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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I'm too young to have to beg for sex

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7 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone ...let me start by telling u im only 25 ......aaaaaggggghhhhhhh to soon to start with this huh but this is wats up ive been with my partner for 7 long years the first 3 were the best most exiting sex stories i could ever tell but then it just died she just wont ... (155 words)

He's something special, except for his ex

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7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Here is my situation. In the summer my best friend, had her good guy friend and me meet. We all went out together one night, and me and him hit it off right from the start. We started talking about a week after and are now "seeing" each other, so its been about 3 months. I had ... (513 words)

Raging hormones are making me want to have sex just to relieve the feelings

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone. Well this is something I dont really have anyone to talk to about, normally id speak to my mum but she isnt very open to sex talks, and makes it very uncomfortable. Well Im almost 21 and Im still a virgin not because Im religious but because I want to ... (148 words)

She has my number, promised to contact me but hasn't. Should I give it to her again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - hi just a quick one i asked the girl i like out at the local shop she said yes gave her my number on friday so she felt more cofertable as i dont know her, was very nervous lol saw her in the shop again on sunday she said she definatly wants to go out but left my number a... (131 words)

He thinks he needs to read my mind otherwise he is not good enough for me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am dating a man who thinks he hurts me too much. I disagree! After fights he thinks he is the only who is the cause of it, and things are his fault, even though I know we are both just as guilty for misunderstandings and poor communication. He thinks I will be happier with ... (376 words)

Should I fret about my girlfriend violated my butt-hole?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend and I met a few months ago. We started having sex the third time we met (she initiated). First I thought to myself "great, no more boring lengthy dating". The first few times were like normal sex (I led and she followed) but since then she got kinkier and ... (211 words)

When dating, does age really matter??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone, I am a 26 yr old female who is considering dating a very nice mature 37 yr old male. He is divorced with two older children and I am a mature 26 yr old looking to settle down with a mature man. I have never dated anyone more than 2 yrs older than me but have ... (85 words)

What to think of his reply to my message?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I do not know if is truly being indifferent, or scorn with me? This guy I like since his girlfriend dumped him 11 months ago he's acting like he won't give a damn. We had something on in which we liked each other , but unfortunately I fell into the game of friends with ben... (180 words)

Can I have some advice on how not to stress and how to stay motivated to work this hard on my studies?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm a teenager in high school and I feel so stressed. I have a lot of homework which keeps me up longer than I want to be and every assignment affects my grades dramatically. It feels like I can never take a break from school sometimes and I hate feeling like I have to put fort... (278 words)

Do I reply, ignore or respond to his message? We have been "no contact", but I am not over him yet.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago. we were still talking and having a sexual relationship. I found out he had been talking to some other girl and i decided to apply no contact...later that week i found out they were in a relationship. 2 months have passed and ther... (217 words)

My professor is hitting on me. What am I supposed to do? Is this normal in college today?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I'm 18 years old and a freshman in college. One of my professors is always hitting on me. I'm not saying this to sound conceited, I'm saying it 'cause I know. The other day he told me I looked gorgeous. Also, in my college we have our teacher's numbers and he's always ... (254 words)

It bothers me. I am not imagining it. Why do people have the need to stare?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F) age 41-50 - Why do people have the need to stare? Not just take a quick look or glance, but flat out stare. I see people doing this all the time when I'm out in public, particularly to me. Now you might think this is just all in my mind and that I'm imagining these things but I know that... (201 words)

Establishing friendship: does she dislike me or needs more time to get to know me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4758 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I became friends with a guy about five months ago; most of his other friends like me enough and others I'm probably indifferent to, which I have no huge problems with. The girl he hangs out with during classes and after them too has a mixed behaviour toward me: she doesn't ... (249 words)

Can't break up even though I know its best. Advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am coming here for help in a really hard time and need support/advice. My boyfriend and I have dated for 2 1/2 years and i found out he lied twice about going out to the bar and then went a third time and got a girls number there asking her out for coffee. I agree with pre... (161 words)

