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Archived questions from: December, 2011 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Please help an inexperienced married man understand sex and relationships

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4705 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I was an 18 year old virgin when I met my wife. I had never had a girlfriend or even kissed another girl until one night after a date she just leaned over and kissed me. I waited some months before sleeping with her at age 19. She was 21 and experienced, wanting to sleep wi... (665 words)

Am I just an ego boost for him or does he have feelings for me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a crush on a guy at work. He's married but I don't know if he's happy. His wife is really beautiful and classy but he rarely ever talks about her. At work he always sits next to me when we're in meetings; he compliments me frequently on my hair, or something I'm wearing; ... (308 words)

How to cheer up and forget the past!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4707 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Home alone on New Years Eve, am ill and feeling sorry for myself! Fighting the urge to text the ex happy new year, (he's with someone new, not sure if he knows I know) he wanted to be single?? Wtf?? Too much of a coward to say he didn't want me? I am getting on my own ne... (173 words)

What do people think of an 18 year old guy dating a 16 year old?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4705 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - ok i have been talking to a girl who is 16 and i'm 18 we have basically got straight on and i feel like i have known her for years and we both have basically shown we like each others personallity and like each other. id like to ask her out and go out but i just want to kno... (113 words)

The sex in our FWB relationship is bad! How do I tell him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So my best friend and I are close. But neither of us want a relationship, but we do want an aspect of a relationship. Sex. So we have sex and because as individuals we're just the same. People probably think we date because of how much we hang out and do things together, but ... (125 words)

Is it the new and amazing sex we are having that has caused him to start to commit? Or my honest email?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi all. Your opinions would be most welcome. Thanx. I have been with my bf for around ten months. It has,nt been an easy relationship,so over the last month or so, i.ve started to try and detach. I.ve been waiting for him to commit for sometime,but it wasn.t happening,so in the ... (196 words)

I don't want to taste myself on him. Any suggestions?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - dear cupid, my guy absolutely LOVES for me to go down on him. honestly, i think that's even more appealing to him than sex. i don't have any problem with his love of head; i love giving it to him, because i know it turns him on and makes him happy, and that's enough to turn m... (183 words)

Real deal or is he blowing me off???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4707 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, I am talking to a guy who is 11 yrs oldcer than me who has been divorced and has kids. He is 36 and I am 25. He seems to be a really nice guy, and has a job in law enforcement which requires him to be on-call at all times. When we first started talking he was texting ... (211 words)

Is he more than a friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok, so after 4 years after my husband's death, I think I finally found a guy worth my attention. I was online doing the dating thing and stumbled across a guy who I went to high school with 20 years ago. I asked how he has been doing, and we started talking again. We went out 4 ... (253 words)

I don't have feelings for my girlfriend and feel guilty because of my real intentions behind having a relationship with her. What should I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4707 days ago

31 December 2011 (M) age 41-50 - Recently,on dating site, I have got 42 years old American woman interested in me and it's been two weeks since we have expressed love for each other.I'm 30 years old. She has 11 years old daughter from her first love who left here 6 years ago. She lives with a friend and goin... (255 words)

I am bi-sexual, but worried my family won't accept me for who I am

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4689 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay my question is what should I do about this? I am bisexual and I have told my good/ close friends and they accept me for who i am. I want to come out to my parents but my dad sometimes makes gay jokes he doesn't do it anymore so that's good. I'm scared that might not a... (125 words)

Should I ask my ex, who is the father of my children, to not date my friends?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My ex of 15years, father to my 2 kids is going to a new years eve party tonight where lots of my friends will be. Is it unreasonable of me to ask him not to get it together with one of my mates, there is one girl in particular, he doesnt really know her but shes single like ... (150 words)

I'm married to an old miser!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Well, shortly, i'm 30years old, married to a 65year old miser! I have no source of income whatsoever. I and our 6 month old started living with him 2months ago. We had dated for an adequate duration. We have a bad situation concerning our finances. He practically doesn.t want ... (396 words)

I want to be more proactive with guys. Should I just go for it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I asked this question last week http://www.dearcupid.org/question/have-any-of-you-felt-hopeless-or-clueless.html I saw this guy a few days ago at a friend's house when he finished work. I didn't stay long when he arrived given it being 1-2am but we did talk a little, not m... (147 words)

How can I forget about this girl?!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - how do i forget about a girl i had some fealings for? we had been talking for about 2 months flirting and all of that... at one point she asked my brother when i was home from work cos she wanted to talk... she had personal heart to hearts with me seeking advice (now this... (321 words)

Should I try to get over my crush because of these possible deal-breakers?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am just crazy about this guy and he is a genuinely wonderful person. I've thought in the past that he may be interested in me - I don't really know, but I am trying to figure out if he is worth pursuing or not for a couple of reasons. First reason is that he's a very stro... (355 words)

