Is my friend's sister not interested? Or is she just forgetful and not very organised like her brother?
Q. Hey all, I'm in a situation that I'm unsure how to judge. Basically randomly one night, I ended up sleeping with one of my very good friends sisters. We have never really spoke previous to that time and it was a bit of a whirlwind how it all ha...
A. 17 October 2017: Great news, thanks for the follow up.... (read in full...)
How should I handle one of my biggest regrets and the depression it is causing me?
Q. When I was in high school, I was so afraid of being bullied that I became a bully myself. I was a immature kid and the way I was thinking was completely wrong. About a year after I graduated, one of the kids that I bullied, Zach, died from ...
A. 20 September 2017: If I am being honest I am struggling to have any sympathy for you, simply because I had a horrific time at national and secondary school getting bullied, and it has messed up my life. Kids can be so cruel and you will never no the damage that you ... (read in full...)
The sex is just not working out. What are we doing wrong?
Q. My boyfriend often complains that we don't have enough sex. But he doesn't initiate ot, or try to turn me on. The other day we were hugging in bed then he rolled over, saying that he had to because he was horny ... like, sex could've happened if he ...
A. 20 September 2017: Because it is funny to joke about rape? Honestly some people have an odd sense of humor. From reading your update it looks like their is a lot wrong with this relationship and if he is clingy and needy then he is not going to change. By all means ... (read in full...)
Uh Oh .... this guy I really like is brother to my ex!
Q. I met this guy and happen to fall deeply in love with him though am not sure he knows about it but just when I was about summoning the courage to tell him how I feel....it all turned out he is a brother to my ex. I really don't know what to do and ...
A. 20 September 2017: Had you not met his brother and family when you where dating? Was it serious between you and the brother? I think it is best to avoid him as this can cause a lot off upset in his family. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay .... or maybe I should go
Q. Hi dear Cupid, so I'll break this down in for form.. Myself (24) partner (23) - together three years Before I met him - I saved $13,000. Dating him - started going halves in things cause I thought it was a great idea. In three years - partner ...
A. 19 September 2017: You might love him, but he does not love you. I will say again what I have said to you in the past. Move out and move on with your life. Don't allow him to bully you in to giving him any more money. Also no your half off the bond should go to you. ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but am looking elsewhere
Q. My situation.. I met my boyfriend a year ago while while I was living overseas, he is from that country. We ended up getting into a relationship quite fast. Our parents met each other and everything was great. A week later or so, he had to g...
A. 19 September 2017: I will say the same again, it sounds like this guy wants to hook up with you, he doesn't seem to be very mature when he is telling you to look for him when you get bored off your boyfriend. I am assuming that you are younger than stated as your post ... (read in full...)
I moved to be nearer to her, now she has broken up with me.
Q. I'm fifty years old and moved over a year ago to be near my girlfriend she is 48 and I thought she was the love of my life. Suddenly she started saying she was busy all of the time and tired So I havnt seen her in two weeks. Tonight she broke up ...
A. 19 September 2017: At least you know the truth now, I know it doesn't make it any easier but try and take some comfort knowing that you are better off without her in your life if she is a liar and a cheat.... (read in full...)
We're already close. Do you think he is ready to move on and try something with me?
Q. Hi! Maybe this will be pretty obvious to you but I'm terrible when it comes to relationships and understanding men. I like this friend of mine (we were friends first) and he knows I like him, and we've kissed before but we were always drunk and st...
A. 19 September 2017: I think you should cut contact with this guy. It is clear he was only using you to be intimate with. If he cared about you he would not have treated you so badly and with such disrespect. I think you need to cut contact and make better friends who ... (read in full...)
Her messaging with a guy makes me uncomfortable!
Q. Hi, my girlfriend of 7 years has been talking to a guy on and off for about 3 years now, I tell her that I'm uncomfortable with it and I get mixed responses. One time she said if you don't like me talking to **** Ill stop, I don't want to hurt you...
A. 19 September 2017: Let us know how you get on.... (read in full...)
My step daughter is making my life hell!
