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writes:This sounds like I'm being paranoid but about a year ago my mates 5yr GF told me she likes me to much! But I shook it of and blamed it on the drink then 6 months later we all got drunk at a party and I tried my hardest but we shared a proper intense moment and kissed and the pair of us have never felt any thin like it, 3 months later she left my mate and me and his ex have never spoken since! Which In away i was upset about but glad all at the same time, then you won't believe it my other mates girlfriend and told me the same!!! And then my other mates wife keeps giving me signs as well!!! I'm not the most attractive bloke in the world by no means and I just can't under stand it!!! I'm in a 10yr relationship with two children and I have to admit its not been good between us for a long time. Is it due to this I'm giving signs to women that are close to me??? If so I don't really know what I am doing that has started this!!! To me it's crazy I'm a 30yr old man that has always been shy and never tried to cause attention to myself!! But all of a sudden I seemed to be the opposite!! What the hell is going on???
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (31 December 2011):
 Sounds to me like you are a magnet for girls who are about to dump their B/Fs....
Most of us guys would cheerfully sell our souls to be in your position.....
Good luck....
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reader, In.love.with.him +, writes (31 December 2011):
 I think keeping your friends is better then any girl. But if your relationship needs work try and fix it sit down your girlfriend and talk to her if nothing works then maybe it is time to split up. I was shy too and my bf's friends hit on me I hate it though.
Cheers mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): Well, I hate to bust your bubble, but it isn't you, at least not all of it.I'm old enough to be your father (and I'm certain I'm not). I've seen this a lot and it is a bit irritating.Unhappy people in unhappy relationships reaching out for something, anything frequently, hoping for something better. There is a lot of that in your late 20's to late 40's as people get disillusioned with life and relationships. You may be giving signs, or not, but regardless of that you need to work on your relationship. Work to stop giving out signs, because there will be a lot of temptation in the next few years.When I was near your age, I was single and apparently attractive per my wife and other women, and in my case it was married women who were wanting me...one after the other...and I had no interest in that even though a couple of them were absolutely smoking hot. Often they were a little older but had been married for several years.Then I got married, put on my ring, and it was like someone flipped a switch, and then it was single younger women. As I aged the age discrepancy got bigger, the women who were interested largely stayed around the same age group, and I might add with the same problems in their lives. Just last week I was at the mall with my two youngest daughters and a much younger woman, very attractive woman, in her late 20's at the oldest, possibly younger, as watching me while I shopped with them. Yeah, I might be handsome, but she isn't watching me because of that, it has more to do with her own personal life and how she feels about herself than my looks. I realized that all I had to do was crack a smile to get a conversation going.I'm willing to bet that she wouldn't have given me a second look when I was 25, single, poor, and didn't have that distinguished handsome lined face that I have now.Think of your relationship and work on it, try to do the right thing no matter the temptation, no matter what anyone else does or says, even your relationship partner. My wife of 20 years has had a lot of pain because of this. I've never strayed, not a bit, but she's overheard other women talk about me when I wasn't around, some of them didn't know that she was my wife (work environment). She's seen the other women look at me when I've been shopping with her and the kids and me not being aware of it. It makes people feel vulnerable. So, think of your kids, think of your lover, and think of the love that has been shared and the joys and travails you've been through with that person. Then, if you really love her, really work on that relationship.
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