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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is my boyfriend being thoughtless by refusing to change his facebook status?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4739 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I was having some issues with my bf because of his ex and his friendship and working with her. Anyway he swore to me that although he did really like her, they didn't really have a great relationship, that they didn't have a connection like we do and when it ended he was... (301 words)

My younger man wont pull his weight!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - OMG!! I really do not know what to do? My situation is cunning, baffaling and powerful. I am a 37 young African American Female who is a college graduate, hard working, intelligent, parent. Who tries to do the best in all situations. My problem is that I have been involved ... (299 words)

What exactly goes through a women's head when they allow me to keep treating them like trash?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4582 days ago

29 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am in awe at the way women let me treat them and I just don't get it. Ill see a girl I like and treat her like complete garabage but she still chases after me so I continue to do it because it works every time but I've had enough, I just don't get the logic behind it almo... (494 words)

How much help is too much help?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

29 December 2011 (?) age 41-50 - A guy I met online is coming to town and he's asked me to help him rent a bedsit so I did. The thing is the bedsit is in bad shape and there is basically nothing habitable about it. He'll be arriving late on Saturday ( no shops will be open on Sunday in that neighbourhood and ... (105 words)

Is he attracted?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have this guy friend that I've been hanging out with casually for a few months. We get along well, and seem to have fun. We text all day, pretty much every day, and while there are no direct sexual references during our conversations, they are very "sexually charged". He ... (93 words)

I'm 20 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend will not tell his parents. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear cupid. Im 20 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. my bf of 2 years. still has not told his parents and I dont know what to do. I gave him option to leave if he wanted and he decided to stay but is still making no effort. His parents need to know but I don't want to push, wh... (66 words)

I have no friends! How do I get out of this mess?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - i feel like i have no friends at all they have all gone there seperate ways and just don't bother texting or even replying i don't get invited to any parties or anywhere anymore i feel really left out and feel like im just billy no mates. ive never had a girlfriend or ha... (109 words)

Alcohol ruins relationships right??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (?) age 36-40 - My Mother had always had a drinking problem and it drove my parents to divorce. I made a promise to myself I would never drink or be with someone who drinks since I thought 'If alcohol ruined my parents relationship then it would to the same to me.' Now I am happily in love wit... (121 words)

I want to be first to him but his girlfriend is. How do I get him to put me first?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Aunts, This is killing me. To make a long story short, my best friend and I were close for a long time... like siblings, and we shared so many experiences, outings and moments together and I was always his ''best friend.'' He wants to get into a relationship now, and... (248 words)

If he was the one my feelings wouldn't have changed, would they?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4737 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi guys, i've been with my partner for 4years and we'v been engaged for almost 3 we also have a daughter together.. however for quite a while iv been feeling different around him. I feel like theres no spark anymore and our sex life is basically none existant. I cant help but ... (99 words)

He cheated with me, now I am paranoid about people finding out

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Well i met this guy the other night and the first time we met we connected like he was the one to say this too me and that we couldn't stop looking at each other... The next night him and his girlfriend who is one of my good mates came around to mine ( i live with my cousin) ... (717 words)

He said to try things again in 2012?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4734 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i've been talking to this boy, texting, faceboook, meeting up.. it was all going great until we had a little bit of an arguement but we both said were sorry and all. he started talking to a few girls on his facebook, liking there photos etc.. his mate added me and liked some of ... (127 words)

Does he still love his ex? Because he keeps comparing me to her!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey :) I really need your advice. I go out with this lad, he's 21 and I'm 18. We've both been treated badly in the past by exs before and it helped us to get closer. However, theres this one particular ex that he keeps mentioning! She's called Grace and he was only wit... (219 words)

Do I have a chance to get him back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was with this guy for 2 years, but he broke up with me after a difficult few months of arguments in September. We had an absolutely fabulous relationship up until the last few months. He got with another girl fairly soon after, but she recently broke up with him for an ... (280 words)

Would it be safe for me to meet this guy I met on a site?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I met a guy on the website camtogays.com ; it is a sex webcam site that works like chatroulette. he is 3 years older than me (i am 18 in high school and he is 21 in college). he goes to a college very close to my house. i did not show him my face or give him my name or anything ... (147 words)

