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Archived questions from: 11 December, 2011 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I realised I always have a better time with my friends and without my boyfriend. Should I worry?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - When my boyfriend and I first got together (three years ago) we always used to have a great time when we went out just us or in a group, it was part of the reason we got together. Now however we always end up going home early together, not because anything bad happens, but... (172 words)

Do you think I just need to give him time to realise what he's missing or have I blown it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been seeing my b/f for 7months. We have been having a very serious relationship and I thought we were both madly in love. My bf works a hell of a lot and recently we have hardly seen each other or spent any time together and I've missed him loads. One night he was suppose ... (367 words)

Was he just using me to make her jealous?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I've had this guy friend for about 2 years now ever since we went to the same summer camp. We've talked on and off and have remained friends since then. He had a girlfriend last year when we saw each other every saturday at an extracurricular activity, but he always made a ... (176 words)

Is the honeymoon over?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello there. I'm not really sure, but I really think the honeymoon phase in my relationship is gone. We have been together for a year now and the amount of sex we now have compared to before has dropped and it leaves me incredibly frustrated. We used to have it three four ti... (107 words)

Skin colour on the penis?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boy friend has two different colours of skin on his penis. The part that is closer to the tip of his penis is lighter, but the other part is darker. why ?... (33 words)

We've gone from an open and trusting relationship to one where he is secretive and ends up screaming at me if I try to address it!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I am not the type to write something here, but I do not know where else to turn. To start, I never thought I would need to come here, i always thought we would be perfect. everyone around us, even my family, thinks we are p... (266 words)

I'm not sure I can manage to go to the funeral!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Its my cousins funeral on Friday, he was 19 and had been suffering with cancer for 18 months. We were so close and im crying my eyes out writing this. My mum really wants me to go to the funeral but I dont know if i can bear it. Any tips or help PLEASE. ... (54 words)

He lied about another girl and we broke up, how do I cope?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I started seeing this guy in September, although it was never official. We took a break in October, and he gave this like crap excuse. Eventually he came back. I thought we were good, until last night. I wanted to hang out with him since I'll be leaving on vacation in a few ... (490 words)

I am cheating, but I want to stay with my boyfriend. Is that reasonable?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - a few years back i had this male best friend, (lets call him man A) we were unbelievably close and i started to get some feelings for him. it never really went anywhere until we had a drunken one night stand. time passed and i lost contact with him. i am now currently in a r... (236 words)

I am a virigin with strong sexual feelings for my boyfriend. Is this normal?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Im 19, ive been seeing this guy who's 23. I met him approx a year ago, met him through one of my friends, there was always that attraction there but nothing happened between us until september, when I agreed to meet up with him before i went off to university and he ended up... (549 words)

I think I'm battling depression!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

11 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - i think im battling deppression and have bad anxiety, i dont like going out cos i hate how i look (even though im told im goodlooking) and i just dont feel like my life is going anywhere. i didnt go to college (besides being shy and anxious i realy didnt know what to do as i ... (317 words)

I don't know if he's a complete liar or not.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - i have been having an affair at work with this man. I am extremely attracted to him and can't get him put of my head. Everybody found out about us at work. His girlfriend also works in the same place she is the only one that does not know. i had to sit in the office and ... (211 words)

Link between the amout of sex and his porn use?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - my boyfriend watches porn without me should i be worried? We went fom having sex 2 or 3 times a day to once a week if i am lucky.... (29 words)

I'm not getting any younger -- was I right to cut it off at the earliest signs?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been seeing a man who is 16 years older than me. We've known each other for about 5 months and started dating last month. He has 2 kids and twice divorced. I just told him through text that I don't think it will work out for us and want to know if I did the right ... (241 words)

What do you think the norm is for sexual experiences at age 20?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

11 December 2011 (?) age 30-35 - Is it normal to have less than 2 sexual partners and to settle with one long term boyfriend by the age of 20? I don't mean to generalize, but many people my age treat sex like it's no big deal, having multiple one night stands. I don't like the idea of sharing my body with ... (276 words)

How can I get past abuse and enjoy sex more fully?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm twenty three and in my first sexual relationship :) which am really pleased about. I love my bf and we took things slow. I sometimes find it hard to enjoy sex totally because I was sexually abused when I was younger. And sometimes I just can't relax or get turned on or I do ... (158 words)

If it weren't for my dog, I would leave my abusive husband. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I would be so grateful for any advice. I want to leave my husband - he is making me physically ill (has already got to me emotionally/ mentally)as the stress is affecting my health (I am 39 and on beta blockers for blood pressure and anxiety). The emotional abuse is daily and ... (416 words)

When you are supporting your adult child, how much is too much?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - When does a parent stop supporting their grown children? I asked a question earlier and was surprised by one of responses. Is it ok to support a grown child in her twenties, let her live with you whenever she feels like it, take up the only other br in the home so when you... (161 words)

I broke up with b/f but I want him back even though he lies and cheats

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Agonies. I've been going through this situation with my bf for, i'll say almost 3 years. Lately he has been making up excuses to have sex with me, changing his password to his phone, not wanting to talk to me whenever i come over due to the fact that we had issues that ... (237 words)

Once or twice a month I have a stronger scent that usual. Is this normal?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (?) age 30-35 - Maybe once or twice a month I will have a stronger "scent" than usual. It's not like a sickening smell and it's not a bad odor..My boyfriend says it's just stronger than it usually is. All other days it's a very mild scent. Is this normal?? I wash everyday and am very hygienic ... (98 words)

Dumped for seeing my ex in a group. Is that fair?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Last night i went to a Christmas party with a group of my friends (about 4 girls and 2 guys). We went to a movie at the theater and then to a girl's house and played games and such. My boyfriend (ex now) knew what we were doing because i told him. But he called me at lik... (172 words)

