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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Should I pursue a woman in an open relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I met this girl a few months ago and we really clicked. All the vibes were great and we are really close. So close that shes my neighbor! The only problem is, shes in an open relationship with this guy who is in the navy. He doesnt get discharged for another 3 years yet. A... (239 words)

My girlfriend cheated on me with another woman

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4759 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a 21 year old guy about to graduate college. I found out my ex cheated on me with another girl and she claims that she was just curious, then she was begging for my forgiveness. I just ended up forgiving her, which was within the week of finding out. Prior to the break up... (168 words)

The guy I liked asked out my friend. Do I have the right to be angry at them?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4759 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Because the guy I've been in love with for three months asked out one of my good friends (and they're together now), does that give me the right to be mad at them, and should I feel bad for wishing that they'd break up?... (44 words)

Is he flirting with me or are his comments harmless jokes?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Does this man find me attractive or not? I'm not interested in him, but i'm just curious, as i can't understand why he says these things if he doesn't. He once said " There's not many people who would kick you out of bed " , and that must mean something sexual. And, i ca... (242 words)

Any advice on how to overcome shyness and low self esteem?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - hi, so i fear i have social anxiety , i am very shy , no self confidence in anything i do and very low self esteem and i hate the way i look. i dont go out (besides work mon-fri) ive kinda lost touch with my mates from school. we've all drifted apart gone diff ways and with... (349 words)

Should I leave the door open for my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm a 28 y/o m and have a question concerning a past relationship. Im single, never married no kids which is ironic given thats one of the greatest gifts god could bless me with currently. My previous relationship ended 6 months ago, we were together for over 2 years and ... (722 words)

Distraught over lost one-time fling

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4759 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Distraught... Still. After so many years... I fell in love with someone while still a teenager. He was my first kiss and was so unique, such a charmer and good looking and incredibly funny. He just *saw* me and completely got me. We were always good friends, always slightly ... (499 words)

Can a man maintain an erection for awhile? Or will he lose it if he doesn't "use" it?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4753 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Kinda random question, (but there's a valid reason for me asking, honest!): when a man gets an erection, can he hold on to it for a while before having sex, or does he lose it if he doesn't use it almost straight away? To put it into context, if he gets aroused during foreplay ... (115 words)

We were broken up, I thought for good and I kissed another guy and now everything is a mess

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. Ok so I've made a horrible horrible mistake and I need to fix it. Me and my boyfriend have been together about 6 months. We started getting serious, which wasn't good because people at college were coming between us and it just got emotional and messy. In the end we ended ... (442 words)

Today we talked for the first time since our breakup six months ago. Is it possible he is still interested in me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear friends... i need to know what this means! i broke up with my bf 6 months ago... it seemed our relationship was beyond repair... soon after, i totally regreted it and started taking attitudes to show him i wanted him back. he went for it, at first, but then, out of ... (314 words)

I had a fling with a guy I met on holiday, but I like him! How do I approach him to see if he would be interested in something more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is just for some advice really. So I went on holiday this year with the girls and we met a few lads out there. We had such a good time and I got particularly friendly with one of them. We recently had a reunion with a couple of them which resulted in me sleeping with the ... (206 words)

I care about him despite our distance and 13 year age difference. Should I wait for him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi. I need objective opinions. I'm 30, and have been seeing a 43 year old never married man, I'll call Sam. It's been almost a year of dating. We don't refer to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. I've secretly dated other prospects briefly. I say briefly because each one... (237 words)

Is my best friend's girlfriend flirting with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Does my bestfriends girlfriend like me? We was at a family party a few weeks ago and i was stood infront of her in a kind of crowed room talkin to a friend and i could feel her breast pushing into my arm so i started to push my elbow hard into her breast up and down to see how ... (173 words)

I'm in a relationship, but I'm attracted to another girl and can't stop thinking about her.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been with my girlfriend over 2 years, and whilst the relationship is going ok, our sex life isn't (not as frequent or adventure as there used to be) and lately I've found myself being attracted to a girl who works in a local store. I've never spoken to this girl, and I... (187 words)

Ex is avoiding me after sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My ex appears to be avoiding me after we had sex. We've been broke up for 5 months now because he didn't feel enough for me to be in a relationship and saw me as a friend. But we carried on having sex until about 3 months ago. Then it stopped because he said he sees me as a ... (295 words)

I push away the guys I'm interested in.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, I'm 15, never had a boyfriend (and believe me, in my school and in this day and age, its a big deal) or even been kissed. Not trying to be conceited, but I'm fairly nice, smart, funny, and i've been called pretty and cute before by a lot of guys. I've had guys like me ... (281 words)

So what gives? I don't want to be duped again. Is it because he's too shy and I'm too skeptical?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone. I need some advice. So, on Thursday night I slept with someone for the first time in a long time. We briefly dated last year but it ended in disaster. everything felt wrong as our "relationship" started after a drunken one night stand (I knew him some months befo... (476 words)

Did he kiss me on the forehead because he's feeling more of an attraction for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - This guy and I have sexual chemistry towards each other. We hooked up a few times but it hasn't really gone anywhere because we both havent really wanted anything or really talked about it. He always watches me whenever we go out or else stays near a group that im close by. ... (370 words)

I have three guys I'm considering. Who to choose? Please, as much advice as possible?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So, there are these three guys... It's not just like I'm desperate for a boyfriend and I've narrowed it down to these three guys, I actually really like them all. So, Guy 1 is in my class at school. He is in my form. We've been in the same class for just over 3 years now. O... (556 words)

