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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Twice Rejected and Insecure

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (F) age 26-29 - I had a relationship that ended badly as he said he didn't want anything serious then the day after started going out with another girl. Ive just picked myself up about this and seeing another guy when he told me he wasn't that into me and prefered another girl. I've got really ... (131 words)

Confused, irritated and falling for her all over again;-(

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, I am so confused and irritated I dont know what to do. Approx. two years ago I was travelling overseas and I met a German girl also travelling, (I am from UK) and we dated for 3-4 months, spent days together, and was difficult to keep us apart. For reasons, (I went... (316 words)

Feeling like I am settling, but he is truly fantastic

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a survivor of domestic violence that went on for 3.5 years. I was 17 to 20 when it all happened and the guy I was with was nine months younger than me. Anyway, I never truly gave myself the chance to grow into my own and learn to be independent and self-sufficient. I went ... (464 words)

Aske me home for a drink - What are his intentions?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - If a guy asks you to go to his place for a drink, is he only after one thing ?. He doesn't live comepletely on his own. He has housemates, but he does have his own room. He did ask me when i was going to be out around town again at first, but i said i wasn't sure, so then he ... (207 words)

He wants a baby but not marriage?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year. (He's in his early 40's and I'm in my early 30's.) We recently got pregnant, but I had a miscarriage. Though this pregnancy was unexpected, we had discussed wanting to have kids together in the near future before we found ... (294 words)

How to tell if a person is gay

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4683 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - hi my friend is a lesbian and i am not sure whether i am but how do you tell if someone else is one?... (24 words)

Vulgar bulgur

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

6 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Okay I know this is a rather silly question, but the other night my gf cooked this dish that I hated. She is a tender woman and so I haven't told her yet. The next day she said she was quite pleased with the flavor. Any tips on gently telling her I didn't like the dish? :... (89 words)

Conflicting Signals Have Me Confused

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Sorry for the length of this... I met a guy on an online dating site about a month ago. After chatting for a little bit, he disappeared. Then he wrote me an email saying that he wasn't up to chatting at the moment as a close co-worker had committed suicide and he was also ... (902 words)

After 5 Years Why Hasn't He Proposed

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - This is real simple. I've been with my boyfriend for over 5 years. I moved out of state to be with him and its been me and him since 2006. I have never given him a reason to not trust me. I've never lied to him. I've never cheated on him. I go to work and come straight home ... (305 words)

He called it "SPAM" I think he is cheating. Should I leave him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I need some help big time with my relationship! My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years!! Recently I have suspected him of cheating on me and its driving me insane! A few months ago I noticed that he wouldn't let his phone out of his sight. Usually I could pick up ... (607 words)

I'm worried about my b/f and his friend that is alot like him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 14 months now,and we had a great relationship before I found a drunken text on his phone to his ex- he said he still loved her. He said it meant nothing, and he cried and was violently sick when i found out,and he tried to make it up to ... (294 words)

There's no spark, I don't think there ever was. Do I tell my b/f?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I don't think I love my boyfriend anymore. We've been together for two years and I moved 200 miles away from home to his flat with him (and his mum) 6 months ago becaus of problems at home. We spend every minute of every day together and I can't imagine not being with him. ... (163 words)

14 and pregnant, mom doesn't know yet. What do I do?

This question has 35 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - okay so i'm 14 and pregnant i don't know what to do. i really want to keep my baby because it is my baby. i turn 15 the same week i become 15 weeks pregnant..my boyfriend knows and he wants to keep the baby too..i don't know what we should do, i've been lucky and my mom hasn't ... (67 words)

Love of my life tells me I don't love you anymore and left me for someone else

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi There, Need some advise as I'm not sure really how to handle this or what to do. I was engaged to get married and last week my partner told me out of the blue she doesn't love me anymore has not done for a long time and has feeling for someone else. (Who she is now wi... (176 words)

Do I tell my crush that I like him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Theres this guy Ive known since first grade, and yesterday I ran into him and realized I like him. We have always flirted but it never went anywhere. He goes to a different school but we live on the same block. If he ever runs into me and Im on my way to the store or to my ... (88 words)

My Dad hates body modification. Should I tell Dad or keep my new large tattoo a secret? My husband says to keep it to myself.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hello, this is a bit of a trivial question but i'd like peoples opinions. Im a gothic girl and love tattoo's and piercings. My dad is a lot older then my mum, my dad is in his 70s and is very traditional, he hates beauty and body modification whether its tattoos, piercing... (221 words)

Why is he talking to me again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I briefly dated this guy after finishing school. We fell really hard for each other and he told me he loved me very quickly. It was only a summer romance, as he had to move out of the state after a few weeks but told me he still wanted the relationship because he loved me so ... (170 words)

Do I tell my b/f about a random text I received from a guy who means nothing to me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hey I'm 26 and been with my boyfriend for 16 months. basically I received a really random text from a guy I know but not seen in years and we weren't close....just general at first...( I don't have his number so dsaid idnt know who it was at first) then he got what I thoug... (110 words)

