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writes:Ok, so after 4 years after my husband's death, I think I finally found a guy worth my attention. I was online doing the dating thing and stumbled across a guy who I went to high school with 20 years ago. I asked how he has been doing, and we started talking again. We went out 4 times so far, one where he took me to a sushi restaurant alone (didn't expect us to be alone, thought it would be with other friends), then 2 times he came over to hang out and watch tv. Um, I have been out of the dating scene for over 17 years, I don't know much, but does it seem to you guys, that he likes me? I am not sure if he is just shy, but he still hasn't kissed me yet. When we hang out, he flirts with me, and pokes my arm or jokes a lot with me. We went out for my birthday and he was throwing zucchini at me, and feeding me sushi. We went out with my friends that time, but they say that he is TOTALLY into me. I always wonder if he is just being nice. My question is this, how do you tell if your friend likes you? How can I approach the topic of asking him how he feels? Is that too forward for a girl to do, and only on 4 dates? I am dying to know, but don't want to ruin what is there already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): "My question is this, how do you tell if your friend likes you?"
From a guy POV, when s/he doesn't try to take advantage of me at a lonely and vulnerable time in my life by trying to sweet-talk me into bed.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (31 December 2011):
 Wait a little longer. What's the rush? You have a good time together. As long as he keeps coming over the question will answer itself. Don't rush. Go slow. Savor. Enjoy. Be in the moment and not projecting too far into the future. You'll know soon enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): I think I would view it as a yes, he likes you, so much so that he doesn't want to push for sex. He's happy just getting to know you, hanging with you, crushing.
4 dates is short time.
Give it more time. Enjoy the friendship and romance building. *sighs*
Happiest of New Years!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): I would be surprised if he described what the two of you were doing together as dating. What did he get you for your birthday? Did he he do anything special? Has he asked you out on a date? I think if these things aren't happening, he is just a friend. I wouldn't initiate things any longer and see what he does. If it's anything less than asking you out, other then to hang out or go out with friends, then you have your answer.
I get the feeling if you told him of your feelings, you'd get some sort of ambiguous response like seeing where things go or some other unclear message.
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