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writes:Me an my partner split up a about 3 weeks ago we were in a serious relationship, but had a big argument and he decided we needed a break. Said he still loved me but just needed time to think. I let him think an thought he would get in touch....... Tonight I found out he's seeing a girl he's been mates with for years, they've booked a holiday and are going in 3 weeks time! I'm devastated. I found out through Facebook. I confronted him and he said he kinda loves me but it just happened an there together now! How could he just throw me to one side like that as if I never even existed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): The Thing about Narcissistic Men- they cannot and do not want to be without their supply. So of course he started something with this other woman before ending it with you. Classic Narcissistic Move.Then he holds unto you by telling you what he thinks you want to hear and builds up false hope by saying he loves you.WRONG, he loves himself only and only said that to keep you in case things don't work out with the other woman.When dealing with a Narcissist- don't believe the words but focus on the actions. His actions - it is not love to leave you and be with another woman.Let this creep go.
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reader, 1sunshine  +, writes (31 December 2011):
 ((Some)) men are cowards.... Communication is SO difficult for them. Like the above post stated. Most likely, he will do the same thing to this new girl. What comes around goes around. I'm sure when things don't work out for him with her? He will come running back to you. Do not take him back!! I made that mistake in the past. You will eventually find a great guy that is wonderful and greatful to have you in his life and won't lie. Rise above all of this and be strong! Know that he is the one that is f-ed up. ** Best wishes **
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (31 December 2011):
 I agree whole heartedly with worldlyWise. This argument was engineered so he could have an excuse to leave you and my guess would be that he has also been seeing her whilst he has been with you. I too can appreciate how angry and upset you are as I would be but this chap is really not worth it. Let them go on their holiday - he will be back soon enough and then watch as this relationship fails as it surely will. waste no more tears on this loser!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): Why are you so sure he set it up, worldlywise? Because that makes it easier to blame him for doing nothing wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): "How could he just throw me to one side like that as if I never even existed?" It wasn't as if you never existed, it was more like he had no further use for you once he found a better offer (a holiday for which he likely isn't paying).
Don't be surprised when he shows up on your doorstep begging forgiveness upon his return home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): He clearly engineered the argument so he could walk out. I think this thing he has with the new girl was probably going on for quite a while...
I know your devastated,its understandable, totally. But he is her problem now, and he's rubbish..will probably do the same thing to her.
Look on it as he has freed you up to meet a decent man,done you a favour in the long run.
Good luck, be strong
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): how could he do this? because he had already lost feelings for you hence he wanted "a break" from the relationship, which is often code for wanting to slowly ease into a real break up .... He said he still loves you...well...people who are dumping you will often say they still love you even though they no longer want to be with you, but they say it because you're upset at them for breaking up with you and they feel guilty at making you upset, the moment is tense, so they think that saying they still love you will make you feel better and ease the tension so they feel less awkward and uncomfortable. I'm sorry this happened to you. he should have just broken up with you, instead of misleading you that the relationship was still 'on'. And then he didn't even have the courtesy to inform you that he's officially leaving you yet he has no problem posting his new relationship on facebook. what a jerk!you should be so highly offended that you don't ever want to see his sorry face again.
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