Q. My step daughter is making my life hell. I'm a nurse on a trauma unit and I work nights. My job is stressful enough without coming home to a battle every day. My husband is far from perfect but his main flaw is his unwillingness to discipline his ...
A. 15 September 2017: I honestly am not sure why you would still be with him? If my husband called me repulsive I would be out the door. You should never allow anyone to call you something like that. I would love to know what age his daughter is? He is not going to start ... (read in full...)
I want to get over crushing on my teacher!
Q. Hi, I'm a 19 y/o female student and I have this burning question within me for a year already, and I don't exactly know where to get my answers so I thought I'd give this platform a try. Anyway, I have a HUGE crush on a same-gender female teacher ...
A. 15 September 2017: When you feel yourself thinking about her, distract yourself. Read a book, play a game, go on social media. Crushes do happen but it will get easier. The more you tell yourself it cannot happen the more you will believe it.... (read in full...)
Should we jump right in or take it slowly?
Q. Hi there. I've been talking to a wonderful guy for a month or two now, things are going really well. It started as just friendly conversation, banter via text message and talking about everything we have in common, but the conversations went on ...
A. 15 September 2017: The main thing is if you don't feel ready to commit then don't. Take your time until you are completely sure that you are ready. There is no hurry and no set rules. It is whatever you are both comfortable with. It sounds like you have both hit it ... (read in full...)
How do I encourage my girlfriend to deal with her depression?
Q. I think my girlfriend is depressed, I've been dating her for 8 months now and she doesn't have any close female friends and she's incredibly lonely. Most of the time she'll only leave the house to go to classes and she misses quite a few, she has ...
A. 15 September 2017: Has she actually told you she is depressed? It could be that she just lacks in self esteem and confidence and that is why she struggles to make friends. Talk to her about it, maybe seeing a therapist would be a good idea to talk about why she finds ... (read in full...)
I'm bored and miss affection in our marriage!
Q. I have been married for 6 years now. The past four years has been boring. Not sure if that's how all marriages become. The sex is boring and comes once a month. No kissing or hugs for four years. He doesn't call me sweet names anymore. He just ...
A. 15 September 2017: It is not about who is right and who is wrong here. You need more passion from your marriage than you are getting. Are you able to talk to him about things? Obviously you have both fallen in to a routine and got stuck in a rut. Are you both able to ... (read in full...)
Ex-boyfriend (considerably older) left me for someone else while being on holiday. I don't understand it and am now thinking of asking for closure.
Q. Hi, will try to keep this as short as I can. A little background: A few months ago I met a charming older man (49 years old) and what began as a short romance started developing into something more serious and longer, with him (he lived in a diffe...
A. 15 September 2017: The worst thing that you can do is contact him, it won't give you closure. You need to accept that he is now with someone else and move forward with your life. My guess is that yes he knew her before dating you. I also guess that he was using you, ... (read in full...)
We just don't DO anything!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together since we were 17 and although we are happy, I feel our relationship is just really boring. I was watching a show the other day and this couple did so many fun activities together and when we talk his sister, ...
A. 15 September 2017: You are both out off the honeymoon period now and well you have settled in to a relationship. No it does not mean you are boring. However you are both still young so it is still good to do things with friends as well, girls nights out/in ect. If you ... (read in full...)
Are we incompatible if he has these concerns early on?
Q. Dear Cupid, my boyfriend is hurt that I don't spend more time with him and that I'm not giving him enough attention. I have crippling depression and often I am so anxious and so deflated even basic functions are difficult. I still see him at least ...
A. 15 September 2017: If you are not compatible already and it is only two weeks in then no doubt things will get worse. None off you have major issues, its just you both want different things. You need someone who is patient and likes their own space, where as it sounds ... (read in full...)
Husband has changed after marriage, is aggressive in bed and demands rough anal sex. How do I fix things?
Q. Hi was looking for some advice. My husband has changed since we got married he, he became really fussy about everything I do and he's quite aggressive when it comes to being intimate. Nothing I ever do is right or good enough for him anymore. I ...
A. 15 September 2017: Sweetie just because you are married does not mean that he owns you and can do as he pleases. You need to learn to say no to him, if he forces you that is rape and you should report him to the police.
