How do I handle this meeting with him after the news that he's trying to reconcile with his ex in Italy!
Q. I met an Italian guy recently. We talked on-line for a few weeks. Then he was in Italy for a month. We met when he came back. I was a little suspicious as to why such a long holiday in Italy as he has no children or parents. We met for the...
A. 25 October 2017: If he had any respect for you though he would not be trying to patch things up with his ex and yet he is. I can tell by your response that he is going to be able to talk you around to his way off thinking. Good luck, because you will need it. You ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend want to delete his exes from facebook?
Q. Why doesnt my boyfriend want to delete his exes from fb? Hes sayin that they r just friends and their break up were amicable but i notice a constant interest of them on his posts and messenger and also hints and subliminal comments One of them ...
A. 23 October 2017: OP just because you are in a relationship with someone doesn't mean you need to give up your privacy. That is why trust is so important in a relationship, without it the relationship does not work because people are paranoid or want there partner to ... (read in full...)
She cheated twice! Will her boyfriend ever accept her or trust her again?
Q. There is this girl dating someone she really love this guy and this guy also love her but she later cheat ,she went to have sex with her ex but she no longer love her ex and her current boyfriend found about it he was mad according to him he said ...
A. 18 October 2017: It will take a lot for the guy to trust her again. If she loved him like she said she did then she never would have slept with her ex while in a relationship. I think the girl should take some time to be single and learn to be happy on her own. It ... (read in full...)
Is it a good sign that he told her?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I wanted to know what your opinion was on this. My new boyfriend of a month has a huge circle of friends and he's pretty well loved by people as the "nice" guy/good guy. Yesterday he told me he spoke to this girl and told her...
A. 18 October 2017: If he is known as a good guy then I am guessing he was just letting her know. If she does like him then friends probably won't work for them both as she will end up hurting. He is setting her right so I would trust him with this one, if she steps to ... (read in full...)
Men don't see me as dating material - why?
Q. Hi, you know how people like to use the term "friendzone" in situations when girls only see guys as friends? Well, i'm the opposite. I'm a 25 yo girl and find that most guys see me as a buddy or undateable. I've gone on dates with guys but nothing ...
A. 18 October 2017: Don't change for anyone, because if you pretend to be someone you are not then you will be building things on a lie. It could be a million things why you are being friend zoned but the good thing to remember is that they want to be your friend so ... (read in full...)
Why can I not see things how they are?
Q. Why can’t I get over this crush? This guy I’ve fancied for 3 years now, his done my head in. I’ve never had such deep feelings for someone before, this guy matches me banter wise, future hope, likes and he just feels right! We’ve spoke on ...
A. 18 October 2017: Why not update your other post instead off writing the same post twice? We are all here to help everyone, we already have saw your post so update there so that we can give you further advice, you are obsessing with this guy and it is not healthy, ... (read in full...)
Torn between my man and my family
Q. I understand that this is a difficult topic for strangers to give me advice on, but worth a try. I came on holiday to Australia from England 4 years ago and met a man. Being only 25 at the time i took the 'go with the flow approach' and we have had...
A. 18 October 2017: Only you can make this decision am afraid. All I can say is if you really saw your future with him then you would happily stay in Australia and make yearly visits home. Lots off children up root and move and start there own family. As Denizen said ... (read in full...)
My friend was in town and didn't tell me
Q. A few months after a bad breakup, I reached out to my high school prom date who I'd always had a crush on. I suspected it may be mutual. We began talking and flirting regularly. He visited me once and I visited him once, as we live several hou...
A. 18 October 2017: Take this as a learning curve. If you want a relationship and a guy doesn't then be honest with them. The only person that you are hurting by lying is yourself. This guy is pretty happy, he got what he wanted and that was you travelling all the way ... (read in full...)
I just cannot get over him
Q. Why can’t I get over this crush? This guy I’ve fancied for 3 years now, his done my head in. I’ve never had such deep feelings for someone before, this guy matches me banter wise, future hope, likes and he just feels right! We’ve spoke on ...
A. 17 October 2017: You are not in love with this man, you are in love with the idea off being coupled up with him. You have spoke online with him for so long now that the idea off him as become part off your life. He may not be cat fishing you, but he has no interest ... (read in full...)
