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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

What happened with his family that it's all gone sideways?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriends parents are very reclusive people, and we usually get along fine, but lately I am feeling like they don't like me anymore. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we lived with them for a little while but now we have our own place. They always seemed ca... (464 words)

How can I be more open with my boyfriend? Is it ok to tell him to back off?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I have a fairly new boyfriend (about 4 months together, although we've known each other for about 2 years), and I'm having trouble figuring out how much I need to share with him. I grew up with a lot of problems at home, and I'm still dealing with some issues w... (171 words)

How can we go from being so in Love..... To Nothing?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have recently just split up with a guy that I've been seeing for 8 Months. I have 2 children from a previous relationship, which he accepted and grew close to. Throughout the relationship we enjoyed do many things together, holidays and not a day went by when we didn't ... (174 words)

Is my teacher a serious perv?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a male teacher,lets just call him Mr. Y.I was in class today,and I was wearing shorts and a v-neck and he came up to me and said "Hi Leila,how are you?". I just said"Um,fine.".Then he told me that we were doing a test soon and gave me a pencil,but he touched my hand. ... (172 words)

I know for a fact that I'm in love my my science teacher

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm completely and utterly in love with my old science teacher. I'm 15 and a sophomore and he's 28. He teaches freshmen science so I no longer have him as a teacher. I know for a fact I am in love with him. He is the only person who can make me truly happy and I think about him ... (470 words)

He did not invite me out! Why is he acting this way?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4753 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - To cut a long story short. I have fancied this guy in university for a year now and although we haven't talked much through the year, we went on a dinner date a couple of days ago. We got a bit drunk after dinner and I went back to his and we kissed and cuddled all nigh... (190 words)

My ex is seeing another girl, is he doing this because I did not trust him? I'm just hurt!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok I really need help. My ex and I were together for three years. We had our ups and downs but at the end of the day we forgave each other and always told each other I love you. We'll we broke recently over something I had done. I had invaded his privacy and went on ... (344 words)

It's Driving me crazy, I cant get hold of my boyfriend! Am I Over reacting?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

- My boyfriend who i'm in a ldr with has ignored my phone calls all day. He phoned me last night and was fine. Today I try calling him 3 times and he hasnt answered. I know he has no credit to call or text me back. But its driving me crazy that I cant get hold of him. Am I ... (73 words)

Why wont he commit to me? I'm losing my mind!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Im 34 years old and for the last 18months i have been having a casual relationship with my first love. I lost my virginity to him when i was 23 and we had regular sex for about 4 years. He is a bit of a commitment phobic. Maybe the reason for this is that 2 of his ex ... (356 words)

In love with a taken guy

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello. I could really use some help ... There is this guy, let's call him Sam. Sam's always nice to me, calls me beautifull, smart, amazing, etc. Sam's funny and we share the same interests. He's the same age i am and we spend a lot of time together. Several hours every da... (265 words)

I love my 40 year old teacher

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4730 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 19 years old..and I love my teacher how has 40 years old..I love him so much and I don't know if he loves me or not..what can I do?? help me please.... (34 words)

Double booked! Who do I choose to meet?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I accidentally made two agreements on the same day, Friday evening. At first I thought I only had a group of friends to meet, and then another friend of mine called to remind me about a meeting I had planned with her. We were supposed to discus something important (we're dating ... (181 words)

How do I get my act back together after screwing up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have recently come out of a 4 year relationship. I joined a dating site and met a man who seemed respectable. We have so much in common. We went out and we had sex. Since that his phone has been switched off. I know i have to accept i was used. I am having a bad time with my ... (95 words)

I don't feel the attraction to my new b/f like I felt with my old boyfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I have been dating a guy for 2 months, he is a really good guy, he is outgoing, positive and caring. But i still think of my ex. My ex was the only guy that I felt so attracted to in my life. This happened only once in my life, thats why i thought he would be the one i ... (220 words)

I have an eye infection and can't wear makeup. Should I not go out clubbing?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Honest question, i'm going out tomorrow but I can't wear eye makeup with an infection I have at the moment. I've never been clubbing without makeup and I worry guys will think I look ugly without it, I don't know whether to go out and just have a good time and forget that I ... (149 words)

I've had sex 5 times now and it still hurts!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi, I am now 18 and I had sex with my boyfriend in September. My first time really hurt and it still does now. I have had it about 5 times. The first 4 were with the same person and now I have a new boyfriend who treats me really nicely. I have only had it once with him and it ... (121 words)

I don't like it when I see my b/f and friend together! They used to date each other

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I don't really no wat to do anymore in regards to my boyfriend. Every things going great but I'm having problems myself. My really good friend went out with him last year. She's perfectly fine with me dating him (all though I learned that she still likes him) and is very happy ... (209 words)

Will you get over your soulmate if they die? what about being with them when you pass if your with another?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2925 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Do you ever get over loosing your soulmate?? I know some of you may look at this and think "your young you will find someone else and be happy" but I am so heart broken and just cant imagine a life with anyone else. I was in love with the man I call my soul mate the first time ... (247 words)

