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writes:Okay my question is what should I do about this?I am bisexual and I have told my good/ close friends and they accept me for who i am. I want to come out to my parents but my dad sometimes makes gay jokes he doesn't do it anymore so that's good. I'm scared that might not accept me for who i am. And I'm just so stressed out with school and this problem that I feel like cutting myself but i don't it's just hard. I want to talk about with an adult but I don't know which one bc I have tons in my life. So Aunties please help me! What should I do? Do I need help like counsling? Reply to this Question
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (19 January 2012):
 too young for an average situation like this.
wait until you have a job and career and come out to your peers later on. you need to be able to support yourself financially if they react badly. be logical and find someone you can talk to that you can trust.
dont get so stressed, the day will come but in this life its all about the right timing...
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (31 December 2011):
Your too young to come out to your folks. You're really young and some people (not all) go through a bi phase at the age you are. For some it's a phase... happens, then goes away. For others, it part of who they are forever (some flip back and forth from girl to guy partners/spouses... one of my best freinds (a girl) has done this since college.) Other's it's the first step to being gay. The reality is, it's going to take a while for you to grow and see which one you are... no reason to totally freak out the parents yet. If you have an aunt, or close female family member, consider talking to them.
Some people (who are from really strict families, where there's a potential to be disowned) wait till they don't need their parents money... for example, when they finish college or grad school. Best Wishes!
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (31 December 2011):
 Hi There,
Re: the feelings of cutting, talk to a guidance counselor at your school. They should be trained to handle this sort of discussion. They are professionals that have to follow rules of confidentiality.
As for coming out...the rule is you do not come out if you have doubts about your parents being able to handle it. I do not know your parents, but if they are not reasonable nor understanding, then it is best until you are older and more established to the point where you can support yourself if things get bad.
Hope this helps.
-Frank
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): My cousin went through this and our family accept her . She came up to my aunt and uncle and was like "ma and dad i am bisexual if you can't accept me who i am then i don't want you to accept at all." My uncle made homosexual joke and he stopped ! But don't stress out about it because you're too young to stress !
Just tell your parents about you being bisexual ! Don't be afraid or nothing because no matter what they would always be your parents and you would always be their daughter.
Xoxoxo and have a good new years :-*
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