LDR b/f says he needs space. Does he mean stop talking about our relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all, I hope you can help, my LD( about 2 hrs drive) bf and I have had a roller coaster relationship since we met- lots to do with my past, my dad being diagnosed with cancer, my insecurites, my constant over analysing of our relationship all the time, the distance... (520 words)

My b/f has never made me orgasm, not even once!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have a very active sex life but he can't make me orgasm. He doesn't know it but I,ve never orgasmed once and he was my first! Is this normal?... (33 words)

My husband's family dislikes me and its making me want to leave the marriage

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi - i would be so grateful for advice as I am at the stage of walking out on my husband. For nearly all of our 8 year marriage (and 3 years prior) his family (specifically his parents) have disliked me. To start with they were not overly obvious - just back stabbing comments ... (677 words)

I don't feel my husband has my best interests at heart, should I separate from him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all, I am very unhappy with my current marriage. Let me just explain why...I really wonder why I have been married to my husband from the very beginning. The marriage isn't working from status, there has been arguments, fights and even throw and destroying of st... (832 words)

What do you do when you only have a day with this amazing guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I met a guy on holiday and at first i was adamant that we were no more than friends, though he did earn some points when he kept wrapping his arm round my waist when we walked together. We were with loads of other people (our age, roughly) and he didn't seem to care at all. I ... (378 words)

Is this how cheats normally behave?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I have been with my girlfriend almost 5 years. She is 10 years younger than me. We go out,and without fail she chooses out a girl in the crowd and when we get home she has accused me of looking at her chosen girl all night or says we couldnt take our eyes off each other. She ... (108 words)

It's a good marriage, but part of me feels she'd have preferred to spend her life with someone else.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I dated my wife when young and she dumped me. Then she went right to another guy that she married. They were together for about 5 years. Then they divorced with no kids. He wanted the divorce not her. She said a long time ago she didn't want a divorce and was happy being ... (170 words)

A great guy, but sometimes I'm overwhelmed

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend is a really great guy, kind and thoughtful but sometimes I feel as if he's taking over too much and overwhelming me. He will send me jokes and then say I must mail them to my dad/brother/sister when I feel they are inappropriate or I don't have time to send jok... (218 words)

He's a great guy and he's dating trash

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4759 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay so there's this guy. I've had a crush on him for a while but then it turned into more of a brother/sister relationship. We still flirt and all but this isn't what this question is about. He just got into a relationship with absolute TRASH. She wears dark dark makeup, ... (147 words)

I don't have much experience but I think I get more turned on by affection and romance. Should I tell my Bf how I feel?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm with my first boyfriend and not very experienced. To me his penis looks really small when he is lying down and not erect, but his erection is a good size. He thinks me looking at him naked (without erection) should turn me on but I just find it doesn't, I can't say why, a... (101 words)

My LDR owes me money. He's coming to stay with me. How should we work out who'll pay for what while he's with me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend works in another city and is coming to stay with me for 4 weeks on his holiday. He's coming to my place because he lives with his mom and I can't go there, and also I am not going to have time off until next year. He borrowed money from me to pay for his flight a... (114 words)

How did you move on from a broken heart?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi guys, i just dont know what to do. I am still heartbroken nearly 2 years down the line. I have tried to get over him. No contact, going out with friends. Pampering myself you know all these things, and yet I have a great empty hole in the pit of my stomach. Could someone ... (121 words)

Do I send any further communication?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi All, I will try to be breif but since my LD bf and I met in March this year we have had a roller coaster of a relationship. Due to my past and lots of other things going on in my life ( My Dad being diagnosed with cancer one of them) I have been little more than a shad... (479 words)

He did play me for a fool but he was also interested in me before. Should I now continue talking to him and see where it leads? Or call it quits?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - pleasee help me i am overly confused over an year ago i liked this guy and he liked me but he was talking to me and my friend at the same time,i found out and completely deleted his number and everything.after a week or so he got into a relationship and recently broke up with ... (245 words)

He said I don't text enough. He accused me of seeing someone else. Not true. Now his texts are sporadic. What is going on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone this is the story. I met this man in march he asked me out. I agreed. We saw each other maybe every two or three weeks. He lives six doors away from me. It has been like this since I have been patient with him, but it is starting to run out. Now he accused me o... (226 words)

I'm starting to lose trust on my fiancée. She lived with a male roommate and when I visited her, her sofa smelt like sex!!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid I'm becoming not to trust my bride. Tobe. She had a male roommate for about a year he recently moved from her home. Just a few blocks away I live farther distance. I. Viset her and her sofa smelled like sex.I got angrry and left after complaint of the scent on her s... (86 words)

Attracted to a Step-Cousin. Is this wrong?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

6 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Is wanting to have sex with my step cousin wrong? she's my dad's step brother's kid, so we've been cousins our whole life, and have always got along, able to talk for hours. now she lives in my city for med school. she isn't some distant relative i never see. we see each oth... (158 words)

