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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I'm losing all sexual attraction towards my boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (?) age 30-35 - I'm losing all sexual attraction towards my bf. He used to be thinner and well-built and his face wasn't as round. Now, 2 years later, he never exercises, eats more, sleeps a lot and has gained, I would say, over 30 pounds. It's visible to everyone. The way he walks, the way he ... (218 words)

My wife's dad only addresses cards and letters to her

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - The subject says it all. I have been married to my wife for 19 years now. Her dad lives in Florida and we live in California, so we don't see him but once a year or so (twice this year). However, when we do meet it is very cordial. There's never been any bad blood. ... (412 words)

Don't know how to tell his parents we're pregnant! Needing advice!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been in a relationship w/ my bf for over 2 years now. We are looking at getting engaged in 2012 and getting married in 2013. At age 16 I was told I wouldn't be able to conceive naturally and would need fertility drugs in order to get pregnant (my cycles run about 1x... (335 words)

Have you ever gotten to the end of your teenaged years and realized you didn't do anything?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4699 days ago

21 December 2011 (F) age 30-35 - I'm actually quite annoyed at myself, i'm 19 and i don't feel like i've lived my teenage life to the fullest! I haven't slept with anyone.. STILL. I haven't experimented or at least tried one drug, something even small such as weed. I haven't had a relationship ever, so I have ... (270 words)

I can't make my b/f cum without his assistance

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok this is really embarrasing for me but I really need help I'm desperate :(. I can't really make my boyfriend come without his assistance ( him thrusting more etc ). When we're in the middle of doing something if I,m doing it I can't finish because I get tired :/ He said it ... (81 words)

FWB said I love you, then took it back?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Today I was talking to my fwb when towards the end of the phone call he said "I love you". I immediately replied with "what" since it was such a shock and he repeated it. I said "no you don't" and said bye and hung up. A few minutes later he text me: " i shouldn't lie li... (133 words)

I'm 16. Can I get an IUD?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Basically, I'm 16 and DO NOT want children for a while. I'm on the pill, but I don't trust it. I hate using condoms- they're too small for my boyfriend, but the large ones are too big, and the friction from them hurts me. So I was wondering- would I be able to get an IUD an... (81 words)

My b/f was messing around with his ex for much longer than what he led me to believe. Should I let it go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I met my boyfriend in March 2011 and at the time he said he had broken up with his ex in April 2010. We have dated ever since (about 9 months). This ex did cause some problems with us because he was letting her live in his parents' rental because she was evicted which was only... (465 words)

LDR Boyfriend hasn't been replying to me- No idea why.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello all, I may be reading into this too much, but I thought I would look for insight from other people. I am in a LDR (In different countries)with a guy things have been great, in fact more than great. We talk every single day for hours on end and still can't get enough... (164 words)

I turned down my ex because I have feelings for my best friend, but I don't plan on telling my best friend, so I'm wondering if I made the right decision.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been talking to my ex recently, and he asked me if I want to get back together. I told him that I like someone else and that we shouldn't be together if I can't have feelings only for him. I'm in love with my best friend, but I don't plan on telling him because I just ... (249 words)

My husband's family don't respect my kitchen

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband had told me that some of his fathers friends were stopping by because they were driving up from Florida to Ny and they were stopping through. I had never met these people but it turned out they were actually staying at our house. No problem. The deal is that when ... (185 words)

No matter how much I spend my gift isn't likely to please his mother

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (?) age 30-35 - My boyfriend's mom is ridiculously materialistic. She's like a walking talking brand name. She makes fun of poor people and judges them. Well this year she's holding a huge party and giving away extravagant gifts for Christmas (perfumes, Luis Vuitton wallets, etc. I know half ... (274 words)

I wasn't entirely sure about commitment and let him go. Now I know I was wrong.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Please someone shed some light on my heavy heart. I recently broke up with my partner of 8years. I was deeply in love with him..almost to obsession. He wanted to get married and start a family but throughout our r/ship, there were a lot of red flags. He could be very aggressi... (294 words)