I'm always stuck in the "friend zone"

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in a rut when it comes to guys. I'm always stuck in the " Friend Zone ". Every time I meet a nice guy we become friends and that's it! I don't even get a date with them. They all go for the fake looking girls and I,m not like that:(. I've been told off a few people that I,m ... (84 words)

If someone claims that they want to be with you, don't they want to do more than hold your hand?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been with my partner 5 years We don't live together I don't think I could because the lack of intimacy would hurt too much - by not seeing each other every day I can find reasosns why we are not intimate. My question is can this carry on and is it possible to think abo... (187 words)

Breakup after 7 years of dating, ex wanted to stay friends. I don't. Am I cold?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

11 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I recently broke up with a GF of 7 yrs, we had been faithful to each others over all those years, even when we had short breaks, and when we broke up 2 weeks ago, I feel relieved and just want to get on with my life. I feel that we had more good times than bad, and... (135 words)

What are your thoughts on single parents, is the child affected?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - okay so... i found out im pregnant, 14 weeks gone, and the dad basicly said, if i didnt get rid, hed never have anything to do with me again.. of course i didnt get rid and he wants nothing more to do with me... we argued and havent spoke at all in about 6 weeks! hes actually ... (269 words)

Missing communication in my relationship....very long!! Please help me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - There's a lack of communication between me and my boyfriend. It's not that we don't talk, but it's always the same things all the time - what we're doing, how we are, school, jobs, friends, etc. I could say all those things with just a mere acquaintance. I have a problem ... (947 words)

10 years as friends, 4 years as FWB, I'd like to know what is going on! I miss him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Please help! Confused.com. Basically i've been friends with this guy for over 10yrs. In the last 4yrs, we kind of made it clear how we felt for one another. We've had sex about 6times, but always remained friends. In the last 2yrs our friendship has fizzled. We use t... (300 words)

Should I move back to Sydney or stay where I am?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, This is not a love relationship question but it would be great if I could get some advice. To cut a long story short- I am currently trying to make a decision about what to do with my life. I left my home town of Sydney 1 1/2 years ago and am now living 10 hours driv... (349 words)

Is this a bridge worth mending?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I really need a pep talk here. ): Brace yourselves, it's a long story! btw, hi. Sorry if its hard to read, it's 2AM here. I was supposed to attend a college somewhere on the east coast to be with my boyfriend at the time. Let's say his name's Abe. I had already pai... (783 words)

My girlfriend claims she doesn't love me because I'm dishonest

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I feel helpless I absolutely love my girlfriend but she doesn't love me because she claims I am a compulsive liar and don't love her at all. And I feel like I am unloved she tells me she never loved me and she only told me she did for me not to cry And it's because of th... (116 words)

Why do I always end up in the 'friend zone'?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I just don't get it. Why am I never good enough to be anything more than a friend with a woman? I've tried everything I could possibly think of. From making my feelings known to holding back and really trying to get to know someone before trying to move things forward. It ... (220 words)

My boyfriend pressures me to have sex and I hate it

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend always wants sex and I hate sex more than anything. Is it normal for me to feel so guilty for saying no. he gives me this rude attitude after I tell him my answer, helpppp I dont know what to do. I have talked to him about it a million times but he still doesnt ... (61 words)

How to move forward in an off and on relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Just wondering if it sounds like I'm being ridiculous.. In almost 3.5 years, my bf has broken it off twice. This is our 3rd time back together. Each time we broke up or got back together it was always a bit of a surprise. I would go back to him vowing to be a better person an... (633 words)

I can't compete sexually with my wife's former lover

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3600 days ago

11 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife's last lover had a bigger penis, greater stamina and could please her with vaginal intercourse. I feel so inadequate and don't know why I should make any more pathetic attempts. Any advice?... (36 words)

Is penetration deeper with woman on top or man on top?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Does a guy go in deeper on top or on the bottom?... (12 words)

Is he trying to repair our arrangement or end it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I got i txt msg from a guy friend i had sex with about 2 months ago just once but i got msg today saying 'i dont know how this is going 2 work, when am free your always busy and when your free am busy' what does he want? is it just the sex or does he want me to change my sched... (72 words)

My girlfriend is too shy when it comes to sex

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

11 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey guys. I've been with my girlfriend for a while now. It's nearly been two years and she's way tooooo innocent. Like i dont mind it but it halts us from advancing from anything. Like if i try initiate dirty talk, she would immediately reply with something brief and then just ... (187 words)

Is he cheating or is his story plausible?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Please bear with the long description :/ Any reply is much appreciated. I have been in a relationship for 8 months with a guy who looks great on paper. He's a doctor with a prominent position and good reputation in the community. We met online. We're in our 30s/40s, so we appro... (288 words)

Am I too optimistic about rekindling a relationship with my ex-boyfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel like I either have the opportunity of a lifetime or am just fooling myself, for the second time, by being too idealistic. Here's the situation: Two months ago, my boyfriend dumped me. His reasons were that he wanted more sex than time and the physical distance between... (248 words)

Is my love of Peter Pan healthy?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4727 days ago

11 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so this might not be an appropriate question for this site, but I've recieved a lot of good advice on here, so I hope it will help. So, when I was little, I LOVED peter pan. I watched the cartoon version almost everyday, and hoped and prayed he would come and take me to Ne... (236 words)

Does this mean she misses me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4729 days ago

11 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My ex gf and I of 3.5 years broke up recently. She broke up with me and met someone which caused our breakup to actually happen. She left me for someone else. What does it mean when I find out that she is taking this guy to all the places that she and I used to go together?... (58 words)