My husband and I feel trapped and it's taking a toll on our health
Q. I feel that my husband an I are both unhappy and have been for a while. I don't think that we are dissatisfied with each other and our marriage per se, but the difficult situation we have been living in for over a decade has taken its toll and we ...
A. 17 October 2017: What jobs do you guys love? I mean who is stopping you both trying to achieve what you want? Living in the city is expensive, and for what? If you want to be in the country then go and be in the country. There are plenty off options to choose from ... (read in full...)
My 'best friend' isn't much of a friend at all
Q. I have had a friend for about 30 years. We met as small children and have been "best friends" since. She has actually been fake and shady toward me since childhood. She would treat me differently depending on who was around. I was not strong ...
A. 17 October 2017: I do hope OP that you find the strength to walk away from her, it does not need to be public just because off Social Media. Stay strong and stop allowing her to use and abuse you as a friend.... (read in full...)
My ex, who has a new girlfriend, has just contaced me out of the blue
Q. My ex and I split up a year ago and the other day he contacted me out of the blue to say he was sorry about how things ended between us. He wants to meet up next month so I said ok. He has been talking to me very strange though, he has said that...
A. 17 October 2017: It took him a year to apologize? I bet he hasn't spent the whole year building up to this! My bet is he is bored and wants to meet up with you to see how far you will go. My advice would be not to meet up with him and ask him not to contact you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend brings up his ex girlfriend
Q. I went to a high school reunion this past summer. While there, I met a man who I really didn't talk to much in high school. We kind of hit it off, and for the past 2 months, we have been dating and getting to know each other. My question is abou...
A. 17 October 2017: I think you should talk to him. I mean you are both in your 50s so surely you have had a lot off life experience and can talk openly to each other? Be honest with him and tell him how you feel about it, explain what happened with your ex and how ... (read in full...)
My brother's wedding showed me how regretable mine was
Q. Jealous of Sister In Laws Family Hi community. I just attended my brothers wedding and it was amazing! Such a great day with lovely speeches and an amazing vibe. I got married two months ago and looking at both I'm so jealous of my sister in l...
A. 17 October 2017: Glad you are taking the good advice because so many people get lost on what a wedding really means. We had no help with our wedding from parents, and even if they offered we still would have kindly declined because we are both adults who wanted to ... (read in full...)
We exchanged numbers but now I'm turned off by him
Q. I haven't been out in the dating world for a long time. Recently I have been chatting here and there with a guy doing construction at my place of work, seemed like a nice guy, cute, I felt comfortable talking with him. So he asked me for my phone...
A. 17 October 2017: It sounds like he wants a quick fumble, that would turn me off as well. You are not old, and at your age you should be treated with the up most respect from a man. ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with the father of my children
Q. Almost 50 and extremely horny. All I want is to have sex with the father of my children. We haven't been together for over 12 years. We broke up because he hooked up with best friend and things havent been the same. Getting back together isn...
A. 17 October 2017: You will never allow another man in to your life if you keep comparing him to your ex and fantasizing about him. You are old enough to have no strings attached sex if that is what you want, but it will no doubt stop you from moving on. ... (read in full...)
Is my friend's sister not interested? Or is she just forgetful and not very organised like her brother?
Q. Hey all, I'm in a situation that I'm unsure how to judge. Basically randomly one night, I ended up sleeping with one of my very good friends sisters. We have never really spoke previous to that time and it was a bit of a whirlwind how it all ha...
A. 17 October 2017: Great news, thanks for the follow up.... (read in full...)
Its bothering me that my g/f shows more interest in my friend than me
Q. Something is really bugging me. My gf has been really stressed over last few days over little things and it can lead to argument. This isn’t serious because we both know it’s no ones fault. For example if we are going out she is throwing clothes, ...
A. 13 October 2017: Honestly OP are you sure this guy is a real friend? If he is always looking for a way to put you down then he does not care about you, and if that is the case you might be much happier away from him completely.
As for your girlfriend are you sure... (read in full...)
I don't know where I stand and I'm not sure if I should ask?
Q. Why would he vacation a week with me separate rooms Send flirting texts apologize when he is busy due to work military and then contact again repeated pattern... I don’t know where I stand and I’m unsure if I should ask?!! We haven had face to ...