Boyfriend needs a rather large loan. What to do? Help!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My 24 year old boyfriend took out a loan to get some repairs done on his car, without realizing that he would have to change his insurance to be eligible for the loan. Now he's paying double what he would pay for car insurance AND an extra $50 per month to pay for the loan on ... (221 words)

Is she being completely honest with me or lying about something?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend and I recently got back together after being broken up for about a year. We've been back together since September of this year. Everything was great, emotionally and physically, for the first month. Then, all of a sudden, she's not turned on anymore. She went from ... (89 words)

Why ignore my messages after a heart-to-heart with me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - why would she does this? to cut a extremley long story short.... i added a girl my younger bro knows at school on facebook (ther both 14) got talking, realy liked her she realy likes me (i dont fancy her (yet) i dunno how she feals about me)having a laugh flirting just ... (481 words)

Has anyone ever spent New Year's Eve alone?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey aunts! So, I'm going through a pretty rocky phase in my life (my mom passed away last spring, I recently broke up with my 5year bf and I'm very heartbroken). Looks like I'm gonna be spending New Years Eve alone. I know it's a super loser thing and the mere thought of it ... (92 words)

How do I keep his cheating from affecting our kids?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - my husband cheated on me, so many questions coming out in my mind, he said and promise me that its really over with d other woman but so many evidence coming out from d shelter keeps me in pain, what should and must i do in order not to affect our kids? what in this world ... (102 words)

Found out my fiance has been cheating....should I go ahead with the wedding or not?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Im about to get married with my bf of 2years. Ours was a long distance relationship for a year as we are both working abroad. Communication had been constant, almost everyday we did get in touch. Never did i doubted my bf's love and sincerity especially when he proposed. I... (328 words)

Is love really worth fighting for? Should you have to fight for love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Is love really worth fighting for. weve all seen it in the movies where the hero saves the planet defeats the bad guys and tattered and torn he gets the girl or the girl gets the guy.... roll credits. In the movies the hero faces impossible odds and survives things that kill... (192 words)

Is sex nessassary for a happy life?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - How important is sex in life? Apart from the whole producing life bit. Is sex necessary for a happy life. Sex causes a lot of problems in peoples lives from unwanted children to emotional and physical complications. If sex was not a factor in life would you be more productive ... (51 words)

I want my husband to dress as a woman permanently, are there any pro's or con's to my plans? Has anyone else pulled this off before?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3969 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - A few months ago I talked my 25 year old husband into dressing up in my clothes during sex play. He is a small framed somewhat effeminate, 5'8" 145 pound guy. I was very much amazed and turned on by how much he looked like a real female. Here is where I am stuck. I seem to have ... (160 words)

Is he scared of taking that next step? Or has he changed his mind about getting engaged?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Background: My boyfriend and I are both 21, and have been faithfully together for 4.5 years. Right from the start, we both felt that we'd found 'the one', and he made it very clear that he hopes to marry me one day (3 weeks into the relationship he asked me to 'marry him', as... (226 words)

Does your families opinion have bearing on the race of those you date?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Would you ever not date a particular ethnicity because of your families opinion?... (13 words)

Is beauty a blessing or a curse?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Do extremely attractive people have a more difficult time maintaining a relationship? With all their options and the multitudes drooling over them does it make it more difficult for beautiful people to stay in a relationship.... (39 words)

Fell in love with a guy after a week and now trying to have a LDR in another language! Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So. Problem. I'm absolutely in love with a wonderful young man who I met during the summer over the course of a week. After that week, of course, we each returned to our respective homes, and are now literally thousands of miles apart. The chance of me seeing him again before... (360 words)

How do you get a boy's number?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay i like this guy right, well we talk but not a lot. i really want to get to know him and get his number but thats just it, i dont know how to get a guys number! can sombody please tell me how to get a boys number? please and thanks... (52 words)