He should not hit you unless off course you want... (read in full...)
How should I deal with this fantasy?
Q. I have been married 30 yrs. As far as I know my wife has never cheated.I find myself fantasizing lately watching her have sex with a stranger with a huge penis. I don;t mean like an affair. I set it up with an escort service and watch. It is not as ...
A. 15 September 2017: This fantasy is best kept to yourself. If you act on it you will end up loosing your wife or getting jealous if you see her with some other guy and she looks like she is enjoying herself more than ever. The best thing to do is to keep it a fantasy. ... (read in full...)
My destructive behaviour regarding my boyfriend's past is ruining my relationship.
Q. I have been seeing a lovely man for over four months. He is kind, caring and treats me very well. I have been on my own with my daughter for 17 years, her father left me when she was a baby and i was left devastated. He got on with his life and it ...
A. 15 September 2017: Have you considered going to therapy? It seems that you have deep issues where you are insecure and lack confidence. A professional could help you work through your feelings and build trust.
Be honest with your boyfriend and tell him you want help... (read in full...)
Will this breakup mend?
Q. I've just split with my ex a week ago over argument. I have an 11-month-old baby. When I asked if any chance getting back together he says don't know. Then when I ask well would u like to he says I ain't saying no. Maybe down the line. I'm so con...
A. 15 September 2017: It is obvious he wants to be single for the time being. Maybe he will come back maybe he won't but really do you want to put your life on hold waiting for him to make up his mind? I think you need to be honest and tell him it is now or never. Don't ... (read in full...)
Huge crush on the petrol station guy but how do I pursue him without looking like a stalker?
Q. So...this is a weird one. I'm pretty sure I'm being weird. So I go to the same petrol station once a week. There is a guy there who is always on early shift which is when I fuel up before driving to work. We always have a chat and increasin...
A. 15 September 2017: Honestly I don't think you should message him, if it was me it would freak me out. Although you could try and ask him out the next time that you see him. The worst he can say is no!... (read in full...)
Her messaging with a guy makes me uncomfortable!
Q. Hi, my girlfriend of 7 years has been talking to a guy on and off for about 3 years now, I tell her that I'm uncomfortable with it and I get mixed responses. One time she said if you don't like me talking to **** Ill stop, I don't want to hurt you...
A. 15 September 2017: Personally if my husband told me that me texting someone was hurting him, I would stop right there and then because I love him and would not want to make him feel uncomfortable. She is putting her own feelings in front off yours at the moment. She ... (read in full...)
Is my friend's sister not interested? Or is she just forgetful and not very organised like her brother?
Q. Hey all, I'm in a situation that I'm unsure how to judge. Basically randomly one night, I ended up sleeping with one of my very good friends sisters. We have never really spoke previous to that time and it was a bit of a whirlwind how it all ha...
A. 14 September 2017: Let us know how it went. Inviting a girl back to your house probably did put her off as she probably doesn't want to be seen as a sex toy. Take her out, get to know her and build something and see where it goes. Good luck and let us know how you get ... (read in full...)
Wifes past haunts me.
Q. I have been married almost 20 years now. When I met my wife she told me that she had been raped. A few months into our marriage she told me that she had been gangraped as well, I didn't question her too much about it and just left it. A few months ...
A. 14 September 2017: You are struggling? Imagine having to live with something like that? I know only to well what it is like to live with a past like that, and let me tell you it is not easy. She way not remember because she was RAPED and she is probably trying to ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to draw a line under this?
Q. I was dating a guy for almost two years and in March of this year my father got really sick from cancer. He passed away sadly at the end of April. The guy I was with was a complete ass towards me when my father had passed away. And during April I ...
A. 14 September 2017: Off course you are not wrong, in fact you are acting correctly. If he cannot support you through the death off your father then that shows that he is not good husband material. What kind of future would use have if he treats you so bad? You are best ... (read in full...)
Am I moving on too fast? And how and when do I tell the new guy about my past and the fact that my ex still lives in the same house as me?
