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writes:My ex of 15years, father to my 2 kids is going to a new years eve party tonight where lots of my friends will be. Is it unreasonable of me to ask him not to get it together with one of my mates, there is one girl in particular, he doesnt really know her but shes single like him, shes a fairly close friend of mine, not superclose but someone i often confide in when i do see her. Is it wrong of me to warn him off, in a nice way...I dont know if she would see our freindship as close enough that she should stay away from him,I do still have feelings for him, but i dont want to get back with him, but fi/when he gets a new GF i d much rather its someone I dont really know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012):
If they were really your friends, they wouldn't be dating him.
Last time I checked, the word "NO" was still in the dictionary.
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (31 December 2011):
yeah, sure... did he listen to you when you were married?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (31 December 2011):
 If he is your ex, and you do not want to get back together with him, who he dates is really not your business.
The same way that if you were to date someone that he does not want you to date. He is your ex, and thus he has zero say who you connect with in life.
The ONLY time either of you gets a say, is when the safety of your children is at issue. If either of you gets involved with someone that could be a threat to your children, then you both have a responsibility to speak up.
Good luck to you, and I wish you love in the new year.
-Frank
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (31 December 2011):
 So, if I were to re-state your submittal I might start by writing: "I think I am still entitled to control whatever my ex- does....."
That's my answer....
Happy New Year.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): Don't ask him to. Do tell him how you feel though and tell him how it would make you feel if he did end up with someone you know. That way he'll probably just not do it of his own accord. You have a better chance of it not happening if you don't outright ask him not to because doing so may have the "forbidden fruit" effect of making all your friends look suddenly way more appealing because you said he can't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): Its none of your business. Does he have the right to choose who you can and cannot get off with? Does every one of your friends find him attractive?
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