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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My husband is chatting flirtatiously with a girl from his office. Should I be worried?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So, I have had some trust issues with my husband in the past. Some of it he deserved, and some of it can be attributed to the fact that I tend to be a jealous person. I am having a similar issue tonight. He and I have been doing pretty well lately. He's been pretty sweet and... (416 words)

Should I accept the Proposal? But I don't trust him!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey, I need some advice on whether I should listen to my head or my heart regarding my bf's marriage proposal. We've been together 17 months, and he's asked me to marry him. My initial reaction was to be very very happy... but I'm starting to give it some proper thought, and ... (394 words)

Title How can I get my boyfriend to kiss me before christmas Break?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey Everyone, Oksy so Me and My boyfriend have been dating since 12/10/11, and that hasnt been long, ive longed for him to ask me out and after weeks of my friends bugging him, he finally asked, i found out hes liked me since the 6th grade, but now that we're toget... (99 words)

How does one prepare for being fingered?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Preparation for being fingered? I know im supposed to shower and everything, but anything else to smell nice and stuff down there?... (22 words)

She's in the early stages of a divorce fighting over a child. Do I sit back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I recently met a woman, who is in the earliest possible stage of divorce. She has a child with her husband, and he is fighting the divorce because he refuses to go a day without that child. I over the past several months have fallen in love with both the mother and the child. ... (81 words)

Casual fling versus genuine interest

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Friends, I don't know whether i'm self-destructive or whether these kinds of guys are just NOT for me.. As soon as i broke up with my boyfriend i met a guy. Naturally when you break up you sometimes need some time before proceeding with a new relationship. Th... (310 words)

I DON'T know if it's really a relationship I want with my FWB but if I leave, I DO know I'll miss the sex!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi agony aunts and uncles. I need a bit of advice that maybe some of you can help me with regarding a no strings attached relationship I've been involved in for almost a year. I know that generally things don't tend to work out in the favor of the person that finally catches ... (274 words)

It drives me insane when my boyfriend talks about his ex!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend has 2 children - he is a very hands on dad which is brilliant. His ex is seeing someone else and she seems ok and I know he is besotted with me. However, when they argue, he always comes running to me and tells me everything. Then the next day, its forgotten about. ... (100 words)

Unsure about him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, im a 21-year old african-american female, i have been dating this guy whom i met online since july, and we have been talking ever since, we spoke online via text for about 2 1/2 months before we actually met each other. When we finally did meet, i was amazed at his ... (260 words)

I like him and he doesn't know I exist...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I really need some advice. There’s a guy I like at work but he doesn’t know me. We work in different departments. Last week I attended a xmas party and he was there too. I wanted to speak to him but I just didn’t have the confidence to approach him. At work I look so plain ... (171 words)

When my boyfriend fights with his ex, he comes to me with it, should I be bothered?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend is lovely man who has 2 children. He does everything for his kids, but when him and his ex argue (which isn't often), he always comes running to me - they then make up. He mentions her when he comes to my house. I have told him to stop but he still does it ... (69 words)

Is it his ego that makes him treat me this way?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4595 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - There is this guy, we're not together because he said he doesnt want me in that way. But I think I love him so I allow myself to be used in the bedroom by him. Sometimes I hate him, and then when we just talk all day, or we just talk when he is with me we're like humourous. But ... (135 words)

I broke up with my Girlfriend and I know she's confused. Should I just let this go and move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i was with my girlfriend for two years, and she broke up with me for someone else in june. since then, though, we remained friends, but it eventually led to her telling me she still had feelings for me. it's been a roller coaster ride ever since. she's extremely confused, which ... (434 words)

I feel like a loser in Life! What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I feel like a loser. I know this is not relationship based, but I do need some help or advice or just someone to read this. I am in my late twenties, I dont have a job, I dont have a a partner, I dont have any family or friends, and I dont have really have...anything. It j... (145 words)

I feel hurt and betrayed! She thinks I've had affairs! Does she still love me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

13 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - During the course of an argument during which I questioned her faithfulness for the first time EVER (she was spending a lot of time with a male coworker, even missing my birthday dinner to talk business with him on the phone) my wife mentioned that she knew I had had an affai... (496 words)

I'd love to introduce myself to this girl and I need your advice!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been single now for 6 months, prior to that I was in a 2 year relationship that drained me of confidence and strength (during which I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety). During these 6 months I've got a new job, a mortgage and even joined the gym, completely ... (269 words)

Please help! What Gifts should I take for my bestfriend, his wife and there newborn?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

13 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi members of DC: I need you help please. Although it is not about love or relationship issues please respond. Here is the issue, me and my best friend or my business partner have become very close of late. Actually we do a lot of things together like best buddies do. So a... (216 words)

I asked my boyfriend to have a STI test, he was shocked! Was my timing really that bad?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been dating this guy for over a month and we get along extremely well. One thing led to another the night before last and we had really great first time protected sex. The next day we were texting about the experience and I mentioned that we should both get some ... (200 words)

My single friend resents my boyfriend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am best friends with this girl for about 5 years and we're both 19. She and I used to be very alike, we're both shy and not very good with guys (she has never shown any interest in one), we have a lot of things in common (we usually like the same things) and used to get along ... (291 words)

I feel like I'm being a pest.....do they really like me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Basically, i started highschool about a week and abit ago, and so far everything has been going brilliantly, i'm doing well with the work, my sets are getting sorted out and my anxiety ( i have a severe anxiety disorder) is getting easier to control. ... (392 words)

Why has he changed again? His excuse is he's afraid of me getting pregnant but I'm not so sure....