Q. I have recently split with my partner of 8 years , we have fallen out of love and we both thought it was the best decision to cut it off. He still lives in the same house as me though in seperate rooms and he still helps with shopping/lifts etc - ...
A. 14 September 2017: No it is not wrong to move on. But if you and your ex are over he really needs to move on and move out. I understand you want to help him, but the relationship is over and if he continues to live with you then your life is going to be put on hold ... (read in full...)
My fiance is in debt, was married previously and isn't making any real efforts to be with me
Q. Hello everyone. I need advice on my situation. I will try to make it as short and concise as I can. I am in my early 30's. With a bachelor's degree. Currently in between jobs, but have a job offer in the US. I am awaiting my immigration peti...
A. 14 September 2017: Your relationship has been based on a lie. He is in a lot of debt, still won't tell you exactly how much but he still wants you to trust him and marry him. I personally couldn't take all that on along with him paying for two children. I get you love ... (read in full...)
Should I cut ties with my family to appease my wife?
Q. My wife and I are 10 years happily married with a 5 year old child. An issue has arisen recently that is causing great trauma and I would be very grateful of some worldly-wise advice and help to find a way forward. We like in the UK , I am fr...
A. 14 September 2017: You both need to do marriage counselling or go in to therapy. Honestly your wife is totally unreasonable, she wants you to stick up for her? Well she should not be slaughtering your family or using your child. She sounds like a horrendous person. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't understand why I find this kinda rude. Am I being irrational?
Q. My boyfriend and his baby's mom have a seven year old son together. They've been broke up for years. About a year ago she got locked up for running with the wrong crowd and he was unable to get custody at the time due to loosing his place so her ...
A. 14 September 2017: No it is not rude, you should be happy that he has them as extended family. They are his son's grandparents and I think it is great that he is close to them. If you cannot handle this then don't get in to a relationship with someone who has a child ... (read in full...)
What's this guy trying to say?
Q. What's this guy playing at? I've been seeing a guy for about 3 months as a no strings attached, it's sort of become FWB as we've gotten to know on another. I've never thought he's wanted more as he's never suggested a date or anything. We hav...
A. 14 September 2017: What is it that you want? Do you want no string attached or do you want a relationship? That is the first question you need to ask yourself. Because if you want more then the best thing to do is leave this guy be and find someone who wants the same ... (read in full...)
Her messaging with a guy makes me uncomfortable!
Q. Hi, my girlfriend of 7 years has been talking to a guy on and off for about 3 years now, I tell her that I'm uncomfortable with it and I get mixed responses. One time she said if you don't like me talking to **** Ill stop, I don't want to hurt you...
A. 14 September 2017: First off I think you also need to seek help with your depression. Secondly she needs to start helping you with the children. You both need to sit down and talk, if you cannot do that together then go to couples counselling. You need to get this ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that my female friend always wants a payment for favours?
Q. Is it weird if your female friend always wants/expects payment for favours? We've been friends since high school, and she's never been the "I'll pay for you" type, unless you ask directly and you'd probably have to pay her back afterwards. I'm ...
A. 14 September 2017: It sounds like this could be the type of person that she is. She sounds greedy and is always out to get something. Some people like to do favors for their friends it sounds like she just doesn't and expects to be paid for everything. Maybe she grew ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mother suddenly seems to hate me and thinks I'm an awful influence on him. Should I stay with him or leave?
Q. My boyfriend who is 23 years old and I have been together for about 2 years now. At the beginning, maybe the first 3-4 months of the relationship his mother and I were very close. She would text me every single day, buy me things and call me her ...
A. 14 September 2017: Don't you feel bad. It is not your fault it is his mothers. She is acting like a spoiled child and she does not want to see her son grow up and having a life off his own. The only advice I can give is if you are both serious about each other then ... (read in full...)
I think I'd be better off just blocking him from my life
Q. I was recently away on a holiday with a load of other people. I am gay and everyone knows this and am 38 yrs old. Whilst we were away a younger 23 yr old was being friendly with me and then hinted he wanted to come up to chat in my room. Anyhow ...
