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writes:Girls tell me that they love me but they say that's as a friend. What is their fucking problem? 2nd Question: what do girls feel for shy boys?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): I'm shy and kind and Chivalrous and women seem to take it to mean i'm a closet rapist or i'm after something. It seems where i hail from bad boys, pretty boys and guys full of confidence are the ones that get noticed and get phone numbers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): Because people are idiots.
Many women, (and the younger a woman is, the more prone to it they are), see danger as ideal. It's exciting... until it goes overboard, as it will always do.
When they realise danger is not a good environment to raise offspring in, they go for shy, pleasant guys.
Sometimes though, you just need to show some edge. My issue with that, is many women will take advantage of your willingness to get free drinks... which is why I find it best to NEVER try to get to know anyone in a club.
Either way, don't feel you need to change yourself just to be accepted by others, change only if you WANT to for your self.
It doesn't do to live at the whims of others.
Be happy.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): Sorry for the multiple posts but I forgot the most important thing:
Girls want to be taken OP, they want to be swept off their feet, they want to be pursued and they want a guy who likes them enough to actually do that, that means you have to do the work.
So get off your arse, find the next girl you think is even the least bit attractive, go over to her without thinking and start talking to her, if the conversation goes well ask her for her number. Rinse and repeat. It's as easy as that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): *your
Just to add OP. Shy = gutless loser who hasn't the balls to get what he wants then whines like a sissy because girls only see him as a friend. What girl do you know wants to be with a guy who isn't confident enough to grab life by the balls? No point in being someone's friend or befriending them when you want them romantically. You either cut to the chase and pursue them romantically or you will always be their shoulder to cry on and their close friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): "What is their fucking problem?"
They don't have a fucking problem you do. You act friendly they see a good friend. You act romantically and with intent they may see a lover.
"what do girls feel for shy boys?"
It doesn't matter what they feel. Girls like all type of guys but who is going to get the girl, the shy guy who stays in the background or the guy who woos them and makes moves? I think you know the answer to that question and I think you know that's how you have to do it. So either sit there and blame all these girls for not magically dropping their knickers for you or fainting at the sight of you, or get out there and join the hunt. You're call OP.
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (31 December 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,
Girls!!!!!! We are soooo complicated!!!
Firstly, they say the love you as a friend coz maybe you treat them as a friend. If you carry a girls handbag, talk about girly things like make up, nails, and deep feelings, girls will take you as a friend.
If you have a problem with girls just being your friend or always being in the friendship then you gotta speak up or it's too late. Suggest a date or something, sometimes girls love it when they're being lead. Obviously not you know "you're my bitch" kinda thing but more of a wanna go to the cinema? Kinda thing so being proactive.
Some girls really dig shy boys, I think it's like the way shy boys do things is really cute obviously there are many more reasons but I can only think of that one loooool.
In all honestly if you meet a girl, be yourself, even if your shy, you can work around it like you know speak more but funny enough it doesn't have to be face to face though one day it has to be, but if you're more comfortable talking on the phone then go for it, talk on the phone and then develop from taking face to face.
Hopefully that answers your question!
Good luck!
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): Holy Anger Issues!I think there are, unfortunately, more and more youth growing up thinking they are ENTITLED to anything and everything they want. Which is a very unhealthy, narcissistic view and attitude to own.When one thinks like this and when one isn't given what they want- not necessarily what they need or failing to see and realize that with how many billion of people on the Earth that have the gift of Free Agency- how is life fair? Its people how they think, act that determines what fair is. Anything external from that is neither fair or unfair.Attitude is EVERYTHING.Shyness is all about lacking social skills and for some, self esteem. So on a societal as a whole, where its the 'go getter' that gets- shyness is not necessarily seen as a strength so in the brain processing, could mean its not an attractive trait. AS to younger women with little life experience, it is seen as shyness could equate lacking the ability to provide safety/protection to them.And womens nature is to want to feel safe.There are some young women, who are shy themselves or intuitive and can see past that and see a persons value/worth and will study you and see how you act and determine you would be worth dating.So work on overcoming your shyness by joining clubs, a speaking/debate club, where you are challenged to overcome this aspect.Patience. Your timeline verses the Universes timeline as to when things will fall into place in regards to maturity and availability to dating world- I'm thinking time is actually your Friend in this case and really, your timeline going to work or the Universes?In the meantime, doing what you can to change shyness will give the greater chances of the results to you seek.
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