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writes:ok i have been talking to a girl who is 16 and i'm 18 we have basically got straight on and i feel like i have known her for years and we both have basically shown we like each others personallity and like each other. id like to ask her out and go out but i just want to know what do people think of an 18 year old guy going out with a 16 year old going on 17 year old girl?ps i don't care what people think i just wanted to know as i'm still going to message her and ask her out Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2012): I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 19 . I am from england and over here that is considered to be a good age gap. In england the legal age to have sex is 16. We don't have laws on dating. But hey 16 and 18 that's two years difference! And she's nearly 17 . People would be stupid to look down on you for that. I think that's a great age gap and you want to ask her out. Your not talking sex and stuff. So ask her out and enjoy yourselves instead of worrying about what other people might think. And as for the law stuff other bother about that when you need to. Good luck!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (1 January 2012):
 Check with the law in your area. That, more than anything will help you understand what you can and can not do.
If she is of legal age to date in your area, that still does not mean she is of legal age to consent to all things.
For example, if she is considered a minor, she may or may not be allowed to date, HOWEVER, she would still not be permitted to do other things that adult lovers do. If two 25 yr olds take nude photos of each other just for fun...it is two consenting adults. If you take even a semi-nude photo of her, and she is a minor, you can be charged by the country laws (not even the girl herself or her parents) for the creation of child pornography. After that you are a sex offender on your record.
See what I mean?
You should also know that consent for sex, does not include all sexual acts for a minor. In some areas, the law is clear that a minor of say, 17, can consent to vaginal sex, but does not have the right to consent to anal sex. Again, if this is something that you want to do together, better think again. You could be charged again.
The law of your area will make the do and don't of your situation very clear.
-Frank
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (1 January 2012):
 here in the states the only thing that would matter is that it's not legal till she's 18 so her PARENTS would have to be approving...
if it's legal where you are that's not an issue... unless her parents still have a say in what she does and does not do... for me I would not have allowed my 16 yr old to date an 18 yr old because she was not mature enough and the age gap could create legal problems for the young man...
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (1 January 2012):
 i met my wife when she was 16, and i was 20. we have been married for right at 29 years.there is nothing wrong with dating a 16 year old girl as long as you respect her , and not pushing yourself on her . i would not worry about what people think.
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reader, Shonaes94 +, writes (1 January 2012):
It's fine. I'm 18 in march and I'm with someone who is 20 :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): Dude... that doesn't even qualify as an age gap. You are both of legal age, so there is nothing stopping you two.
Be happy.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): One of my friends, a 15-year-old is dating a 20 years old guy and her family is cool with it. So I don't think the morals are in the way here. It's more law. Here in Iceland we can have sex at 15, (not that anyone cares about those laws) and even her parents could charge him for a rape, the guy would win because my friends wants it. It's just how far the parents are ready to take it. So my advice, if you're getting pretty serious, ask her to check with her family so this won't end up in a mess :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys we are going out on monday :)
happy new year :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): "What do people think of an 18 year old guy dating a 16 year old?"
That's OK. An 18 year old guy sleeping with a 16 year old?
Legally that depends on the legal jurisdiction, morally uncool anywhere.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (1 January 2012):
 It's fine as long as you are dating her for the right reasons. Two years is such a small age difference that when she is 18 and you would be 20 you probably wouldn't even notice. I'm 21 and started dated someone who is 17 and it is great. There are some things that make the age noticable but other than that it is all about the chemistry that you two have.
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