Birthday call from my ex (part 2). Is his reason more obvious?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Basically, me and my ex remained friends after we broke up. I wasn't so inclined with the idea so much and right now, I completely regret it. I don't understand half of the things he says or whether if he actually means it. Last night we were talking and I said to him that... (413 words)

Guys: Would you be awkward about this or let it go and forget about it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My friend has been seriously pissing me off just because someone asked him if he liked me. He just literally ignores me. He said to me a few months ago that the person asked him if he liked me and he got scared if this person told everyone else. I'm so sick and tired of try... (181 words)

I don't know how to ask for anal anymore!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Me and my wife have a nice intimacy hot life, everytime, love, careless, so hot, so hot everytime we have it! She loves so much when i put my finger in her anus but when i try to have an anal intercourse with her she doesn't want it! Why she doesn't want it anymore? I don't ... (102 words)

I am so in love and really want to start a life with my Bf, but we are still rather young. Am I being irrational? Should I tell him how seriously I feel for him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - In the midst of a joking conversation, my boyfriend (22) and I (21) of six months somehow got on to the subject of children and I joked that because of one of his dorky, but lovely and endearing traits (Star Wars obsession) we shouldnt procreate, otherwise we'll spawn more ... (422 words)

Do you think she does these things because she likes me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - ok here is my question... I just turned 19,and am quite gud lukin from face to body physique, overall quite attractive.........I just went to college 6 months before,there's girl n i like her(she prettie n sexy) but i hav no idea she likes me or not,at times we do hav a little... (229 words)

Should I choose a major that I like or challenge myself to something new that I have an interest in?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm graduating next year and I having a heard time choosing a major my choices are business management and graphic design. I can't choose between the because it's pros and cons the reasons are I love to draw industrial design and graphic design is what I wanna do. But I ... (156 words)

Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Sometimes the mother wants an abortion and the father wants her to have the baby. Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights? A Post in here made me think of this question. Would like to hear peoples opinions on it. Keep in mind in most... (92 words)

My co-workers tell me this older guy is looking to settle down, and I don't know if continue whatever it is that we are because I'm not what he's looking for

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've been talking to my coworker for a good few weeks, not too long really. He's about 8 years older than me, and we talk constantly. we'll text eachother literally all day until almost 5am (not all nights). He'll always text me goodnight and all that jazz. And recently ... (144 words)

I don’t know if the issue is me being insecure or jealous, or his past, how he is, his stubborness, meaness and defensiveness or a combination of it all

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So I have known this guy for about 4 years but we barely spoken until this year. He had a girlfriend when I met him and SHE just broke up with him last year. I ran into him again about May of this year and we started talking and became very close then started dating. I ... (1695 words)

How do I cope with this awful family secret of his?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - my husband recently(10months ago) told me that he and his adopted sister was having sex as kids and well through thier teen years (9-16)??? / My husband was adopted into a home of well over 13kids, three were birth children to the lady that took him in, along with his four ... (801 words)

How do you handle everyone around you in a relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I go to post-secondary school with people who are all older than me and at different stages of their life. They all seem to be in a relationship. I feel sad that I'm alone or that I have so many people around me there that live with their loved one and gets to see them ... (449 words)

When I'm horny, I make very poor decisions!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Alright so im just going to say this. When I am horny i make very poor decisions. This girl I dated for awhile turned out to be crazy. Like faking a pregnancy crazy...anyway I dont want anything to do with her but when Im in the mood I think of her and how much I want her ... (97 words)

I feel as if our lives are just wasting away!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years now and we really have a great relationship with one another. :) It's just that he never really wants to go out and do anything. He says he just doesn't get much enjoyment out of anything anymore.. and so all we ever do ... (230 words)

