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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I'm really confused. Do I stay with my BF or go to this other guy? And how will it affects the kids?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Need advice please. I have been with the father of my kids for six years now. We have had our up and downs. We have even split up a few times and got back together within days. About 1 1/2 years ago I started my job unknowing at the time that this guy worked there also that... (381 words)

Do I throw away my FWB 1.5 year relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been seeing.. Well, more like a FWB to a man we'll call J for about a year and a half. I care a lot about him but our relationship has never really gotten deeper than sex. Well for J it seems. I've mentioned that I would like us to be more, but J keeps saying he doesn't ... (226 words)

18 year old virgin getting married don't know anything about romance

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hello , im 18 years and 6 months from now im going to get married I don't know anything about sex I never had sex and I know how to have sex but I don't what man and wife doing in bed before having sex do they talk or laugh or i dont im still a virgin as you allready know and ... (102 words)

Would it be too awkward to ask her to share a room with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Sometimes, lately, I have been having feelings for a close friend. She's been like a sister, and i know we love each other in that way. Part of me wants more. But it isn't to be I feel. For a while I have wanted her to come and stay with me in university. Would mean s... (87 words)

How do I completely cut my ex out of my life? He keeps writing to me as if there is nothing wrong. He's put me off Online dating forever

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4709 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I "dated" this guy for a year before we broke up. We met online and during that year I never fully trusted him. I always felt like something was wrong or off in some way, that he wasn't telling me everything. I mean, I never met his friends, I don't even know if he has any, or ... (462 words)

How do I make this older guy stop following me around? He doesn't know me, but I know who he is. He creeps me out.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4711 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi erm well theres this guys who older like in his the 30's or late 20's not really sure how old he is but really hes been following me around when ever he see's me and just stares like seriously its kinda staring to creep me out i don't think he actually knows me but i... (175 words)

His Mom tells lies about me. We have a baby girl. Should I wait until he wants to come back to me? Or contact him first?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Just had a huge fight with my boyfriend, his mom and sister. He was drunk and was arguing with my mom and me....he was saying all kinds of things to us and well my mom was screaming things back so it turned out to be a huge fight! We ended up breaking up so we´re not together ... (139 words)

My Bf thought I was a virgin, because I lied. But someone sent a pix to him disproving that. How do I fix this?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4711 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Please don't judge me, I know what I did was wrong. But when I meet my current boyfriend I couldn't believe having found such a lovely guy. Having been used by guys in the past, my previous relationship were just sex. No love at all. But this guy was completely different, he ... (277 words)

He teases me and can be sarcastic. But could he like me romantically?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4710 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - We've been working together (I know, work is not the best place to get a crush, but I can't help it!) for about a month now, and in that time we've created a pretty friendly relationship. We're very jokey and sarcastic with each other and we tease each other a lot. There have ... (375 words)

He's a really sweet guy. But now it's been 2 days of silence? Should I phone him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I met a very sweet guy online who I really got on well with. Due to him working abroad we spoke almost everyday for around 2 months before we met. We had our first date just before Christmas and I thought it went really well, we have lots in Common and laughed at lot. At t... (260 words)

I haven't heard from him for 2 days!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

He can't have loved me like I thought! Is he a loser?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4711 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Me an my x broke up 3 months ago. I have never heard off him since. I did cheat on him, but i was drunk and it meant nothing. He changed his number. He cannot love me like i thought because he would have wanted to sort our problems out. Is it time to let go? Do you think he's a ... (62 words)

How do I explain my love for my new Bf to my family? I am afraid they will not accept him due to his military background

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age - Hi Everyone, Things in my life were difficult for a few years. Over the last year, life took a turn for the better and I'm so much happier now. I have got a better job, moved into a home of my own with my kids and built up a circle of friends again. I've also met t... (230 words)

Its really hard for me to tell if a man is interested in being serious

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello dearcupid, I have had a bit of dating experience, but only one serious relationship. It's really hard for me to tell if a man is interested in being serious! I was hoping you could tell me some signs that he is seriously interested, and not just after sex? I'm not lo... (476 words)

Advice for responding to this text?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Merry Christmas all! I met a girl on the train the other day and, although incredibly unlike me, I started talking to her and asked for her number and if she wanted to go for a drink. She gave it to me and then immediately started texting me when off the train. After ab... (153 words)

How do I get over longing for a horse of my own?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I realize that this is going to come across as feeling sorry for myself, and am thankful for what I DO have, but I can't help my heart's desires and I can't stop loving something that I love. I'm 32 years old, and I felt this way as a child but thought I would eventually... (575 words)

I think I destroyed my relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i have just done the hardest thing i have ever had to do in my life. I think I destroyed my relationship. I have been feeling distant for months, and have been trying so hard to make this work. But I know he loves me, and I know I love him. He knows he hasn't been work... (482 words)

