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writes:I've been in this ldr for almost 2 years. We met on a chatline and instantly connected! Every time me tried to meet up,something would always happen on both of our ends, so although we had never seen each other we did skype and video chat and send pic which made things feel a little bit more real. I really loved this guy and he said he loved me to. We would fight or argue due to the fact it was going on 2 years and we never actually met.... So one day he took vacation from work and I was off work 2 days in a row so he decided to drive the 5 hours and come visit! We both were so excited! In the past he has said a lot of hurtful things(that you would never say to someone you love) to me and there were times I was so through with him bt somehow we would always find a way back into each other lives.... So he comes and he's all I ever wanted. It was so nice to finally put a Body, a person to this voice over the phone and to this person I video chat with. It was lovely meeting him for the first time.. So we hang out at our hotel and talk and figure out where were going for dinner but i can tell Sumthin was bothering him... So he tells me that he's been trying to call his mom and let her no he's made it to me safe but she isn't answering and that's not like her to not answer the phone. So i tell him maybe her phone died. Maybe she's sleeping. Mayb this maybe that just don't worry. And he's like ok but I can tell he was worried out of his mind but also trying to relax... So all of a sudden we begin to have sex. Right wen were done he checks his phone and reads a text from his sis saying mom js got rushed to the hospital because she stop breathing... He tries calling everyone back but gets no answer. He flips out and it seems like he wants to cry. He punches the wall and starts packing his things and saying how he has to leave and go back. I was so scared for him and his family because it's night time, It's raining and he's frustrated and scared and I js felt like he should have waited until the morning to leave but I tried to b there as much as i could because I loved him and I wanted him to b ok as well as his mom. So he gives me a kiss and leave and as soon as I watch him leave i start balling in tears! Lik for once it actually happened but he has to go! Lik we've made so many attempts bt something always happens and now that were face to face This happens. It was so hard sleeping in that hotel by myself that night... So he calls me wen he's home saying he's made it to the hospital and his mom is doing ok and he will call me back. Everything was js so short and me trying to b a good girlfriend i wanted more attention but i understood his situation so I just let it be! So a day goes by and he doesnt call me and I'm wondering lik what's up! I no ur moms sick bt can u at least txt me or let me no everything's ok with u and ur family. I was getting a little worried so I text him and ask him like whats up. Y aren't u picking up my calls. Like what's wrong? Is everything ok? Is there anything I can do?.. He calls me right back cursing me out saying if he doesn't want to answer my calls he doesn't have to. And how I'm to needy and how he can't do this anymore and how he's not sorry for all the hurtful things he said in the past to me. My heart was literally in total pieces. I was so shocked and hurt! I didn't no what to think or do. He made me feel like me trying to b there for him and me showing concern was being " too much in his business" he said u need to fall back cuz this is his family... He broke my heart. It's been almost 3 weeks since he cursed me out and I haven't talk to him called him and he hasn't called me... I've been miserable and down idk what to do. Im tired of crying myself to sleep everynight I'm tired of feeling this pain. Will it ever go away. I knew he was an asshole but I always thought it was just because it was over the phone. I never thought he would b that way after we met bt clearly i wrong. Idk if he said those mean words out of anger and pain from what he's going through or because he really meant it. Idk if I should reach out to him again and c how's everythings going or just leave it! I think about him 24/7 and although he's literally called me every name in the book I still care! I no u may think I'm dumb and insecure bt I really love this guy! I wish I didn't care! But I do! What do i do at this point? I think about his mom and him. He would say things lik I'm going through to much and I'll js explain everything when I see u. I have so much to tell u when I c u. But we didn't get the chance or the time... There has been several signs and things he's done to make me believe he's not the one but the way my heart feels about this guy makes me think mayb we do have Sumthin.... Please help me!!! Should I call him? Should I cry until I cant cry anymore and eventually will js forget about him... What should I do?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (31 December 2011):
 My gut feeling is that he was cheating on somebody and the guilts got him.
Try and put it behind you as a bad experience, you say he said nasty things even before you finally met, that was probably the real person.
His actions show that he doesnt feel the same level of love for you that you do for him. he is a horrible nasty little tit who used and abused you.
Cut him out of your life, remove him from your contacts, go offline for a while and find something else to occupy you until the hurt starts to lessen a little.
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