What should I do as I am bi and I do feel as if I was the reason?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - It has been hard for me this year. My first boyfriend turned out to be gay and he says that I was the reason for him turning gay. What should I do as I am bi and I do feel as if i was the reason?... (48 words)

My husband is texting the ex, is she seeing dollar signs?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Ive been with my husband for 10yrs now and it seems he loves me one minute and the next is bothered by me.. We have no kids together, but he has 3 kids(1 son, 2 daughters) from 2 different moms. Now the girls mom hasnt given me any problems, but the son's mom that lives in ... (200 words)

Girls, especially, do you think a guy being able to dance well is important to you?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I hate dancing. I mean REALLY HATE IT lol. Its embarrassing and boring. And everyone else loves it, which makes me feel awful for dissappointing my friends, and i just end up hating dancing even more. Thing is, i keep hearing about how important dancing is for pulling girl... (82 words)

How do I cope with this? My husband does not love me and does not like me helping my parents

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 21 years old and my husband is 38 years old he does not love my parents and he does not like me to help my family. so i want to divorce him . How can I get through this? please help me... (44 words)

Can you teach someone how to love?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - We are all damaged in some way or another. My boyfriend has suffered some tragedy in his life. He lost his father early on. His mother has abandoned him on several occasions. He has some social awkwardness issues and has very few close friends and me. I do all I can to ... (128 words)

Should I wait for my immature boyfriend to grow up?

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7 December 2011 (?) age 30-35 - My boyfriend is REALLY immature. He's my age (19), and although it was a lot worse a year ago, I don't think I can deal with it anymore. He farts, he burps, he makes stupid comments/jokes. He doesn't take anything I say seriously (when I want to have a serious discussi... (370 words)

What can I do about this guy at work making fun of me. I like him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4707 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i met someone at work and he was very friendly and gentle at the beginning and told me once how much he respects me even. but then after his friend started working with us. they both caught somethimg stupid about me and started making fun afterwards. the problem is that im ... (114 words)

Fling I had at work is now totally ignoring me. I'm married but feel uncomfortable with things this way!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I had a fling with a guy at my job for 2 years. He wasn't what I expected so we ended the relationship. It took awhile for him to go away because he was still calling and texting for six more months after. I have moved on and now pregnant and reunited with my husband. The ... (348 words)

My girlfriend's and my plans for life do not mesh!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - All right, here's the deal. My girlfriend and I have been together for just over three years. And good god we love each other like nothing else. We just moved in together and, minor issues aside and one or two larger ones that we have talked about and are working on, we have ... (219 words)

How Important Is Money And Career In Choosing A Partner?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - If you were, let's say, making 60k a year, would you date someone who is making 15k? If you had a college education, would you date someone without one? What about you, women? How would you feel if your man was 'inferior' to you in both money and career? Does money and ca... (67 words)

Guys: When you want oral sex, what do you want exactly?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - A question for the guys.... When you want oral sex, what exactly does that mean? Until you ejaculate? Instead of intercourse? To get you hard and then intercourse? Does it help to get hard again if you are in the middle of intercourse and you start to go soft? Does it ... (62 words)

She won't tell him why she wants a break!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My best friend's fiancée just told him she wants a break for no reason or she isn't giving one. this is completely killing my friend and I cant console him. they where together for 5 years and now this. does anyone have suggestions how I can help him ... (51 words)

My guys is still affectionate, but no sex! Is it because of 2 kids and our busy life?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, A little background information, My boyfriend and I have been together for just about 4 years and have 2 young children. Our sex life has never been crazy, I got pregnant pretty quick when we first started dating (3 months)so I think that may have affected it a b... (403 words)

Tips for easing a very bad back!!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello again everyone. My bf has a very bad back, he broke it in a car crash back in 2006, he crushed one the vertebrae at the base of his spine. Now he's sort of learned to live with it, but there are times when it is very painful for him, especially as he's stressed out and is ... (169 words)

