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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I'm off the pill but we are still having trouble in and out of the bedroom. Is there anything I can do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have had a lot of troubles in the bedroom with my boyfriend. It has been going on for a few months. When i decided to go off the pill, because it was affecting me negatively emotionally and healthwise.. and it also took away all urges to even have sex. i tried several di... (757 words)

I thought he was missing me but now it turns out he's been dating someone new and claims she's 'nice'. I'm terribly hurt!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, please read and offer any advice you can! 6 weeks ago, me and my guy called it a day. He was my flatmate but we were always 'more than friends' so we decided to live separately and give things a go. Things were great to start but things like moving house and new jobs (hi... (356 words)

My asexual husband!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband went to the doctor with his erection problems, and the doctor suggested it, that the cause of his impotence, psychological./ Because all his medical tests were fine. Also, he have night erections. He is totally asexual in the moment, at the last few years. He says ... (138 words)

Any tips on how I can be confident about my body for my boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I have a few questions which Im not comfortable talking to my mother about. Well Im still a virgin because I havent found the right person not waiting for marrige. I knew I wasnt ready when I was younger but I am now and have found a guy Im ready to share myself with but ... (156 words)

He changed plans and is going skiing instead of taking me to my winter formal. Is it okay to go with one of my guy friends? What are your thoughts?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So my boyfriend of a year and a half and I have been planning on going to my senior year winter formal together at my school (he attends a different school). He recently got invited to go skiing during the week of the dance. Upon asking me if I would be mad whether he went ... (214 words)

We have great conversations on the phone, but he won't talk to me on Facebook.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm a teenager btw...Theres this guy i met almost a year ago, he goes to a different school and lives in a different town.So its hard to commit because there is a bit of distance, but not a huge one. I'm just gonna put it out there..i think i love him... He says he loves me but ... (225 words)

I just lost my virginity to my best guy friend, but he is returning to his home country tomorrow. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Here's the whole story. I met this guy when we started secondary school together (we were both 11) and we had a sort of thing going on. We were both too young to know what we actually wanted and both were too immature to think about having a relationship with anyone. Anyhow he ... (429 words)

Someone sent my girlfriend flowers at her office on her birthday.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

12 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - So my girlfriends bday was this pat friday and someone had delivered her over to her job a basket of Yellow roses with red tip, purple roses, yellow daisys and other flowers and a plush version of her favorite character. She initially thought that I had sent them and I told her ... (258 words)

I've lost my libido!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am Gay Guy, in a Civil partnership. I have appeared to lost my libido, and my partner has turned to using phone lines for his sexual release. I get very frustrated with him, and at a loss as how to handle this.... (43 words)

Should I go to the concert and can I rely on this girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm not sure if i should still go to this concert or not. I met a girl in London a few months ago at a fan party for an actor. We have been intouch a lot since then on facebook, and i'm supposed to be staying at her house for a couple of days later this week, from Thursday ... (535 words)

How can I make my boyfriend (in his 40's) feel really special?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4725 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Can I ask any guys who have been in a long term relationship that has not worked or have divorced ...in the very early stages of a new relationship (or even before it has begun) what sort of things can a woman do that make you feel really special, treasured and loved? I don't ... (106 words)

Do teenage guys only want sex, or does my boyfriend sound different?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I have been dating my current boyfriend for three months but have been friends with him for two years. We talk daily, usually on the phone or skype because we live half an hour away from each other. He says he loves me frequently, and I know I love him, (I had been secretly ... (308 words)

Pregnant, alone and trying to find my way.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Im 18 going on 19, and I was sleeping with my ex fiance, trying to slowly win him back, then I got pregnant. I'm 12 weeks along now, and I moved up to Oregon with my aunt and uncle. He's down in California and is still in shock. He wants to be there for the kid, and we're sorta ... (125 words)

I like a confusing guy, do you think this sounds like its worth it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - At my Uni, there's a very politically involved guy who's hated by the majority of people and almost worshipped by the few who don't; my group of friends was among the people who disliked him, so to speak. I added him on Facebook out of curiosity, to see if there was more to him ... (1340 words)

I'm having self-esteem issues about my figure.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey guys, This isn't exactly a relationship question but I have been feeling badly and could really use your help! Like everyone, I want so badly to be attractive and I desperately want a nice figure and when I see other women with nice figures, I feel really inadequat... (204 words)

Should I hope things will change or give up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend five years and we've lived together four. The last year things have been odd between us. I feel like our relationship is going down a dead-end. I would like to have kids and get married someday. I have told this to him many times and ... (100 words)

My boyfriend won't have sex with me when his kids are visiting at all.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - The newest idea of my live in boyfirend? We can not have sex when his kids are over (every other week) because he is afraid that they can "walk in" on us and get traumatized! They are 5 and 9. He does not want to lock the door because he does not want to "lock them out." I ... (206 words)

Is going to a strip club like cheating? Is it worth losing someone you love to go?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