Why does he keep bringing up our past

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (?) age 36-40 - Him and i had a bit of a casual "relationship" for a while and it was fun at the time. That ended just over a year ago. He's got a girlfriend now and i've recently started dating somebody new too. Since i told my "ex" that i'm dating someone he's been bringing up our past. ... (403 words)

My boyfriend has Asperger's and has had a setback. How can I help him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi i don't know if anyone can help but i'm just looking to talk to someone really, my boyfriend of over a year has Aspergers syndrome (on autistic spectrum) many of you may not understand what it is, it's very difficult for him but also myself and his family to deal with. He ... (281 words)

My new boyfriend gets upset that I can't orgasm each time we have sex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there, I'm 19 and have been sexually active since I was 15.... I've been with 3 guys and all of those I've been in long term relationships with. I enjoy sex but it doesn't make me orgasm and my clit is normally to sensitive when I'm having sex so I don't think I'd be able to ... (122 words)

For years women disappear on me after 3 weeks.. why?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

15 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Okay guys and gals, here's one I'm confused on. The background will take a minute. All about me: I'm a 28 year old guy and the last time that I was really involved (ie. relationship) was when I was 20. My adult life I've dated a lot of women, but none have stayed around for ... (365 words)

Does interest shift this fast or is she flaky?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

15 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - i was hanging out with this girl for about a month, then following this unexplicable (literally, non-verbal) falling-out she started ignoring me, won't talk, and has immediately replaced me with another dude. she's 21 and i'm 27. is she that flaky/fickle, or is there something ... (54 words)

My husband lies about our finances and wont let me know what is going on!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been married for 16 years but we have been together for 25 years. We have 2 children that I adore. Recently after getting married I found out my husband was lying to me about things . I was devestated but he assured me he would be open and honest . Over the last few ... (250 words)

We doubt each other a lot and have lots of negative thoughts when we are apart....is this normal in a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i have a boyfriend and we work different places, we always meet up after work but on our days off when we don't meet there's this problem like we have negative thinking bout each other is it right? and at times we doubt each other a lot that we fight and argue with each ... (90 words)

How do I approach this without risking losing her completely?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi guys, My small dilemma is that I've been seeing a woman for 6months. About 3 months ago we both sat down and said because we have both only been out of a relationship for 9-12 months that we wouldn't commit to anything and we've essentially been friends with benefits fo... (127 words)

Texting Problems: Should I ask him out?

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15 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - There's this guy called Sam, whom I met from some retreat. He gave me his number. Few days after the trip, he asked me for my number through Facebook. And started texting me. We texted back and fro daily, always with messages this long: E.g. The message was about this... (223 words)

Why did he message me to tell me this? Is there hope for us to get back together now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Me and my partner split up a week ago. I was heartbroken, yesterday he messaged me as he had heard how some guy had told a friend of his he fancied me. He messaged me to tell me about it! My partner ended the relationship, I begged him for another chance but he wouldn't have ... (179 words)

Attracted to my female teacher! What is wrong with me and what can be done?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Im 15 and i have a good life. But there's a problem, Im very attracted with my teacher which is a woman and me a girl. Every time she approaches me, i sweat and im very exited but she dont know. I never feel this way before, Im very worry about it. Danm its a woman of ... (133 words)

We were doing ok after the break up now all of a sudden its become awkward, what happened?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am so frustrated with my ex boyfriend. I broke up with him because of a long distance issue. He didn't have much to say about it at first but the way we handled the post breakup, I thought everything was going to be okay. We had regular conversations, texted, hung out with ... (133 words)

How to get out of a toxic relationship once and for all?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - How to get out of a toxic realtioship for good? one day is so nice and treat me well then the next day he's blame me for thing that have done. if he had a bad day at work then it my fault. i need to get out and cut all ends with him, how do i do that? ... (59 words)

No butterflies with my new guy but this is probably because of my old crush....what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy recently and he's perfect in all ways, ticks every box, but I don't feel anything when I'm with him. No fluttering heartbeat when he holds my hand, no butterflies when he kisses me, nothing. I think it is because I am still not over the last guy I fell for. He's ... (177 words)

We like each other but he has a girlfriend, what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i have a guy that i think he likes me around me and i like him too and he has a girlfriend what do i do ... (29 words)

In the process of an adoption and I've fallen in love with the birth mother! Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - i am in the middle of an adoption and i fell in love with the birth mother, i love her more than my own wife. is this normal that i want to spend rest of my life with her and unborn children she wants to give us? help me... (49 words)

Losing my virginity.....what do I need for my first time? How do I make sure I last long enough?