A. 13 October 2017: Why have you not spoke to him and asked him where you stand? He is the only one with the answer to that question. ... (read in full...)
She has gone off sex and I'm worried I'll lose her!
Q. I have a girlfriend i am 66 years old and she is 46 years old we have been together 4 years but this last 6 months she has went off sex she says she do not care she has sex or not i am getting wor...
A. 13 October 2017: Has it occurred to you that she may be going through the menopause which effects her libido? It is sad at your age that you associate no sex with she must be getting it somewhere else. Where is your trust in her? If you think that just because she ... (read in full...)
How to tell him I don't want children?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years, he is 32 and I am 24. We are moving in together in a few months (into his house), but I am worried about out future- I don't want to have children. I have several reasons for the fact...
A. 13 October 2017: Be honest with him before you move in with him. It is the kindest thing to do. I understand you want to spend your life with him and don't want to break up. But you need to be honest with him that you are not going to change your mind so that he ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling with wanting more attention from him through texts!
Q. So I have posted about this previously, but I’m starting to get that feeling of neglect again. I feel terrible as I know my bf is working very hard and I hate asking him for more attention. The situation hit a breaking point a couple weeks ago, he ...
A. 13 October 2017: I remember your other posts. Again you are going to loose him if you keep demanding his attention. Some people are glad off being able to spend every weekend with there other half. He has made it clear that he is busy during the week if you cannot ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this meeting with him after the news that he's trying to reconcile with his ex in Italy!
Q. I met an Italian guy recently. We talked on-line for a few weeks. Then he was in Italy for a month. We met when he came back. I was a little suspicious as to why such a long holiday in Italy as he has no children or parents. We met for the...
A. 13 October 2017: It sounds to me like you where his rebound. If he is wanting to work things out with his ex then it is clear he is not over her. Honestly I think for your own sake it would be best not to meet up with him. It sounds like he is the sort off guy that ... (read in full...)
My mother in law is an egoist and evil woman!
Q. I hate my mother in law. She is an egoist and evil woman. She is a cynist and speak badly about me behind my back. She keep posing a sullen face whenever im around. She used to be nice woman several years ago. But since this recent year, she changed ...
A. 13 October 2017: I remember your last question where it seemed you where jealous that she treats her daughters better than you and that they give her more money than there son yet he refuses to ask them for money.
If she treats you as bad as you say she does then... (read in full...)
He has kept in touch, but I thought he only wanted sex.
Q. Hi there! So i went on a date a few months ago with a lovely giy who i knew from primary school who just happens to now have his own tv series. We went out for a drink, had a lovely time. Then the next week he drove 3 hours to see his father (...
A. 13 October 2017: It sounds to me like he just wants something casual, if he was more serious surely he would make more off an effort than texting every couple off weeks? Also if after two dates use are making promises to have sex then it sounds to me like a hook up, ... (read in full...)
It was going great and now she has stopped responding ... I guess its over!
Q. Hello everyone! A few months ago I started exchanging Facebook messages with a girl I knew in high school about ten years ago. I'm 30 and she's 29. Things went really well and she agreed to meet up as soon as we could (she was moving back to h...
A. 13 October 2017: What I don't understand is if you saw a post that suggested she had a boyfriend, why not ask her if she was single? Am guessing you wanted to pretend she was single. Honestly it could be she just wanted to catch up with an old friend, and now she ... (read in full...)
Do any girls here go to bars alone?
Q. I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and the feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make ...
A. 13 October 2017: Why don't you socialize more with people in your class? If you are at college then surely you share the same interests as some in your class? Also is there not social groups and events at the college that you can attend? Learn to smile more and be ... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife have a young lover since I can't perform as I once did?
Q. My wife (aged 55)and very attractive, and I have been married for 24 years and over the last 3 years I (aged 57) have had trouble maintaining an erection during sex, I have tried all the usual medications but I get side effects from them, so I have ...
A. 13 October 2017: Personally I would never agree to this. As a woman if my husband had the issues that you do I would still pleasure him and vice versa. Passion is not all about penetrative sex. Honestly I think you and your wife need to sit down and talk. Why does ... (read in full...)