Can I operate to become a virgin again?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4185 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Can i have my virginity back by doing an operation?... (10 words)

I prefer to be alone! I don't want to be loved by anybody...right?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Merry Christmas! Hope everybody is having fun. My question stems from my wish to not be loved. I'm 22 and in my senior year at a university. I've never been in a relationship or had any sexual relations before, I don't interact very well with my family members, we just don't ... (378 words)

My dog died and now I feel incredibly depressed and guilty

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3594 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey guys, This isn't about a romantic relationship but my heart is shattered in pieces all over the floor. I am grieving for my baby angel, a beautiful German Shepherd. She was 15 years old and she gave me unconditional love for half of my life. She came into my life when... (1679 words)

Why has ex on facebook, 'renewed' his wall visibility?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Any advice to me, who is single, and is NEVER getting in a relationship again, EVER EVER NEVER AGAIN...EVER, as to a facebook short term, but last ex, who has just posted he's in a relationship? (After 'appearing' to have 'hidden' his wall for the last month and a half'... ... (178 words)

I love him, but I keep denying it

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (?) age 30-35 - I'm very young, still. But when I think about my future, I think of it being with one person only. In highschool, I was a diver, school president, had lots of dates, took AP classes. I didn't find a boy I ever really liked. Except one. We became the best of friends thro... (342 words)

I was told to get a grip and that my issues were causing me to be ultra-critical...The problem is that I keep doing it.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been dating a woman for about two months now and dont seem to be able to stop myself destroying something that could be great. I was previously in a long term relationship which was ended by my partner kissing another man. This devastated me. I met my current partn... (510 words)

Should I walk away from this relationship for my partners sake?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok so I have asked for help here before and you aunts have been so sweet to me. This is an actual relationship question. Basically as some of you know I'm trasnsgender. Born into a male body but defiantly female inside. I do have trouble finding friends and even more trouble ... (281 words)

I am in love with a much older guy, but have a boyfriend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 16 and when I was younger I played a sport to national standard and met a great number of people in the years I was playing, but I had to 'retire' at the age of 12 when a failed operation left me with a bad arm. I met the man in question when I was around 8 and as I was on... (420 words)

We're together 24/7, what can we do to get our relationship back on track?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey there, thank you guys in advance for your help. Me and my boyfriend were in a long distance relationship for 1 and a ahlf years. Then (because of problems at home) I moved 200 miles away from home and moved in with him and his mum. For the record, if there wasn't pro... (190 words)

Are his actions showing that he missed me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 19. I've been seeing this guy for 3 months now. We aren't in a relationship, we're basically seeing each other/unofficially dating and seeing how things go between us. The last time I saw him was last week Sunday. Now usually whenever we talk, its always me who initiates... (472 words)

Dating again and need some advice!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all! Happy Holidays!! I need advice please. I'm dating again after an 8 year relationship. I've been single for the last 3 years finishing college and getting on my feet. I'm 30 now and dating has really changed in my eyes. also, I was so young the last time I as single that ... (145 words)

Everytime I tru to end the relationship, he tells me "I don't know what may happen in the future."

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend of 14 months lives with his girlfriend of 4yrs... Everytime I try to end the relationship he tells me i don't know what may happen in the future. What should i do?... (34 words)

I'm needy...She's independent.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4711 days ago

26 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm in a well very unique relationship. I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 30 with 2 kids and has been married twice. We've been dating for almost 4 months now, then we moved in together after a month for monitary purposes which is working. I'm in the US Navy and she works for a ... (423 words)

My b/f throws it in my face that he has 2 kids and all that I have is a cat!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello everyone I'm looking for advice and anyone else who has been through this. I have been with my partner for 2 years. I love him most of the time. We do nearly everything together and are affectionate, and love each others company. We always make each other laugh. ... (446 words)

How do I hide that I'm no longer a virgin?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4710 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am deeply in love with a boy.one day i mate((sex) with a condam) with his at that time my hyman was broken and bleeded. now he doesn't have any interest in me so can i get marry another person? if so can that person know about my virginity? what i have to do to hide this ... (59 words)

I care for this man but he says he can't make me a priority

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a very very good male friend. We love spending time together. He loves my company a lot. whenever we both are free , we go on long drives and have exciting stuff. We do cuddle flirt and have intimacy. We both are really good. But he doesn't see me as more than a friend. ... (133 words)

What hope is there that this could become more? His friends tell me he doesn't want a relationship now. But I really like him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - One year ago I danced with a guy on a beach party in LA but nothing much else happened. We talked for a few weeks and then things just fizzled out. I have seen him a few times since then with mutual friends, and then at a party one month ago we kissed and danced. He sent me a... (180 words)

I was sick will this stop the pill from working?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I had sex without a condom with my boyfreind but I'm on the pill I take it regular and never miss x the thing is I was sick three hours after taking the pill will this stop the pill from working just am due on my period any day now and this waslast week .thanks in advance ... (57 words)