How do girls really feel about shy boys?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4705 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Girls tell me that they love me but they say that's as a friend. What is their fucking problem? 2nd Question: what do girls feel for shy boys? ... (32 words)

Why does my co-worker act this way towards me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Why does this girl behaves this way? am I overreacting? ? There's this work I met at a job interview, I got the job and so did she. We all work in the same department. The thing is she's so unfriendly, I never see her smile. The only time she smiles is when she talki... (166 words)

My family calls me Dog

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear Aunts I started gaining weight past few weeks. I wanted to lose the weight as fast as possible because people were beggining to call me names. So i told my friend, and she told me that the fast way to lose the weight is to drink cola everyday and dont put in any type of ... (349 words)

Would texting him at midnight on NYE be a good move? we fell out, but he said to try things again in 2012

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i really like this boy and we've been meeting up, texting and stuff like that. we fell out but we are ok now, he said to try things in 2012.. seeing as its new years eve i was thinking of texting him how i felt at midnight? but i wouldnt know what to say, any suggestions? ... (59 words)

Ever since we had sex she is ignoring me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4707 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Well im 41 and i've been dating this Irish girl who is 30 for over 6 months, now she was unbelievably shy at first it took her weeks to open up to me and once she did i could see she was crazy I have a succesful business on my hands but it didnt seem to attract her to me at all ... (646 words)

Has my break up given me an eating disorder?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm 32 and have 2 children. I split up with my partner on the 9th December. Was quite a bad break up and since then I just don't have any appetite what so ever.....I just push food around my plate and barely eat anything. Typical daily example is a piece of fruit for breakfast ... (104 words)

How could he do this to me.....please help.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Me an my partner split up a about 3 weeks ago we were in a serious relationship, but had a big argument and he decided we needed a break. Said he still loved me but just needed time to think. I let him think an thought he would get in touch....... Tonight I found out he's ... (118 words)

What are his intentions towards me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - so i went for a holiday back home, and i went to my ex school to visit my ex teachers. my sister, who goes to the same school, was free so she came along with me. as we where going round and knocking on staffroom doors, my sister met this hot teacher who teaches her art, and ... (244 words)

Why can't I stay angry at my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, About a year ago I broke up with my girlfriend. We were together for about 1,5 years. The first years everything was fine, but in the last six months all of a sudden she felt the need to live the life of a single female, while basically keeping me around for the c... (618 words)

Is it normal to love one child more than your other?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4707 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - This might be a very "rough" question.. But, let's say you have 2 children. Would it be normal to love one more then the other? Or, let's say you were put in a situation where only one of your children would live, and you had to choose which one died/lived. Would it be normal ... (86 words)

I feel lonely even when I am with my friends

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I don't know why, but even when I am with friends I always feel lonely, like they will always include me in everything, but I still feel so lonely, even when I am with my best friend, and it isn't like I just met them, I have known them for years.. and this has been going on ... (83 words)

Lack of contact from b/f is making me question everything!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4698 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Here is a little bit of what has been going on I lost contact with my boyfriend for month in November and I was trying to get back into contact with him we never broke up but he lives 2 hours away and his phone was messed up then his boss ran it over. But the phone company ... (633 words)

To text or not to text? And if I do text her, what should I say to her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello! I am a 16 year old guy and I've been working at a pizza place (Donatos) since I was 14. I got a girl's number when I was working the other day, she wrote it on the back of a receipt that I gave her to sign (and she tipped me xD). She was really pretty and really nice! I ... (225 words)

Is it too soon to send a flirtatious text?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey there, I have just started seeing someone and I am wondering if it is too soon to send him a flirtatious text? We have gone on two dates, both of which were really fun and I think I might really like him. I have never had a real relationship before so I don't know what's ... (166 words)

Who is better for me? who will be better long term?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4700 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - so i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, it has been a rocky relationship from the start, so much cheating, he's cheated on me and i have cheated on him, but he changed and became a better person these last 7 months, but then about a month ago he started back taking ... (406 words)

What to do? I waited too long to express my feelings

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4703 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Maybe it started when I met her. At first glance, I thought she was beautiful. Gorgeous curly ebony hair and chocolate brown eyes. She's sweet and she's kind. She's an artist, like me, but takes to digital style like a pro. I think I'm in love with her, but I'm not very sure. ... (173 words)

My cousin kissed me. Now what?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4697 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I was in my cousins garage and it was just the two of us she asked me if i wanted to dance or pingpong and i chose dance then she decided to kiss me on the neck what should i do... (41 words)

I feel awful for misguiding the girl I plan to marry for so many years but I'm so scared to face the music but I also want to right my wrong

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4703 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So, about five years ago I met a girl, who is now my girlfriend of three years, online and she lives in PA. We always got a long real well and eventually we started to play on the ps3 with eachother, because we were curious about what the other sounded like. And one night she ... (279 words)

