and say you thought all you had to pay for was the event ticket? Communication is a HUGE part in a relationship and it sounds like it is lacking in yours. Why not just ask him and then ... (read in full...)
Haunted by the past and now I'm expecting
Q. Hey, my name is Nancy, I'm 22 years old. I don’t know how to make this story short, but here we go Man, I've been feeling really depressed since early this year, my mental stability was ruined the day I accidentally found my husband's sex tape wit...
A. 20 October 2017: OP have you actually asked your husband any off these questions instead off asking a bunch off strangers? Everyone has a past and it was an invasion of privacy in to his the moment you watched that video. I assume he was single at the time so it ... (read in full...)
How do I lay my cards on the table? He wants to go into the Navy but I think he's missing a good thing in us!
Q. Hi. I'm sorry for the long email - but I feel like I need to get loads of details into this to give afull picture. Here's my story: I'm a 25-year-old woman who struggles to meet guys that I'm attracted to and have a really great connection with....
A. 20 October 2017: I am sorry OP but if he wanted to be with you he would be. He is not scared off commitment, if he was he never would have been in a relationship for years. He simply does not see you as a long term partner. I am sorry but if he did, he would fight ... (read in full...)
My ex hasn't told me his wife is filing for divorce
Q. I've been seeing ex for some time. Yes, I know it's wrong it's a long story. anyway, his now wife is filing for divorce but he hasn't told me. heard from mutual friend. why would he not mention this?...
A. 19 October 2017: It could be possible that he has a few mistresses and he is keeping his options open. Or it could mean he just sees you as a fling and doesn't want you getting your hopes up. Either way if you end up in a relationship with him I really don't know ... (read in full...)
I can't bear to let him near me since I discovered he is still watching porn!
Q. During our recent holiday, my partner and i were in our room and i decided to have a shower. To my surprise i saw my partner change channel on the tv to a porn channel! I could see the tv reflection in bathroom mirror...i alerted him to the fact i ...
A. 18 October 2017: You can sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel, but he is a adult and if he wants to watch porn then nothing is stopping him. You should not change who he is. It does not mean he is cheating on you it would be absurd to think that. But ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this meeting with him after the news that he's trying to reconcile with his ex in Italy!
Q. I met an Italian guy recently. We talked on-line for a few weeks. Then he was in Italy for a month. We met when he came back. I was a little suspicious as to why such a long holiday in Italy as he has no children or parents. We met for the...
A. 13 October 2017: It sounds to me like you where his rebound. If he is wanting to work things out with his ex then it is clear he is not over her. Honestly I think for your own sake it would be best not to meet up with him. It sounds like he is the sort off guy that ... (read in full...)
How can I show him that I'm into him?
Q. okay so, i'm 18 and i went out into town the other night, a couple of people tagged along who i haven't seen since secondary school which is like two years ago. anyway, a guy was there who used to go to my school but i never really used to speak to ...
A. 5 September 2017: If you see him out at the weekend, before getting drunk have a chat with him and ask him for his number? At least then you can see if he is interested or not!... (read in full...)
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