How do I remember that drugs/sex/alcohol should not be desensitized?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, I just started high school this year. I've always been sorta religious, such as saving sex for marriage. I also don't want to do drugs or alchohol. But since I've been at my new school, I'm worried that I don't feel the same about that. There are many many students who ... (124 words)

To swing or not to swing that is the question.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

29 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - my question might appear strange to some people but i would appreciate any advice. Years ago i was invited to go to a swingers party. I was sacred and a bit nervous so never went. Since then i have come out of a long relationship and am wondering wether to give it a try. If i ... (71 words)

We love each other but he's married. Do I wait or walk away/

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i am a lady of about 25 years old. I am going out with this guy who had a court weding with an old white woman. We both love each other and anytime i want us to end this relationship because of the white woman he pleads with me to give him time to end it with the woman. Am now ... (78 words)

I became too controlling and she wanted out. What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

29 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - i have being going out for a lass for 4months it was all good until we started rushing things abit n seeing each other everynight. thats when i started making mistakes n became over protective of her i deleted her male friends numbers of er phone n i even went to the exteme of ... (269 words)

Friends can cuddle... Right?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4730 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay, I've been friends with this guy for a good few years now, I'll call him B. I've recently broken up with my previous boyfriend of 7 months, things just weren't working out. I hug all of my guy friends and all of them know a simple hug for a quick few seconds is my sign of ... (337 words)

No present for Christmas and not being enthusiastic about New Year's Eve. Is this a reason to dump the guy I've been with for 3 months?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - No present for Christmas and not being enthusiastic about New Year's Eve. Is this a reason to dump the guy I've been with for 3 months? We were casual for the first month and a half. Then we agreed to date exclusively. He swears he wants to be with me and only me. He even... (207 words)

Should I just take those months off and leave those crazy people in my family behind or should I listen to their opinion and give up on my fiancé?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey there! My mom passed away last spring and it's still pretty hard for me to bear. Plus, my fiancé had to move abroad (2hr plane ride) for work and although we get to see each other every other week, i miss him incredibly. I also miss my mom like crazy. I'm left with a verbal... (287 words)

She broke up with me because I took her forgranted. I want her back!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend also my baby mama of 6yrz broke up with me yesterday. Thing is i knew she loved me and i took her for granted. What i mean z i sometimes disrespected her and mistreated her. Not physically tho. Wel 2dy we finally spoke she says she want out permanently. The past ... (116 words)

Troubled relationship with mom...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

29 December 2011 (?) age 30-35 - My mother is constantly having a go at me and I honestly don't know what to do. I feel like I can not cope any more. I am on the brink of breaking, I have my A levels coming up which are a constant battle to keep up with, i'm trying to fit in and always fear I have peer ... (131 words)

Should I make the first move? Or should he?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I need some help. I am in love with a close friend but I don't know what to do about it. I am a girl but I am like 4 years older than him so who should make the first move? Who should make the first move me a girl or him a guy 4 years younger than me. Please I need all the h... (71 words)

I just went on a vacation and fell in love with the waiter

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - OK I am going to sound absolutely ridiculous. I just went on a vacation and my waiter and I fell in love. He works every day on the cruise ship and gets only 1-2 months off a year, and when he is off he goes home to northern africa. I can go see him where the ship docks 90 ... (260 words)

Puzzling male behavior with this guy! Male advice appreciated!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Well, this guy invited me out once, during the date he arranged to go to the cinema together, then we go to the cinema and he doesn't really talk a lot. then he suggests to have some dinner. then he makes me pay for everything. no problem, I get it, it's not a romantic date, ... (182 words)

Does this married man think that I will be waiting for him forever?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi Cupids. I was involved in an emotional affair with a married man who has two children. I am married with one child. The affair was about to turn physical but he is the one who decided to walk away. I was severely heartbroken and devastated when he walked out of my life a... (413 words)

My boyfriend wants these poisonous "friends" back into his life, but I feel as if my life is being turned upside down again. Am I being unreasonable?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4736 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my partner for 4 years and we have had a great relationship - he's stuck by me through everything even when my mum and brother passed away 2 years ago and everything was hectic. We are now living together, we both work and are very happy together. A year ag... (638 words)