This question has 63 answers - newest was posted 4737 days ago

15 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay so when I was 16 I promised myself myself if I was 21 and still a virgin that I would lose it to someone of that year. Well here it is 6 years later and its come to the unfortunate time that I was dreading and excited for. This girl who I really don't know but seems cool ... (101 words)

If I've lost my virginity already, is it normal for me to still be feeling pain?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I lost my virginity to my ex back in may and between then and now I've only had sex 7 times. My ex was roughly below average (about 3.5-4 inches) and he had a small girth so I don't know if that has anything to do with why I'm experiencing so much pain. But whenever I have sex ... (115 words)

My second marriage, his first... what is the proper way to go about this? Is it inappropriate to have a bridal shower, bachelorette party, register for gifts? Standard wedding dress or something a little more low key?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4756 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - This will be my second wedding and my fiance's first. I was married for 5 yrs and it didnt work out. My fiance and i dated for a yr and then he asked me to marry him. This is his first so i want him and his family to experience the whole "first time" wedding thing, but i feel ... (161 words)

Fingering hurts!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So, my boyfriend has been fingering me and when he puts his finger up my vag, it feels like so much pressure but it's kind of uncomfortable. Idk if this is because its new..but ahhhh! What should I do!? ... (39 words)

Being told you shouldn't be angry...does that work for ANYONE?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i feel like everytime i have a disagreement with my boyfriend we don't so much try to work through a disagreement as much as he tries to explain it away . He says his side of whatevers going on, and basically concludes that therefore, I shouldn't be mad. the fights are petty ... (334 words)

(( Guys )) What is your definition of a "hot" girl or woman??

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi! My boyfriend uses this term quite often (when talking about women.) He even said he thought I was "hot" when we met. Honestly, I was shocked because I never considered myself being that and was never called that by anyone in the past. I am an attractive 5'7 female, thin and ... (72 words)

Gf of 5 years has no affection or feelings for me, has kept me and our relationship hidden from her family and friends and doesn't ever intend telling them!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Been with gf nearly 5 years now. Last 3 years the relationship has slowly died out. We have sex onece a month now ifI'm lucky, but she only does it for me. She makes no effort to participate, all she does is lay there until ive finished then gets dressed. She shows no em... (350 words)

Is it appropriate to bring gift for my colleagues from my country?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4756 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - This is my first carrier in the US. I’m going back to my country and when I come back I want to bring some chocolate and goodies from my country for few of my collegues that I don’t know them well and also more gifts for two executive directors, one of the executive helped ... (105 words)

I'd be a lot happier and less lonely if I had a boyfriend. Why cant I get one? Am I cursed or extremely unlucky or just too picky?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm feeling pretty lonely and down lately, even though I have such a loving family and the bestest, funniest friends I could ever ask for. However I do seem to spend a lot of time by myself these days, and I've kinda come to the conclusion that I'd be a lot happier, and a lot ... (234 words)

Could he still like me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4756 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Do you think this man still likes me ?. I saw him tonight, when i was out with another guy. I'm not dating the guy that i was out with. We have only just met, so we are friends, but i don't know if anything else will happen. This man asked if the guy i was out with was my ... (276 words)

Just for a night I want to feel like a priority, not an obligation

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been in a long distance relationship for over a year and recently I've been contemplating cheating. I knew with distance I wouldn't be the main focus for my boyfriend but I never expected that I'd feel like some days he'd be talking to me out of obligation not because he ... (292 words)

What's the deal with this friend of his?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4750 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My bf and I have been dating for more than two years now and we finally went to meet a female friend of his on wednesday. She completely avoided eye contact with me and did not talk with me, after my bf got in his car and apologized about her. I talked to him the next night ... (405 words)

Why hasn't this co-worker asked me out?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - 6 months ago I accepted a promotion at my current workplace. There was this man who came to my team quite often. I realized all of a sudden I was seeing him a lot even though we do not work together much. I would bump into him in the kitchen, in the hallway, at reception, in... (475 words)

I've never dated a guy and I'm ashamed of myself

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hey guys! just wanted to ask you a simple question: am i weird just because i'm turning 19 and i never had a boyfriend, not even a date or a kiss...??? cause i really feel lonely and that i'm missing something in this world. i feel that at my age is the perfect time to ... (145 words)

I don't want to seem to clingy so if he doesn't text me, when would it be okay for me to text him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4756 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, this question may seem a little silly but as Ive never experienced this before I need some advice. Well I met a guy and we exchanged numbers, I sent him a text yesterday and we had a little conversation but at the end he sent a heart and I didnt know how to respond. I RE... (135 words)

What can I do in bed to drive my bf wild?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been seeing this guy for a while and I always think of all the things I want to do to him like tie him up and blindfold him so that I can do whatever I want with him. I alluded that I had something I wanted to try out the next time I saw him but now it all feels to real ... (136 words)

2 months in and I don't feel like I'm falling for her. What is holding me back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

15 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm feeling confused and I don't think that's a good sign... I've been dating a girl for nearly 2 months now (not long, I know). She really is lovely and we have so much in common, but for reasons I can't understand, I just don't feel like I'm warming up to her. I am the first ... (420 words)

I thought he liked me and would want something more out of this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4756 days ago

15 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy in college a year ago, we worked together in group assignments a lot since then. We never spoke heaps but we when we did it was usually quite deep and we look at each other a lot. He is sometimes really abrasive, it is his personality, and I used to think he ... (257 words)