A. 14 September 2017: He used you, and well in fairness you let him. You knew he was in a relationship, you knew he was cheating so what did you expect to happen? Honestly block him from your life and try and not allow someone else who is in a relationship to cheat with ... (read in full...)
I still like him but I think I will end up hurt.
Q. Hi, I'm a year 10 girl and I've liked a guy (K) for 4 years. He moved to study abroad last year for a year and he came back about a month ago. When I found out that he was leaving, I really didn’t want to go as I was afraid we would lose our ...
A. 14 September 2017: What you are experiencing is a crush. I know that it feels like love, but some day you will look back fondly and remember your first crush. I felt the same at your age. I do understand you don't want to be judged none off us do, you will learn in ... (read in full...)
I like girl A but am dating girl B
Q. I became really good friends with these two girls who are best friends. I liked them both but had a crush on girl lets say girl A. I never told girl A this. We had different styles and the few convos we did have she always talked about dating this ...
A. 14 September 2017: You have made a mess off this, and I severely doubt you will ever get girl A now, the only thing you can do from this is learn that you cannot treat girls like this for your own benefit. They do have feelings.... (read in full...)
I moved to be nearer to her, now she has broken up with me.
Q. I'm fifty years old and moved over a year ago to be near my girlfriend she is 48 and I thought she was the love of my life. Suddenly she started saying she was busy all of the time and tired So I havnt seen her in two weeks. Tonight she broke up ...
A. 14 September 2017: I didn't get a chance to answer your question, but I have read through all the updates and I am truly sorry that this has happened to you. This woman sounds toxic. She has a drink and drug problem and even though you are probably one off the best ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend is a bad communicator.
Q. I have been dating a guy for about 7 months. We started out as friends and had known each other for about 4 years, and then began dating. We started out dating close proximity, but then due to work and school, were forced to become long distance. We ...
A. 14 September 2017: He is who he is. If you keep trying to change him he will begin to resent you. Honestly if he is no good at small talk then I think you need to accept that. What would you say if he asked you to stop contacting him so much? You need to learn that ... (read in full...)
I don't want sex to become a duty!
Q. I have polycystic ovary syndrome. If often means my hormones are all over the place. Sometimes I want sex and sometimes I really don't want sex. But my long term boyfriend naturally has a higher sex drive than me and seems to take it really ...
A. 14 September 2017: You need to sit down and talk to him. While I agree that sex and passion is an important part off a relationship, so is communication and not doing something just to please your partner. If you start having sex just to please him you will resent him ... (read in full...)
My crush is being weird!
Q. last week I ended pulling a gorgeous female while I was out with my friends, and we seem to have a lot in common with each other, she always liked me at school, but for some reason we didn't end up getting together, now we are, she sent me a friend ...
A. 14 September 2017: Okay so she got weird after Sex. So maybe she was just looking for one thing? Or maybe she is with someone or likes someone else? Honestly if it was me and someone was asking me to stop writing to them then I would unfriend them and move on. ... (read in full...)
She strung me along to cancel three times ...
Q. Hello everyone, so about 2 years ago I was in a short film with an actress and we hit it off really well, great chemistry. There was a kissing scene but it wasn't awkward at all. She even suggested "practice kissing" during rehearsal. However, ...
A. 14 September 2017: Thanks for the update OP it is always appreciated when someone updates us how they got on. All the best in the future. ... (read in full...)
She strung me along to cancel three times ...
Q. Hello everyone, so about 2 years ago I was in a short film with an actress and we hit it off really well, great chemistry. There was a kissing scene but it wasn't awkward at all. She even suggested "practice kissing" during rehearsal. However, ...
A. 7 July 2017: She seems like she is the flaky type off girl. Maybe she done it to get the attention, or maybe she just puts everything else first. Who knows? But for me I would stop with the contact and leave it there. ... (read in full...)
We're already close. Do you think he is ready to move on and try something with me?
Q. Hi! Maybe this will be pretty obvious to you but I'm terrible when it comes to relationships and understanding men. I like this friend of mine (we were friends first) and he knows I like him, and we've kissed before but we were always drunk and st...
A. 31 January 2017: Yeah speak with him about the ex. Let us know!... (read in full...)
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