12 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My friends and I were having this debate over the fact my girl and I agreed with each other that neither one of us would be okay if the other went to strip clubs. They happen to believe I am submissive to my gf, when in fact it was a MUTUAL decision and she is also NOT goin... (210 words)

Does he have something to hide?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Does anyone else think that this guy has something to hide? Ive being going with this guy for over a year and I have never met his friends apart from one. I have never met any of his family. His family know about me but to how much i dont know. He has no children there is no ex... (199 words)

Do you think he's interested?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok I really fancy this guy at university and we’ve talked a little over the past year but not really a lot. The other day I typed ‘I’m sleeping’ as my Facebook status in Norwegian (I can speak Norwegian, but we both live in England and I am NOT Norwegian) He’s Swedish and he ... (179 words)

My fiance's ex makes me uncomfortable... should I invite her to the wedding anyway?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So I can't decide whether I want one of my fiance's best friends to come to our wedding. We are having a very small wedding - basically just family and very few friends due to cost and the fact that it is going to be a very informal wedding (no big reception after, just goin... (483 words)

Different religions, ages, countries, and cultures...should we even try?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4703 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi guys, So i'm in a bit of a pickle, I'm 31 and have fallen in love with a wonderful man...only we can't be together. I'm a 31 year old female from London whom lives in the city and I'm from a middle class Jewish family. I am educated with a degree and am a qualified... (406 words)

Am I just emotional or is this true love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I spend a lot of time together. We haven't gone without seeing each other more than a couple of days in the entire 17 months we've known each other. Over the last few months I've felt more and more lonely when we're apart. I get really sad and emotional when ... (168 words)

I cant make myself leave him even though I know I should!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid I am with my bf for 2 years. I never really introduced me to his friends as gf. For them i was just his friend, he is not cheating on me, so i never really raised any issues on it. He never really talked about our future. Yesterday he added his profile in a d... (184 words)

Have I lost my virginity and could I be pregnant?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi...I'm a 21year old and I'm still a virgin so I'm really clueless about sex. My boyfriend and I were making out so things got heated, we both ended with just our underwear on. I don't know if this is regarded dry sex or not but I was laying flat on top of the bed with my legs ... (112 words)

Am I getting used again and if so how can I stop myself feeling this way about him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I split up with my partner of 18 years this year as we had a shambolic relationship, i was totally neglected and just felt used by him. Since I got a new lease of life, i lost 4 stone in weight and made a lot of new friends. Unfortunately i have this bad habit of sleeping ... (182 words)

Other women don't get on with my fiance, help!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

12 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi i just wonder if theres anyone out their who can give me some advice. I have been with my fiance for coming on 9 years, she is a beautiful, caring although sometimes hotheaded woman lol but all in all she is a good girl with great morals. We have a gorgeous soon of 5 ... (1226 words)

Is my trust issue all in my head? Will he be hurt if I ask him about this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So I think this problem is with me and my trust issues, but I'm not sure. We've been together about a year. I know he loves me. After talking with him about a lot of things, more and more he has made his affection for me more obvious--he has opened up to me and reaches out ... (245 words)

Discovered his secret phone and dating site registrations...but he has managed to turn it around on me for violating his privacy!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I discovered that my boyfriend of 4 years has been registered on several dating sites and texting off a secret cell phone. I asked him what he thought he was doing and he went very serious and asked me why I have violated his privacy. He has offered no explanation and turns it ... (64 words)

My ex dumped me because of my body hair and now I am so insecure over this!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - so I have a bit of an insecurity and a recent boyfriend who dumped me over it has made me feel so much worse about it. I am asian and I do have some excess body hair. my back and stomach are quite hairy. I pretty much have some hair all over my body and its something i get ... (148 words)

How can I please him sexually without sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok another question for the guys..girls feel free to answer How do you sexually please a guy without having sex? And yes you will all say hand job and blowjob...but can I have more detail please...see this guy he doesn't show any emotion or pleasure at all wen I gave him a... (111 words)

Sexual issues... my bf doesn't get hard!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - This is a question for the guys, girls feel free to answer My question is, I'm dating this new guy, and his not like my other boyfriends, they were hard ...but this guy...he won't even get a hard wen we sit and I put my hand in his pants and rub his penis...he'l onl... (101 words)

My husband is saying hurtful comments about my weight! Help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I need help! I have only been married 1yr. Well next month will make it a year. We have been together 3years though. I am in the military and i am currently deployed. I work out a lot to keep stress down, and to give myself something to do. My husband just just told me that i ... (387 words)

I find it odd how the guy I like doesn't have that giddy kid feeling on me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I find it odd how the guy I like doesn't have that giddy kid feeling on me. I don't find that I can't stop smiling when I talk to him, I don't get that feeling in my stomach or any of that sort that you do when you like someone. I don't even find myself feeling something when I ... (140 words)

My bisexual/lesbian friend dislikes gay men!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Dear cupid, My best friend is a female bisexual and she's great, but I have one problem and its the fact that she hates gay men. I'm so fed up with her double standards its drives me up the walls. Sometimes she calls them names like F****t and homo and it upsets me so muc... (254 words)