My Bf doesn't want me to wear revealing clothes in public

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i was on my facebook and my boyfriend and me were messaging. we just turn 1month together~! (: and well im going to see him today but i told him im going to be wearing my favorite black skinny jeans with my tight pink shirt. (have to admit the shirt is kinda low cut)and he ... (171 words)

After 9 years he still doesn't know if he wants to start a family with me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Should I break up with my boyfriend of 9 years? I have been dating this man for 9 years, we have had our ups an downs, but i have never felt so lost. There are a lot traits about him I love and Hate. But my biggest issue is he won't talk about marriage with me, and I recent... (167 words)

My coworker who I'm interested in, called me "buddy" while texting. What could this mean? Are we in the friend zone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have not been single for a while. I was in a three year relationship in which in the end I ended up really hurt. I've been single for a couple months and it has been tough. But knowing guys still take an interest in me feels pretty good. I am not looking for anything serious. ... (264 words)

What lessons can I learn from this? My Boyfriend left without any warning after almost 1.5 years

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I’ve read a lot of wisdom on this site so I thought I’d seek some guidance and advice from you wonderful people. My BF of 1.5 years left me without any warning a month ago. I came home and all of his stuff was gone and only a note left saying he didn’t have the passion to k... (993 words)

My boyfriend's lazy, unhygienic, has cockroaches on his bed,wants to get married and live in a trailer park..I'm done with him! Is it bad if I break up with him through text?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey. I have an issue. I've been dating my bf for a year, and I want out. The problem is, he doesn't know I feel this way... Yet. I told my friends that I wanted to break up with him and when they all got drunk at a party, they told my bf's best friend... And he threatened to ... (237 words)

After doing sexual acts with a guy I feel guilty

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4704 days ago

26 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Im a guy and im bi. I have a boyfriend. We kiss and and perform acts of intemacy. But after we do all that I feel,so much guilt. I know I should not,be doing what,i am doing because thats how I was raised. ... (43 words)

Should I tell my mother that I have a boyfriend? I'm not sure she can handle the truth without flipping out

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4710 days ago

26 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am bi sexual and I have a boyfriend. My parents dont know. I don't know if I should tell my parents, because my mother flipped out when my sister told hert she was bi-sexual i dont know what to do.... (42 words)

Is this relationship worth saving due to communication problems?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age - I have known my partner for 27 years. We lost touch for a while and I had two boys in another relationship. That fizzled out and I rekindled again with this man and had my third child. I am a professional women and have always been fiercely independent with my own propertie... (482 words)

I want to have the courage to say to him that I want to be able to introduce him as my boyfriend and not my cousin.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my cousin have always been close but just recently we were celebrating a family birthday, so we were both a bit drunk and when we were finally alone he kissed me and I didn't pull away. That night we ended up making love and it was the best i've ever had. He makes me... (207 words)

I don't think my family likes hanging with

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My family hate hanging out with me. Ever since i moved away to college and come home at the weekends I feel like a completely different person. We watch the same movies and they dont get all the jokes and stuff that i get. Though there is a lot of us I feel like they take me ... (182 words)

I'm 19, he's 33 - can it work? Opinions please.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3326 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I am 19, and have only had one other relationship with a boy who was 21. He was a kind person and a good first boyfriend, but he didn't want anything serious and was more interested in going to the bars all night with his friends (something I couldn't do with... (448 words)

How do I forget someone who meant so much and gave me so little reason?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) age 30-35 - my ex after two years went home for a week, told me he wanted it over. that i could do better he wasn't what i needed. i replied lets wait well talk. we did the day after over text had it out. i said i can't cope put me out my misery i love you. he said i love you too, go... (253 words)

Too extreme or too sweet?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Well me and my boyfriend were hanging out and i saw one of my BEST BEST friends i haven't seen in like 1year! so i ran up to him and hugged him. my boyfriend instantly got up and walked by me and kinda pulled me back. than he looked at me and said why did i hug i him?! i felt ... (205 words)

Why does this guy treat me so badly?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone just a question I have been wondering about I have been having sex with this man for 9 months now once maybe twice a week more when we first met he has accused me of cheating on him twice both of which times I haven't I would not cheat on him last week I was getting ... (242 words)

I have the perfect boyfriend but I feel like I never want to have sex and don't get turned on by the thought of sex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

26 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I am just writing as I have been with my boyfriend for four years. I love him more than anything. We fit perfectly, have loads of fun and joke around all the time. All my friends and family constable say how lovely he is and hope we always stay together. I always orgasm ... (164 words)

My feelings for my ex just won't die!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) age 30-35 - me and my ex were together for 2 years, he left me 2 months ago. he was a little emotionally abusive, would joke about me being fat, pregnant. i used to be somewhat anorexic took me 5 years to put on weight, from a size 8 to 12. i found these jokes hurtful would always rem... (1047 words)