My ex cheated on me, it took me 2 years to get over him and now he wants to try again
Q. At what point can you be sure you have forgiven someone for hurting you, and take them back? 3 years ago my then boyfriend of nearly 2 years left me for someone else. It took me a long time to get over it, but I did. I never really forgot he...
A. 12 October 2017: Sweetie don't fall for his charm again. What a lame excuse he is using saying it was a death that caused him to cheat, grief should have pulled him closer to you, not in to another woman's bed. If you forgive him once he will think you will keep on ... (read in full...)
Does this age gap between us matter?
Q. I am 27years old and the love of my life d one I wanted to marry is 37years old by age.we both love each other so dearly and he is a man every woman would wanted as a husband because he has d attribute he is loving,caring,calm,hard work and lastly ...
A. 12 October 2017: No the age gap does not matter as you are both adults and therefore it is up to the both off you how you want to spend your life. I don't think ten years is to much when you are both old enough to know what use want. Don't listen to your family, am ... (read in full...)
The man I am dating doesn't believe in kissing and affection
Q. I am seeing a guy who when I asked says he doesn’t do kissing and affection. I was widowed 9 years ago and this is the first since. I really like this guy but not sure about not kissing although the sex is great. I told him I kind of fell ...
A. 12 October 2017: If he makes you feel like a prostitute then he is not the man for you. If you want sex then great, but it sounds to me like you want more and he is not prepared to give you any more. If he doesn't show you affection or won't even kiss you then it ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend want to delete his exes from facebook?
Q. Why doesnt my boyfriend want to delete his exes from fb? Hes sayin that they r just friends and their break up were amicable but i notice a constant interest of them on his posts and messenger and also hints and subliminal comments One of them ...
A. 12 October 2017: My guess is this relationship wasn't for you if you broke up with him. I hope you will be much happier in the future. ... (read in full...)
Was my colleague right to feel left out?
Q. After opinions here.. A colleague A, has recently been off work sick for 3 1/2 weeks with tthe flu, most of us knew she was off, managers and some of us knew why. Shes a good worker, like us all! No different. She returned this week. As soon as...
A. 11 October 2017: I get why she probably felt a bit upset, but honestly having the flu and under going surgery is two very different cases. The surgery has been planned and well am sure the people suggesting flowers where not doing it to hurt the woman who had the ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend want to delete his exes from facebook?
Q. Why doesnt my boyfriend want to delete his exes from fb? Hes sayin that they r just friends and their break up were amicable but i notice a constant interest of them on his posts and messenger and also hints and subliminal comments One of them ...
A. 11 October 2017: I wouldn't like restriction or control either in a relationship. My husband would never dream off looking at my phone and vice versa because we trust each other. My exes have wrote to me in the past and I have always told my husband. But he couldn't ... (read in full...)
I think I deserve better. I'm pushing too hard to make this relationship work?
Q. Hi all, Ive been dating this guy for the past 4-5 months. He's very different from my part relationships. I had a bad pattern to go for unavailable men but I changed it consciously. My relationship is going well with this person and there were a...
A. 11 October 2017: If you feel you deserve better then this relationship is not going to work because you are not going to respect him as a person. If you truly loved him and wanted to be with him you would accept his worries and try and reassure him that long ... (read in full...)
I think my straight friends has feelings for me. What shall I do?
Q. my straight friend is giving weired signals and i am really confused regarding 6 months back i went to a shop where i met this guy for the 1st time and almost on my 2nd or 3rd visit we became friends. In another 1 months we became good frie...
A. 11 October 2017: Are you married with children? If you are then I would stay away from him as am sure you don't want to lie and cheat to your family. If I picked that piece u wrong and you are in fact single then talk to him about how you feel and be honest, only ... (read in full...)
How to move on after a bad relationship?
Q. Hi my name is Danielle and I am 24 years old I am currently single and living with my parents. I am writing this because I do not know how to go on and to move on with life. About a year ago I left my ex boyfriend.. I thought we were soulmates and ...
A. 11 October 2017: If you want to get your life back then you MAKE time to get the help that you need. You should not feel weak or ashamed you should feel proud that you found the strength to leave this guy and look to the future. The break up is probably the best ... (read in full...)