How can I prevent myself from being put into the friend zone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Why am I always considered a "friend" and just that? What can I do to make girls actually like me more than a friend?... (24 words)

Should I hide my maxiderm cream?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi I want to ask something very different suppose i am in relationship and i am getting engaged and i end up showing maxiderm cream (like viagra) to her while we getting intimate,or she finds out that i have it my closet what would be here reaction will it be advisable... (101 words)

Why should I apologize to this mess of a family I'm in?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My marriage falling apart because of step children! Very very long story and in most cases typical when it comes to husbands spiteful ex wife! She is 37 now and at her last job ( That she is being charged with embezzlement and is a state troopers wife) called her Satan. Little ... (898 words)

How much do you mind a partner's human side (bodily functions?)

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This might sound like a ridiculous question, but in all seriousness, when you're with a new boyfriend/girlfriend (one you've been with for some time but have never lived with, that is), how much do you mind being aware of their... umm... more human side? Like their need to pass ... (291 words)

I wouldnt normally get involved in a friend's relationship, but I cant stand by and watch her get hurt! What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - This is not about me, but about a relationship of someone who's close to me. Two friends of mine got together about a year ago. I'm always for letting people be, but this relationship is only working out for one of them, namely the guy. I care about him, but I'm aware he's h... (425 words)

My crush is dating a female version of me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I have known my best friend/crush for years. About 4 months ago he broke up with his girlfriend of two years. I was going to let him get over her and then ask him out. I never got the chance. The next time I saw him he told me he had a new girlfriend. As he discribed her I got ... (146 words)

My partner couldn't be bothered that I miscarried our baby, and he's been busy texting his ex while I'm going through hell!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi I've been with my partner for 3 half years. I was due to move on with him next month. In October I found out I was pregnant and was so happy. I'm 41 and my son has left home. My bf wasn't too keen at first but eventually began to get excited. Although he did say he wasn't g... (303 words)

What if I will never be happy??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi. I have recently come out of a 4 yr relationship with my ex bf, I Left him 3 weeks ago, staying at parents at mo. We have a daughter together. The reason I left, his an alcoholic, he has been fighting these demons for a long time. I simply just had enough, sick of the lies... (177 words)

We were together 4 years but she has someone else already, yet still texts me? What is going on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - okay, i'd want to just look at this before i get started,.. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/feeling-lost-after-weve-stopped-talking-completely.html about a month back, when i asked a straight question, she did say she likes a new guy. i wouldn't have had a problem if t... (209 words)

My ex wants me back but I don't know what to do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been broken up with my ex gf now for 4 months after having been together 5 years. Our relationship didn't end on a good note, the entire break up process was really ugly as a matter of fact which I won't get into detail, but never the less it's helped me move on a lot ... (331 words)

Boyfriend accuses me of cheating all the time, does this mean that he is likely to be cheating on me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone this is more of a question really, my boyfriend is always accusing me of cheating even though I'm not, I've never cheated on anyone in my life. is it true what people say about the one that accuses you of cheating are usually the ones doing it themselves? was just ... (70 words)

Finally found someone I connect with on an intellectual level, as well as an intimate level...but he just so happens to be my literature professor. How do I go about starting a relationship with him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've always been a hopeless romantic, but I love the feeling I get when I find someone that I enjoy talking to in an intellectual sense as well as on a more intimate level. Recently, I've met someone that has inspired me in so many ways I cant even name, and I really want to ... (183 words)

How do I prove to my friends that I am capable of getting a boyfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - hello aunts! I have a small problem. I recently got out of a relationship with a guy that went to a different school than me. When we were going out, none of my friends believe he existed. There were rumors going around that i faked a boyfriend just to get attention. They don't ... (97 words)

Can't let go of the past! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a problem, its a seems a small problem in comparison to a lot of problems in this world, but if anyone can help me I would be very grateful! My issue is I cant seem to let go! of issues that have caused me grief and pain and anger. For example, There was a friend o... (469 words)