Are we not suited for each other? Should I break up with my boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend of 2 years is annoying me. Iv been very supportive of his college and work. I asked him to do afew things around christmas now exams are over and he cant as hes to work. In the last few weeks his behaviour has been particularly annoying me. I notice when hes out, ... (234 words)

Now that she's angry, should I continue following her father's advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So my ex, who lives with me, broke up with me 2 months ago. She claimed almost a week ago she was confused and didnt know what to do, she told me she missed me and she didnt want to hurt me, she cried a little. The day after she told me the same thing and asked if she cou... (961 words)

My son would be heartbroken to find out his coach has been cheating with my wife, his mother!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Dear reader, For several years I have been suspicious of my wife cheating me. Recently some things have happened that truly made me believe she was cheating on me. So, I launched my own personal Investigation with the help of the Internet I picked up a few Audio recorders, ... (186 words)

Why do girls only want to be friends?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Why do girls only want to be friends. im tried of being led on by them and it sucks. i want a girl that will like me for a long time someone that will care about me.please help... (38 words)

Why does this guy only text me after 11pm?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello everyone, so there's this guy. I have had feelings for him in the past, but he's currently in a relationship. I really don't know my feelings for him right now. I've hung out with him recently, and I've noticed that (unless he wants to set up plans to hang out) he only ... (68 words)

My husband doesn't care anymore!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age - I feel like my husband just doesnt care anymore. He never discusses any problems we are having but will always complian about my son. We havent had sex in over two months and the last time it took alot of convincing on my part. He sleeps all the time whenhe is home and always ... (207 words)

Why cant my ex just forgive me for cheating on him? I regret my actions yet he's stubborn as hell

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4709 days ago

21 December 2011 (F) age 30-35 - I know it's long, hope someone wants to read it though.. I really want to get back with my ex boyfriend who I had 5 years ago (at this time i was 15 and he was 19). He was my first love and I was his, we had a wonderful relationship and we were so in love with either, but... (793 words)

What does his status mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my bf put up a status on fb for a few moments and went straight offfline again, and it worries me what he wrote.. "My fragile heart is been done so wroong... It seems like pain is been my only friend :'( " we're having no problems at the moment, our relationship is growin s... (150 words)

Is sarcasm a bad trait?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Is sarcasm a bad trait to have? Do guys not like sarcasm? Not bad sarcasm just a mild if-you-ask-a-stupid-?-I'll-give-a-sarcastic-answer kind of sarcasm. Im just wondering because thts a really big trait of mine .. :P... (37 words)

Should I try to date this girl whether I'm ready or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Been talking to someone for a few months now online.. Haven't met yet, hopefully after xmas.. We talk almost everyday and have become pretty close as friends.. I like her and I know she likes me(there are signs such as her liking/commenting on some of my stupidest posts and c... (283 words)

I thought she might like me, but then she made sure I seen her kissing another girl!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - A couple of days ago I met a very nice girl in a disco, I liked her so much. I saw her again another day, we talked and we took a few drinks together but I didn't ask her out. Last Friday I saw her there with other girl; she looked at me and I was expecting her to be alone but ... (107 words)

Married and not interested in other men, but women catch my eye

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - ive been with my husband for six years now, but married for two, but since weve been married i don't so much as look at another man, but women seems to catch my eye? ive never been with a woman before, but came close, i didnt have the guts to make the move at the time, or am i ... (67 words)

Paranormal Activity?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel like I'm going crazy. I'm so scared right now and I suppose I've been feeling uneasy for some time, I've just been trying to ignore it... But I’m really starting to think that there might be something in my house. It started off small. The feeling of being watched, m... (475 words)

Should he come over to my sister's place at all, given how awkward his last visit was?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so I've been dating a wonderful man for almost a year and a half now. He's 24 and I'm 21, and we get along really well and are still quite happy with one another. The only problem with him is that he is incredibly socially awkward, and sometimes doesn't get the nonverbal ... (440 words)