I feel I am not good enough and cry everyday
Q. I am 25, single and VERY lonely. My now ex bf recently broke up with me because he lost feelings for me. I think it is all my fault, but he says it is not. He says his feelings fizzled out over time and insists there is no new girl. I am scared of ...
A. 10 October 2017: You have just recently been through a break up so off course you are going to be upset and feeling down, all that is completely normal. Give yourself some time to heal. If you need to cry then cry but once you start feeling better then go out in to ... (read in full...)
I feel like I was second servings!
Q. Okay i really dont know what to do in this situation. So my freind is friends with this guy and they are just friends nothing more. So one day he spent the night at our apartment and I ended up having sex with him. I felt weird about sleeping with ...
A. 10 October 2017: OP you need to gain more confidence, you deserve better than to be used for sex and offer a place to stay. What your friend did was cruel and wrong and you need to talk to her about how it has made you feel. You need to work it out as he is not ... (read in full...)
Am I being too materialstic and self sabotaging?
Q. Am I being unrealistic? I am 50 and dating a man for close to three months who claims he is retired, I came to find out he was laid off and doesn't want to go back to work. I find myself paying more often when we go out, it is a huge turn-off. I ...
A. 10 October 2017: He encourages you to look for another job but he cannot be bothered himself? If he is capable off work but he is just to lazy then no I don't think you are being materialistic. Personally I think a relationship should be split down the middle before ... (read in full...)
I can't wait to get married - but family issues putting a dampener on it.
Q. Hi, I'm looking for some advice. My fiancé and I are engaged and are soon to start planning our wedding. I have an extremely difficult mother, and because of that she has pretty much damaged all family ties I have with aunts/uncles/cousins. ...
A. 10 October 2017: Honestly do what makes you and your future husband to be happy. Don't worry about how things will look or upsetting others, the main thing is that you are both happy marrying each other and enjoying the day. ... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon to ask her out?
Q. Ok I use to give this girl a lift to work and we got on really well and have so much in common. 2 weeks ago she split up with her boyfriend and has moved so I longer have to give her a lift. At work we have been speaking a lot more since she has ...
A. 10 October 2017: I think from her point off view it is very soon. She is only single two weeks so am sure she needs time to adjust to being single again. Also it really is never a good idea to date someone you work with. Imagine if it went wrong and you had to work ... (read in full...)
Why does this guy flirt with me when he asks about dates I've been on?
Q. There's this guy I've known for a little over a year. I used to have a huge crush on him for a long time. I eventually got over him emotionally, but I am still attracted to him. We have been friends but there has been times where I get mixed ...
A. 10 October 2017: First question is was it obvious to him that you had a crush on him? If it was then he might just be annoyed that your attention is on other guys now and not him. Be straight with him and ask him why he doesn't want to date anyone any time soon, see ... (read in full...)
Its bothering me that my g/f shows more interest in my friend than me
Q. Something is really bugging me. My gf has been really stressed over last few days over little things and it can lead to argument. This isn’t serious because we both know it’s no ones fault. For example if we are going out she is throwing clothes, ...
A. 9 October 2017: Don't put yourself down and call yourself a wimp. He doesn't sound like a very good friend calling you names, and well if your girlfriend repeated it then she is just as bad. Surely she cannot play dumb after calling you names? What was her excuse ... (read in full...)
I don't know where I stand and I'm not sure if I should ask?
Q. Why would he vacation a week with me separate rooms Send flirting texts apologize when he is busy due to work military and then contact again repeated pattern... I don’t know where I stand and I’m unsure if I should ask?!! We haven had face to ...
A. 9 October 2017: Surely if he was interested enough then he would make the time and effort to see you. Are you both dating or in a relationship? I think you need to give us more information on the history between you both so we can advice you better.... (read in full...)
Is my friend's sister not interested? Or is she just forgetful and not very organised like her brother?
Q. Hey all, I'm in a situation that I'm unsure how to judge. Basically randomly one night, I ended up sleeping with one of my very good friends sisters. We have never really spoke previous to that time and it was a bit of a whirlwind how it all ha...
A. 14 September 2017: Let us know how it went. Inviting a girl back to your house probably did put her off as she probably doesn't want to be seen as a sex toy. Take her out, get to know her and build something and see where it goes. Good luck and let us know how you get ... (read in full...)
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