Would you be willing to be friends with a transgender?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I suppose this is more a question than seeking advise but as a person that is transgender I am curious to know how people really view someone like me. I'm female born in a male body. I've never known anyone els like me and friends from my youth put up with it more than ... (151 words)

I'm married, met someone online and thinking of going further. Will I regret it?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Well I have been threw many ups and downs in my relationship . It was very long and ans stressful experience for,but my husband actually made a 360 degree improvement .So I should be happy right ? The truth is I don't really care .He did not care for me for years .I met ... (112 words)

I'm on depo, should I be getting a period?

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7 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So, i have a weird problem... I'm on the depo needle (ment to stop you getting pregnant) I got it last october 19th, its ment to last 3months, but the other day i got a period sort of thing, and as far as i know you shouldnt get it on the needle. I've been on the needle ... (80 words)

Did he ever love me to begin with?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - It's been almost 8 months since I moved out from living with my ex. A couple months ago I started feeling better and really started enjoying being single. I started finding what I enjoyed doing and living for myself. But lately I can't stop replaying everything in my head. We ... (348 words)

Should I keep striving, though I'm not sure what my final goal is?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

7 December 2011 (?) age 30-35 - This isn't a relationship question but I was hoping someone wiser than me can offer some advice. I'm a full time college student, majoring in Biology, and I've hit a wall - my true passion a year ago was English but I decided (with pressure from my parents) to pursue a more... (207 words)

Why am I having dreams about having children?

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7 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - ok this is a super weird question but basically i have been having these dreams about being pregnant and also in which i have children already, in these dreams i am NOT older i am 16 just as i am now, and in school and everything. this happened once before, about three years ... (147 words)

Dating Sites - Good or Bad?

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7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dating Sites..Good or bad? I've got serious doubts on whether dating sites are a good way to meet anyone. I'm not the most outgoing of people and I'm trying to think of a way to get proactive in finding a relationship. (After all, I can't expect Mr. One to randomly show up ... (133 words)

How do you make not meant to be, meant to be?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - i met this girl a few months ago. we started having sex before we even had our first date. it started off as me just useing her to try to fill this emptiness i had inside from when my real love left me. the thing about her is that im 100 percent sure that well never be together ... (429 words)

Trying to be the husband she and most would want, but is she losing interest in me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been married now over a 10 years, I really love my wife and have done everything in my power to make her happy to be married to me. In addition to that, I read a lot into what women would like in a husband just to make sure I am better than most husbands are to ... (373 words)

Fiance joking about me at work with female coworker, too much?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I'm in a situation with my fiance, and he has a past for not doing the right thing. A few times this past year, he's gone to his ex to complain about his family issues (mom/dad/siblings) because I was sympathizing and trying to help him work it out, where as she call... (356 words)

Do I stay with my sick ex, or go with my new love

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I am driving myself crazy and feel like I am tearing myself into two!! A few months back I left my ex because I had really strong feelings for another guy and felt I couldn't be with my ex because it wouldn't be fair on him and I really wanted to see if things could work with ... (521 words)

Feeling Of No Self Worth...Advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so I don't really think I'm asking a question just randomnly ranting. But I am a 19 year old girl. I just feel like there is no purpose in this world for me. I don't have a job or going to college. I dropped out of college in November 2010 because I was si depressed because ... (332 words)

Not Over Him After 3 Years

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7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - It's been one year and a half now that i did the biggest mistake in my life. I broke up with my man after a 3 years relationship. I deeply regret what i did. I left him for another man. I took the decision in a blink of an eye. I didn't know back in that time how to communicate ... (304 words)

My Baggage Is Making Me Paranoid

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

7 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey aunts! I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and he is honestly my whole world! Even though I am only 17 I feel that I will marry him and have a family with him! But my problem is that the previous relationship which I was in was a cheat and I am becoming... (143 words)