I want to move out. Without him coming too. But how do I tell my BF this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone here my problem my boyfriend and i been together for 4 years since we been together he hasn't worked. But i work 40 hours a week. we said from the start we.want to move in together but i'm thinking of moving into a studio alone for a while, as i'm ready to go but w... (112 words)

My friend made a move on me. I pushed him away. How can I still be friends but still be clear that his move on me was not ok?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - My best friend made a move on me a while back and i sort of freaked out at the time and pushed him away. I regret my actions at the time but he did sort of scare me. We have been friends for years but since that incident he avoids me. I still want to be friends with him, i love ... (140 words)

Alcohol has ruined my parents and I am so helpless

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

29 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - This Christmas was not any different to any other. In fact it was not much different to any other day except they did buy me presents and there are a lot more people. Christmas Eve i prepare all of the vegetables, stuff the turkey and put it in the oven to cook over night. M... (953 words)

I like him, but don't know if he's too messed up to make it worth pursuing. Should I?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My lab partner in my chemistry lab is probably one of the best looking guys I've ever met. The problem is that he doesn't appear, on the surface, to care about anything. He goes to lectures hungover, currently drunk or, on a few occasions, clearly high -- that is if he even ... (371 words)

Should I tell My Mother that my Uncle withheld money he owes me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Last year i did not do so well saving for Christmas. Everybody got something from me but it was not much. I decided to make the effort to save for this year and my Uncle offer to help. I gave him £2 every week for the whole year but when i asked for the money he said he was ... (169 words)

How do I get my family to show my boyfriend the same respect that the other men in the family get?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - When my boyfriend tried to help with some clearing up my mom was icredibly rude to him instead of just saying no thanks. My sister is also sort of rude and sarcastic when she speaks to him, and the attitude seems to have rubbed off on her husband and son. He always offers t... (188 words)

I don't have any female friends to interpret this girl, so can you lot shine some light on this please..

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi all :) I have a friend who ive known for a good 5 years, although last 3 years we only meet every few months due to university. I went out with with her and few friends on a night out. When we got back home from the night out, i went into her room and we started maki... (419 words)

I don't know what to do I just can't seem to make the break.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been having relationship problems for the past 15 months. It all started with me going away on a hen weekend. Upon my return i told my partner who i live with that i would like to take our relationship to the next level. His response was not what i expected!!! Since ... (336 words)

He prefers to spend NYE with his mates rather than with me

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My question is quite a short one, and I’d love to hear lots of opinions on this – since I have been with my bf I have always felt that he likes to be with his friends and not me NYE. We tend to spend Xmas together and although last year we were together NYE, I felt that he ... (206 words)

The Other Woman .. are they JUST friends.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4739 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I am in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I met through a chat forum online and hit it off. We now spend most of our day (even with the time zone problem) talking with each other in one for or another. but I have a problem. Jealousy ... and I'm not sure ... (336 words)

When I flirted with him he didn't flirt back, does he like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - - We kissed once. He was my first kiss. - Even when he was in another country, we chatted a lot. He always initiated them first. - When we were at a party, he'd follow me around (not creepily). - He was touchy around me and whenever we talked, he would stand close to me.... (205 words)

Am I in Middle School Again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I met this guy about 2-3 years ago. Ever since we first met we automatically started texting each other. This has been happening on and off for the passed couple years. His and my parents are actually really close but we met each other in different towns not even knowing we ... (217 words)

He didn't tell his ex he is TAKEN so she keeps texting him

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4736 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months now and we have a great bond. I trust him fully and trully. He is very honest with me and tells me everything about him and his only ex. They have been together for 2 years and so. He thinks that their relationship should not ... (271 words)

Toys for a lesbian couple?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - what toy is best for a lesbian couple?... (8 words)

I got married but I'm still in love with my married boss

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in love with my married boss since few years but recently got married to a guy as per my parents wishes. I told him about this relationship to my husband (though not naming who it is) to avoiding being physical with him. Since then he has been trying to woo and care for me ... (200 words)