We are out of touch coz my crush believed lies people told him. Help me to get over this pls?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Genius bordering insanity. My crush and I got out of touch bc of some misunderstanding (girls said crap and he was immature enough to listen to them...and well his guy friend too...who btw liked me and I think was getting personal revenge) ...but people who know the story a... (300 words)

Should I continue with my old gf or start afresh with new one? Please help me decide.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am in a confused state of mind right now.i am 26yrs and my girlfrnd is 21.I was in dis relationship for 6 years nw although we had a break up in between for 8 months becos of her infidelity.After accepting her back,she changed for d better she was really faithful to me but ... (273 words)

15 year long relationship, 5 years of marriage...and now we are divorced because my wife could not be loyal to me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

6 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - It has been right 3 months as of today since we divorced, which ended a 15 years long relationship and 5 years long marriage. Now, I am living alone and kept the divorce unknown to most of relatives including my parents and friends except a few very close. Am I expecting ... (1102 words)

I feel I can't say no to him. What should I do?" What advice is the best to help me in this situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I am a 16 year old girl and my boyfriend is 18 year old . Both of us love each other very much but we are of diffrent caste and our family is highly orthodox but he had promised me to marry and now he is asking me to have a physical relationship. I dont know what to do. I feel... (75 words)

What's on this older guy's mind? Why doesn't he text me like he used to?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi i'm really confused... There's a guy i've been texting for sometime now. We have an age gap of 9 years but i really like him. We used to text throughout the day. When we first met, i really thought everything went well because he did text and call me on the days that fol... (293 words)

Can someone please explain to me how the morning after pill works?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4759 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Can someone please explain to me how the morning after pill works? I keep getting different answers from different sources. It's my understanding that it's supposed to delay or even prevent ovulation (if your body has not yet already ovulated), but what if you HAVE already... (427 words)

I think I like her but I am not sure if she feels the same way. Should I play it cool?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi, need some genuine advice. Me late 30s. Met a woman online, slightly older than me, we HAVE NOT been on a date, just met for coffee twice, after each time we said bye "keep in touch". We got along ok,(despite not having heaps of common interests,) there was a ... (536 words)

Can I rebuild after so many set-backs? I desperately need experienced advice on my heart ache

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone. I have been a dear cupid reader for 3 years now. This is the time of my life I really really need support and advice. I feel I am really ugly and unattractuve. Please I urge you to read cause it is going to get really long but I will keep it short. I had one and ... (926 words)

It's awkward. How do I become closer to the guy I like without hurting my friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I like this guy and he knows that I like him. One of my closest friends is also a guy. The problem is that my friend seems to get closer to me when ever the guy I like comes to talk to me. It is then that my friend says that we were just leaving. How do I become closer to... (73 words)

Was asking him out in a Christmas Card OK and not desperate?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I just asked a guy out in a christmas card because I don't see him to often due to work. He works in the building I live in. Do you think this sounds desperate and how long should I keep my hopes up for him to call? Thank you.... (53 words)

Is he being selfish? My boyfriend wants no sex before marriage, and I'm not okay with that

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So, 10 months ago I met a guy at a coffee shop. We hit it off quite well. I had to move away for a job, do we were forced into a long distant relationship. After couple months of virtual conversations, we both fell hard for each other. Despite the fact that we were never offi... (176 words)

I think my FWB is a sex addict. and the relationship is getting deeper. Now what?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I am 38. I recently met a woman who is 26. She is very fit and has a voracious sexual appetite unlike any woman I have ever known before. I am suspecting that she may be a sex addict. We don't have sex every day because our schedules don't allow it, but she would do so if we... (1023 words)

Chronic ED for a guy in good health??

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Is it possible for a man to have a chronic erectile dysfunction, for 5 years,for psychological causes, what he does not know what are they? Its my husband, he is in perfect health, but we are unable to have sex,as he has no sexual desire, and when we are trying to have sex,he ... (121 words)

Is it too much to ask of a guy to put up with my distrustfulness and help me work through to a normal relationship one day at a time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Is low self esteem a big turn off? I don't mean like to the point where you feel like hiding in the basement is all you're worth. I mean, not accepting compliments easily because you think their false. This goes in with my question. I DO NOT have very high self confidence in ... (211 words)

I feel like he totally missed the boat on the whole chivarly thing.

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

- We had a big snow storm today. After work my car was frozen shut. I called my husband who drives a 4WHD truck to come pick me up. While waiting my boss poured some rubbing alcohol on the door jam and viola it opened. I called my husband but he had already left to come get me ... (255 words)

How can I ask him out if I can't run into him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

6 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - How can i ask this man out ?. He is much older than myself. I know that he used to go out on Wednesdays and Sundays and there are two places that i know he likes to go in, an i know roughly what time he went out on those days. I haven't seen him much recently, as i haven't ... (203 words)

Whenever I ask her if she likes him she says no. Is she trying not to hurt me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4765 days ago

6 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - There's this girl i have liked since last year. We just started back talking. My friend that I hoop with during gym likes her too. He does stuff like touch her boobs and play around. I'm not that kind of guy so me and her just talk and flirt.We text about every night.Whenever I ... (96 words)