Now I'm 21 Is it normal for me to be okay with wanting to experiment with sex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Throughout this year my stance on dating has changed. I used to think that I would be the type of guy to wait until I was in a real relationship to have anything to do with sex. But after my 21st birthday my thoughts about dating in general have changed. I can now see myse... (105 words)

My partner refuses to acknowledge that alcohol affects his performance and always blames me or tiredness or stress for his brewer's droop

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4758 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am so angry with my partner right now. He got back from a 4 week business trip and he was telling me how much he missed me and was looking forward to coming home and when he got home that night he started having a few drinks which turned in to quite a lot of drinks. I went to ... (197 words)

Am I catching wrong feelings?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - well theres this boy who has a player reputation. he flirts with everybody, and i flirt alot too(but i am not a hoe). but lately hes stopped flirting with alot of girls and started flirting with me more.. keep in mind were both single. so, today, after school we were really c... (193 words)

Is 20 years too long to apologize after a bad break up?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Is 20 years after a bad break up too long to apoligize? We had a really bad break up and I cheated on him. We had dated for about 2 years. I was not happy and he was so self absorbed he never caught on. I recently saw him and he avoids me. Turn and runs away from me. I thought ... (184 words)

Girls: What is this girl thinking, is she playing the whole world, or just me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4759 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Well i would like to get GIRLS to respond to this question. Well there is this girl at in my class who i liked at the begining of the year and i thought why not try to flirt with her. After a while i found that she did not like me and she was actually attracted to someone else... (534 words)

Girlfriend is distant, cant forgive me, and plays hot and cold with me, no sex either???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am 27 yr old male. I have been with my GF for over three years.She is 24. we moved so i could go to school. she is a bartender. We had a great relationship then i realized she was verbally abusive to me. Its been over 12 months since things have gone bad. We moved form her ... (648 words)

Two women--Should I get back with the first one or keep dating the 2nd one?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok, here it goes i dated a woman for 5 months before her mom was diagnosed with lung cancer.So my question is should I get back with her. Her mom is done with treatment and is better now.Five months is a long time of not seeing her.I hung on tight with her during rough time ... (224 words)

Misbehaved while being drunk and high, and now I've messed up my chances with this guy I like

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I became single about 6 months ago, since that time I have been drinking too much and I have discovered that I am a very mouthy drunk. (Well who isn't..) I ended up drinking to blackout one night and went home with a friend of my brother. I didn't know him very well, but I did ... (278 words)

Been together 10 years, married for 6 1/2 yrs, we have sex 5 times a week, but I'm still a virgin because there's been no vaginal sex!!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4758 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am very in love with my husband, we have been married 6 1/2 years. There is a big age difference between him and I, I am 28, he is 48. His son is older than me, he is 30. My husband was married to his 1st wife, this might sound bad but we meet when he was still married a... (276 words)

(Should / How Can) I tell my second cousin I miss her? (Family Love)

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4732 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Alright I've been posting around that I like my second cousin and on how beautiful she is. Here's the main story on what happened what I posted before to get a understanding of it: http://www.dearcupid.org/quest... (227 words)

I'm heartbroken! When I asked my Bf if he saw us having a future together, he replied saying "I don't know."

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 and a half years. I finally bring up the question... "Do you see us together in the future? Do you see us having a future together?" He comes back with the answer.. "I don't know." To be honest, the one little answer ... (180 words)

I went through my boyfriend's phone and I regret it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear Cupid, I did something very bad.. I went through my boyfriend's phone. Texts, photos, and everything.. Well, that was a big mistake. He talks to other girls... And It bothers me... I have a lot of insecurity problems and I hate myself.. He betrayed my trus... (119 words)

Is my boyfriend waiting to propose, or was he just joking?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a question... I've been living with my boyfriend for a little over a year, we're very open and have a good relationship. We've spoken about marriage a bit, and we've both been in a few long term relationships before this. We were joking about christmas gifts for me and ... (194 words)

Do you think either of these guys like me or is it just a coincidence?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (?) age 30-35 - I would like to know if you think these these 2 different guys like me.. The first guy is in my class and he always stares at me and whenever I look at him he turns very red. But he doesn't talk to me.. maybe he's shy? And also there was a desk between us and he came and sat ... (177 words)

What happened? one minute I don't text enough, now he refuses to answer. Is he a player?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone here goes I met a man 9 month ago we ended up becoming fwb. Don't know how it just happened, my feelings for him started getting stronger last week. I told him I liked him and wanted to be his girlfriend. I thought he felt the same as he started making plans fo... (240 words)

Is it possible that our marriage could be cursed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F) age 51-59 - Can you imagine,that a marrige could be cursed? Ever since I meet my husband,my life,and now ours is a complete tragedy. THere was someone at the begining who said this marriage is doomed, you better get out. But, I did not think , any supernatural can be at work,to destroy ... (95 words)

How do I know he wont hurt me? should I trust him? Am I different to all the other girls he's been with?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - There is a boy and he has a reputation of a player, but i really like him and we have a big thing. im trying my best not to get my feelings involved because i dont want to get hurt, but the feelings are too strong to hold back. how do i know he wont hurt me? is there anyw... (83 words)

How do I ask for her number since its the last time I'll see her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4758 days ago

10 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Quick answer plz? Me and this girl in college have been playin the eye contact game for a week and mondayis the last day I will c her. How do I ask for her number since it may be the last time tht I see he r?... (47 words)

Considering my parents are both experiencing health and financial problems, should I give them a cash gift for Christmas or dinner and a movie gift cards for a fun night out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

10 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Question in regards to parents Recently my family has gone through a tough time I am 32 and have not lived at home with my parents for a very long time... Both my parents are currently disabled. Dads been on disability for 3 years Mom was working but is suffering from kn... (298 words)