I'm not sure I am doing the smart thing with this older boy ...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey. I am a freshman in highschool. This junior and I have been texting on and off for a few months now. He doesn't really talk to me in school. We just smile the casual hey what's up but not a real conversation. I really like him and I know he likes me but I don't feel like I ... (187 words)

My new boyfriend is really sweet and caring but I am in love with his best friend.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4742 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've just begun dating a new guy. I'm 17 (18 in 1.5 months) and he's 22. I haven't known him that long, we've only been together for 3 months. He's a really sweet and caring guy and he makes me really happy. The only problem is that I think he is in love with his best friend. ... (231 words)

Can I get pregnant if he only puts it half way in?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone well I have this sex situation well here it is I have a boyfriend that I been with for 1 year and 3 months we only had half way in sex 4 times that was on april 1st and on and we used lubrication for some reason it feels good when he thrust half way in I could ... (174 words)

I want to know how to get my wife to change her mind

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (M)

age - My wife used to hesitantly perform fellatio. A few years ago she quit. There is no discussion. Just to bring it up pisses her off. I feel like I am worthless because she will not do this for me. I am not a kid, I am over fifty. How do I change her mind or make myself get ... (66 words)

Little contact, should I just her outright if she's not interested?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, I've recently been dating a girl. We have slept together a couple of times and spent a few days together. We met nearly two months ago. We haven't seen each other for nearly a month but have been in contact on the phone however she has become a little distant since we last ... (192 words)

I don't understand how the gym manager knows my name and address

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) age 36-40 - I joined a local gym a few months ago and generally work out there a couple times a week. Today one of the managers came up while I was changing my shoes and made some comment about how I was really getting it this week. (I had been there the previous day and he was also ... (299 words)

Am I ever going to fit into his busy schedule?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been dating my bf for about a little more than a year. I'm still in college but he's just graduated and now has a full time job, along with other extracurricular activities he's been doing for a long time. He claims we won't be able to see each other much because he's ... (220 words)

I'm over my ex, so why is this news making me feel so bad?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my ex were together for 4 years and broke up 10 months ago, but he's been chasing me since then and told me that the rumours were true. He took this girl out and he told me that it was cos he can't say no, she begged him and she knew he had a girlfriend. He humilated me ... (248 words)

He ends his messages with "love (his name)"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4742 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - When a man you dont know that well writes "love" and then his name at the end of a message, does that mean he is interested ?.We met last week and he bought me drinks and danced with me and he also said in the message that he would like to go out with me after christmas.... (57 words)

Do I let go of the one I want the most?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - 4 years ago I met someone special. We dated for about 3 months or so until just before Christmas when he basically grew apart from me and went quiet and wouldn't discuss what was going on with him. He broke up with me when I dug too deep. Later on he told me that he was hung ... (666 words)

Girl that keeps coming into our bar fancies my husband

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Im married 6years. Me and my hubby have just opened up a bar which is going ok. I did hire this girl who i found out a few days later that she fancies him. I have fired her already. But she keeps coming to the bar. Ive said it to my husband and he has noticed it to he just dont ... (82 words)

I need tips on how to give a sexy surprise!

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29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Guys... Some advice pls.. I've been with my man 6 months and only in the last 2 months have we started sleeping together, until now I've been quite shy.. Well when I say shy I mean like its all kissing touching and then straight into it. I'm conscious of my body and he bigs me ... (172 words)

I want to leave but I have nowhere to go.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - How do i get my boyfriend (soon to be ex) to stop eating his boogers, every time i see him hes diggin in his nose and putting it in his nose.. i am so grossed out.. i dont even kiss him anymore, and he gets really really made and throws temper tantrums... honestly, i re... (111 words)

He is himself around me, but with other girls he tries hard. What does that mean?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4742 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm dating my best guy friend that I've known for almost two years already. We've been going out for almost a month now but we were talking for two months before that. Before me he dated this other girl for 1 year and some months but she broke it off and it was 5 months after ... (140 words)

Should I go out with what I feel is a pity date?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

29 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - An acquaintance of mine from high school has asked to take me on a date. Thing is, through the 5 years I've known him, I'm really not attracted to him. It also seems as though he's trying too hard to impress me about himself by saying how he styles his hair, he's changed his... (257 words)