I feel like our relationship has reached its end...but I am struggling to let go. Any ideas?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I’m finding it hard to break up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years (I’m 20 and he is 22). He is my first love and he is also my first sexual experience. When we first started dating it was pretty rocky. I thought about breaking up with him but my friend told me to give it time ... (285 words)

Its gotten ugly between me & my ex. Should I try to make it right?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my ex left me out of nowhere, then randomly a week later called me one night, because he heard i saw one of my exs that he doesnt get along with, he was going off on me saying "did you f**k him did you f**k him!?!?" i finally got off the phone with him and he called back a ... (350 words)

I am 15 but attracted to much older men. Is something wrong with me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I want a real man is that so wrong? but the problem is i'm 15 and no real man would go for someone as young as me, i understand that i'm going through "changes" but I've always been more mature for my age and i find myself day dreaming about older men by older i mean about ... (81 words)

I'm 15 and my family hasn't talk to me since I told them I'm pregnant. How do I get them back?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 15 and having a baby what should i do? i'm keeping the baby but my family hasn't talk to me since I told them. I want my family back, so what should I do? I can't do this on my own, they want nothing to do with me. ... (49 words)

I can't understand why she is acting like this... Is she trying to punish me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

12 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - She's 21, and i'm in my late 20's; we're in grad. school together. She was obviously interested in me for over a month. Then, there was some petty drama (frustration--finals). After, she would answer my calls, but then be evasive. Then she started ignoring me and talking to my ... (144 words)

I need opinions please? Have I been rejected??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I met this girl the other day when my friend took me to another friends house. We all started to play poker, and she didn't know how.being the great guy I am, I volunteered to sit out a few hands and teach her! Now, we began talking as I'm doing so, and she broke the contact ... (167 words)

Should I contact him? Is he hinting that he misses me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a short term ex I dated for a month and a half. He was very into me: asking me to be exclusive early on, driving multiple times to see me on weekdays (I live a couple hours away from him), buying little gifts for me and for my sister he never met, taking an interest in ... (494 words)

My bf is chatting online with girls... should this bother me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend has that game word with friends and all these girls chat with him an I read one an a girl said she was layin in bed he could join he didn't say anything bad back he just put lol an what? Should this worry me. Or is it just a guy thing that all guys do. ... (58 words)

I keep falling for guys who are gay?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a problem- I'm in my 30s, female, and I keep falling for guys who are charming, smart - and guess what! Gay! No, these are not the "obvious" ones. They tend to be the gentlemanly reserved kind who wears sweaters, and who are sincere and idealistic.. (I think ) this is ... (244 words)

How much communication should I expect?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I used to text every day and talk on the phone at night daily. We do this because we can only see each other on weekends because he lives an hour away from me. In the last couple weeks, I noticed that he doesn't text as much and on some days he even skips ... (135 words)

How can I stay positive, if I feel that my life is ruined by bad fate or bad luck?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - How can you keep positive attitude, if all what happens in your life , makes you miserable? I tried my best in life, but I got really bad cards to play with. So things will not turn around any time soon, also some of the bad things caused permanent damage. Everything is wron... (162 words)

I worry about my stomach rumbles in class. How can I shake this off and get this worried stress out my brain?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

12 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - It's my senior year in high school and I can't enjoy it because I have my mind set on worrying about something stupid. I can't help but to think about my stomach making funny noises. I can't focus on paying attention and doing my work because when the class is quiet I alwa... (185 words)

We are both virgins. And committed to each other. But what can I do about my erectile issues?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4722 days ago

12 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a 19 year old male and I started dating a girl from my university dorm this school year. Up until then, neither of us had a very serious relationship and both of us are virgins. Things have progressed naturally and we both enjoy spending time with each other very much. ... (773 words)

Can a gay guy fall for a woman? He's my flatmate and we are really good friends.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi there. I have a problem right now. Recently I moved in a flat sharing with more people and after 5 months living here I have a question about my flatmate. We have become like soulmates, we spend 24 hours together and we love it, it is just happening because even if we try ... (339 words)

I'm devastated. She hasn't cheated yet, but is our marriage unravelling? She wants to try other men for sex.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

12 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - After a night of great sex my wife of 20 years informed me that she had begun thinking more and more of sex with other men. I pressed her a little if she meant like a three-way or more, and she said no, just one person. She didn't have anybody in mind, just the taboo natu... (196 words)

Now that we've danced together, and he seemed to really like me, should I introduce myself to him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4728 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Alright, so I went to what the students call my school's "s^^t dance". I danced with my friends and had a really great time until I danced with a foreign exchange student from the Czech Republic. He seemed to really like me, but I don't know him at all. I don't know his name... (82 words)

Questions about my sex life on the first date

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

12 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Today I went out with a guy for the first time- we've got some mutual acquaintances and that's how we got to meet. Date went well enough- the standard movie + eating one. He seems cute, easy going, laid back, kind to people and very good looking. At one point while talk... (358 words)