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4722 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Why has he changed again? I dated this guy 2 years ago now for a year, it eventually ended because i wanted more and told him i loved him and he stated he was 'fond' of me! I missed him terribly and we eventually got back together 5 months ago after he made lots of effort for ... (274 words)

Do women want powerful, wealthy men more than considerate, nice guys?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I know nobody wants a wimp. But do all women prefer the self-absorbed jerk with power over the nice, middle class guy who is considerate of a woman's feelings? Is the law of the jungle and the law of human love really the same?... (47 words)

Have any girls on here gone to a bar alone?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make some changes/progress. I am a ... (180 words)

We've been together 5 years but I can't commit!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I really need some advice - I spent over 10 years married to a guy who put himself first, was never really proactive in thinking of doing stuff together and was selfish regarding his hobbies, career etc. He also put me down and showed no consideration to me when I was ill or ... (343 words)

What do I do if my ex decides to come back again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (?) age 30-35 - My ex boyfriend is a creep. He manipulated me throughout high school and abused me psychologically. I'm in college now and have a boyfriend I really care about, but every once in a while my ex will get into contact with me (via different numbers) and say wacky things, like he ... (303 words)

After a year of dating my b/f still hasn't told his family about me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been with my bf for over a year now, i can honestly say that he is the love of my life and I'm his.we get on really well and share the same sense of humour and values there is just one small problem that I can't seem to let go and it is now causing a rift. he hasnt told ... (305 words)

Self conscious about my eye, how do I deal with people who make fun of me for this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So first of all, im blind in 1 eye. I don't feel like going into detail about it but I can say ive have a lot problems that have come along with it. If I look even the slightest bit upwards my blind eye goes completely crosseyed and it has been very annoying for instance ... (250 words)

Living with my ex after his marriage failed and hoping to get back together but he is still talking to his ex wife....how long is this going to go on for? I feel like piggy in the middle!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My ex split from his wife a few months ago and has been renting a room from me since. The reason why he chose my place is because I have a son for him and thought that we'd get it back on as he made a mistake marrying her. (He's been out of my life for 7 years and married for ... (654 words)

He has been divorced 5 years but his ex still calls him to fix things for her! Is this appropriate?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - How appropriate is it for a man who is divorced for 5 years to go round to his ex's house to fix the cooker/replace a fuse/figure out why her car won't start when he is in a new relationship? She isn't seeing anyone and they have 1 child so obviously there must be contact but I ... (109 words)

My boyfriend arrived for a 2 week stay with me without any money! What should I do?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend has just arrived for a 2 week stay (we're long distance) without any money! He says he's taking a month long break unpaid and has just enough to meet child maintenance payments during this time so I'm going to have to cover for him. He did not tell me this before ... (179 words)

Should I just forget what happened? Or confront him and risk the consequences?

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13 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone, I posted a question last year regarding the very same problem that I still have now. I was grateful for the extremely useful advice I received and certainly took it on board. To recap, for the past two years I have gradually fallen for one of my work colleagues ... (371 words)

My son and I don't have a good relationship because of my ex (his father)....I feel like I am losing him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I raised my son on my own in UK, without any help from my ex-husband who left me for a younger woman. He did not pay any child support. He did not see our son. He saw him every now and again in total of 10 times up to the age of 7. We split up when our son was only 18 months ... (1392 words)

How do I get past my social awkwardness?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

13 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - This is something that I have been wanting/trying to get past for a long time. I have been struggling with a lot of things i.e negative thoughts, what people think of me, percieved lack of confidence etc. This has lead me to isolate myself somewhat from my peers and I feel... (336 words)

Why do all the men I meet mess me around?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi eveyone this is my problem I can never meet a man who won't mess me about! eveyone I have dated have cheated on me or used me for money even though I'm skint. my last relationship was we met he wanted sex nothing more that was it, kept making promises but they never ... (123 words)

How can I find out if he is cheating on me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend and i have known eachother for 10 years. we have been dateing for three.. and i think he is cheating on me. he hides his cell phone -i'm not alowed to touch it. he hides it at night so i cant find it and look at it. and i'm not alowed to know any e-mail or chat ... (99 words)

Was I too harsh on him? Should I move on or reach out to him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I would really appreciate advice on my situation. It's difficult to be objective at the moment. I went for a first date with a guy I met online (dating site), we'd only exchanged few emails, it wasn't anything special but I still decided to meet him. The date started oka... (591 words)