Why do my mates' girlfriends keep trying it on with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - This sounds like I'm being paranoid but about a year ago my mates 5yr GF told me she likes me to much! But I shook it of and blamed it on the drink then 6 months later we all got drunk at a party and I tried my hardest but we shared a proper intense moment and kissed and the ... (236 words)

I'm a student tutoring younger students and I have a crush on one of them them!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4706 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, a new one from me... I'm in my third semester at University and I'm leading a Tutorium (kind of an extra class) for a lecture. Obviously, I'm a student and it's about students of older semesters helping the ones who just started. Anyway, I'm not in love with the... (154 words)

She's filled with doubts and insecurities before we've even met, do I stick it out or not?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I started talking to a woman 3 months ago i met over a dating site, after a real struggle she finally decided to talk to me over the phone after 2 months of communication as it was a confidence issue she had, and thought i would not like her accent. I believe she is g... (202 words)

I love my girlfriend but I'm disgusted, jealous and angry about her sexual past with her ex-boyfriends!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend is a nice and I really love her a ton and want to spend the rest of my life with her. She's everything I could have ever wanted. She's smart, beautiful, and very kind. But when we first hooked up a friend of mine told me she gave BJs to two of her ex-boyfriends. ... (139 words)

Is it okay to glance at a woman's breasts if she is not showing cleavage?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4689 days ago

31 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, hopefully this question is appropriate and it doesn't offend anybody. Is it okay to glance at a woman's breasts if she is not showing cleavage? Suppose for the purpose of this question that the guy is at a social gathering like a party or a bar and the gal is dressed ... (120 words)

I need advice on getting into a relationship with a divorced dad with young children!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4705 days ago

31 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am in a bit of a strange situation, one that I never thought I would have to face. I have recently been introduced to a very lovely man, 32 years old (I am 28). He is very lovely, totally gorgeous and seems to be a very good catch. But, he is divorced and has two small ch... (146 words)

I'm 19 years old, and my parents won't let me do anything!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3289 days ago

30 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello. Thanks for having a great community like this. I hope you can help me with my problem. I'm 19, I go to college and still live at home with my parents. My parents are really strict. They treat me like I'm 5 when I'm clearly an adult. They won't allow me to go out with f... (337 words)

Ways to get over the crush who rejected you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

30 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Best and most effective ways to get over the crush who rejected you? It feels like I've tried everything but it still doesn't seem to help. I did what most people would say; "Cut ALL contact". And now a friend of mine told me that this girl has started dating another d... (99 words)

Do you think she and I will ever be friends again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4709 days ago

30 December 2011 (M) age 36-40 - Hello aunts! Even if I'll try to sum up my story in the best way possible, I think this will be long. Thanks in advance for reading. I met this girl like a year and a half ago in a one-week summer activity we both signed up for. She is from Japan, studied at a liberal arts c... (879 words)

My husband has been impotent for 5 years. Should I stay?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

30 December 2011 (F)

age - What would you do, if your husband 20 years, suddenly goes impotent , without any any medical cause? He is 50 now, but he was 43, when one day to the next he just lost his erection, and ever since, he is unable to get a normal erection. He also lost his sexual desire. He says ... (145 words)

Is my long distance romance over?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

30 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a guy online in august. Things built up gradually, we were a great match and had lots in common. I loved spending time talking with him each day and getting to know this guy who I found to be lovely. We had similar, goals, aspirations and mindsets. He lives in the U.S... (608 words)

Would it be harsh of me to tell my b/f he can't move in with me till he finds a job?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

30 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all heres the thing i wrote recently asking advice about telling my bf im moving in alone as hes unemployed but i have recently found out im pregnant i work 40 hours n he dont. Now im stuck my parents kicked me out which is fine ive gt money saved to moved out orginally now ... (98 words)

Should I let my b/f know I've never had an orgasm through regular sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

30 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've never had an orgasm through intercourse and I was wondering if anybody else has had this problem and how they fixed it. I've never told my fiance about it before and I don't know if I should. I think he might get upset. The sex we have is really good while its happening ... (82 words)

Was it wrong for him to change my password?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

30 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Heyy, well to start with my boyfriend knows my facebook password and i know his, today an old friend of mine was talking to me and he was saying some pretty inaproprate things to me, my boyfriend saw them and got mad i begged him not to say anything to him as he is a good fri... (173 words)

How do I work through this rage I feel towards my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4709 days ago

30 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I could do with some advice regarding my situation with my now ex boyfriend. We broke up because he just couldn't stop lying to me and in the end it became out of control and I ended it. Today we got into a row as I once again found out yet another lie he'd told reg... (304 words)

After 2 years of being LDR we finally meet and it ended so badly. I'm heartbroken!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4709 days ago

30 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been in this ldr for almost 2 years. We met on a chatline and instantly connected! Every time me tried to meet up,something would always happen on both of our ends, so although we had never seen each other we did skype and video chat and send pic which made things feel a ... (1030 words)