Too young for sex but cant stop my urges, help!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I am a 13 year old boy and normally have the urge to have sex, but i dont want to as you can see my age, any advice??... (28 words)

He is a loner - should I be worried?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi guys, the guy im currently seeing confessed that he is a loner and the best times are when he is alone, should i be worried?... (26 words)

How do I tell her I am not interested?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - This may seem really easy to do but i cant. I was drunk and i was talking to this girl whos my friend. I guess i said i wanted to have sex with her and she wanted to have it with me. I dont remember this conversation ever taking place. I am friends with her and i dont want to ... (125 words)

Is it possible for my boyfriend to ever accept me now he knows about my past?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have lasted a year and 4 months with my bf, I have a promiscous past I blame that I was raised with no respect and lost respect for myself. I thought it was important for my bf to know everything about me. These past couple of moths things haven't been too good he offends me ... (158 words)

My mum might be cheating on my dad with her boss....

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi,I'm 14,15 in 3 months. Since I was 10,I got a little suspicious of my mother and her boss. He would buy us ice-cream and my grandmother would tell me not to tell my dad.I never liked her boss. I'm pretty sure he's married.She texts him a lot and he sometimes texts her at 3 ... (217 words)

Do I masturbate too much?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4722 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay so im a 16 year old girl and im kind of worried that im masturbating to much. I feel like im constantly horny, i havent had sex yet but i feel like i want to sso this is probably a bit of the reason as to why im horny so much. The only thing is i masturbate like 3-4 times ... (74 words)

Boyfriend is into the "it's not you, I just have no interest in sex right now" phase. How do I handle this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 months. Im 28, hes 34. When we met all was well and we were intimate but shortly after we met, he lost his full time job (he had 2 jobs a FT and PT)now he just has the pt which is barely anything, and his car died/ Since then he seems to be ... (400 words)

He wants me back but I don't know if I should say yes?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - ok.. here it is. there is this guy in my class and he's like me since the begining of the year. he asked me out once but i said no cause i didn't know him that well at first. then as the year moved on we became friends and he started to mess with me alot then one day he asked ... (160 words)

Why is she angry at me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - We have met 3 times. And the 4th time i asked her out through facebook..She told she will get back to me..After 6 days she didnt respond..i send her a random message asking her favourite movie and then two days a later a funny video on facebook....no reply..third time i met her ... (129 words)

He couldnt cum for our anniversary sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I don't know why me and my boyfriend are having such a problem but we just had a nice weekend planned for our anniversary, it was everything I could have asked for except we had sex 3 times over the weekend and kept having the same issue he could not cum or even feel like he ... (200 words)

Is he really that messed up that he doesn't want to talk anymore because I didn't give him sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I became friends with this cute guy on Facebook back in July. The only reason I found him was because of mutual and similar friends on Facebook. If you all know how Facebook works you may have heard of the whole poking each other deal. In September this guy tried gettin... (591 words)

Should I ask her out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am currently a grad student and was a TA for a course (the semester just ended) The girl I'm interested in is not American born and has trouble with English. However, she seems quiet but really sweet and nice and even sent me an email immediately after the last class meeti... (526 words)

Why is my ex playing games with me? Is he trying to spite me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I guess my ex and I just ended our super dragged out relationship of 11 months when he randomly started ignoring me. He and I don't go to the same school but we go to the same train station. Since like two weeks ago he has been arriving at different times to make sure we're not ... (243 words)

Men!!! Why is it so difficult for an attractive woman to find a boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Why is it so difficult for an attractive woman to find a boyfriend? I am a tall, black woman, very, very shapely and according to everyone who sees me, apparently I look like Rihanna. I'm nearly 35, a professional, don't drive, live in a family populated type area, single and ... (313 words)

I want to help him, yet I feel so left out of his thoughts sometimes..what do I do?

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13 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - last year before we started dating my boyfriend went on a trip that really changed him for the better. And he made a lot of friends he will never want to lose. along with memories he won't forget. Now he always thinks about it. sometimes to the point of depression. Also once... (181 words)

We had a connection, but I was not ready. Should just leave him now, and see if he contacts me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, This is a pretty long, confusing story so I will try to keep it as short and to the point as possible. I was "seeing" (we didn't sleep together) this guy a few years ago, we had a connection but I really wasn't ready for anything and he is a player. I was going through a ... (289 words)

It's not like I'm asking for sex constantly, just a show of affection, and my Gf doesn't even do that!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

13 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - PleAse help. Hi there I'm having a huge problem in my relationship. My girlfriend of 8 mionths just doesnt seem to want to show me affection. She begrudgingly let's me hug her have sex with her and will let me kiss her if she's feeling generous but will never or very rarely ... (280 words)

He said he loved me but had to let me go so he didn't cause me any more pain!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4725 days ago

13 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Tonight after a week of agony, me and my partner of 7months split up. I really didn't see this coming and really thought we would get back together. His work commitments and lack of time we spent together was why we split up. I have 2 children from a previous relationship an ... (220 words)