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writes:Dear AuntsI started gaining weight past few weeks. I wanted to lose the weight as fast as possible because people were beggining to call me names. So i told my friend, and she told me that the fast way to lose the weight is to drink cola everyday and dont put in any type of food, she even said it worked for her. Then i believed her and felt like if i told my parents about it, they woundnt let me do it ,and i realy wanted to try it. So i took the money i saved for myself and bought two 2litres of cola and stored them in my wardrobe, so that no one can see them. I drank the cola when ever i was hungry, and it kinda worked atleast for 5minutes then i was back hungry again. I thought that was stupid and stopped drinking the cola and went back to food again, but this time i eat a little food, and it was much better than cola. From there i just kept the cola in my wardrobe for a while. One day my cousin came for a visit and decided to clean my wardbrobe for me. While she did that, she found the two bottles of cola and called out my little bro(11yrz old) to come and see. When he arrived i heard her tell my little bro that i am a DEE-OOH-GEE (DOG). For buying two bottles of cola and hiding them in my wardrobe instead of shearing them with them. From that day i was known as a DEE-OOH-GEE (DOG) in my family. Even thou they dont call me with it, but when they are talking/gossiping about me they call me a DOG a DEE-OOH-GEE even my little cousin of 7yearz knows that because my cousins told him that i am a DOG. That really hurts my feelings, i tried to ignore but deep down it s eating me. How do i handle this situation. Im so sad right now, i totally lost my self-esteem because of this. Please help me:-(
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (31 December 2011):
 Cola has nothing in it but sugar. Sugar will make you gain weight. Plus it speeds up your appetite which makes you even more hungry. Don't waste time doing this crazy diet again. It will never, never work. You need to start exercising. Ride a bicycle around town. Take long, brisk walks in the park. Eat veggies. Cut out fats and desserts and definately cut out cokes. Don't eat fried foods. Enjoy fish and broiled chicken and salads with low fat dressing. If you eat a very small meal/snack that has protein and just a little bit of carbs every 3 hours and work out every day for at least an hour you will lose and you will do it in a healthy way which will make you strong and lean. Then just let those fools call you a dog. Forget about them. Focus on your goals to be healthy and lean and the joke will be on them! Nobody loses weight on a coke diet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): First off your friend is a fucking idiot, cola has the highest sugar content and calorie content of almost any drink.
OP you have to get over this, so what if they call you that? You have to try and see the funny side of this.
They're not trying to hurt you, they're not trying to put you down and they're only calling you that because they think you were hiding sugary drinks and not sharing. Be honest OP that is what it looked like you were doing wasn't it?
OP look at this from the outside, this is situation, this misunderstanding is actually kind of funny isn't it? You completely forgot you had them in there, you were actually trying to drink very high calorie drinks to lose weight, they think you were hiding them because you didn't want to share and to top all of that off your cousin miraculously decided to clean it out and find them. it's just a funny situation that you do't think is funny because it happened to you and also you're not feeling too good about yourself right now so this has just happened at a bad time. Look, the 7 year old isn't going to understand are they? That cousin definitely isn't saying that to hurt you so stop taking it seriously if you can, they're your family, they love you but they sound like my family in that they will very easily laugh at you if they catch you doing something funny.
Your self esteem was already gone OP otherwise you wouldn't have gone to such extreme measures to lose weight in the first place so don't blame them for that.
You do know that everyone has started to gain weight the past few weeks right? It's an xmas tradition, no weight gain means you're not exactly having any fun.
If you want to solve this, then talk to your parents and tell them you're unhappy at the moment and you're unhappy with your weight. Ask them if you can join some sports classes in the new year, something that has classes 2-3 times a week, like tennis, badminton, volleyball or something you think you will enjoy. Eat normally and eat the meals you are cooked but maybe cut down a small bit on the size of the portions. 2 potatoes instead of 3, one piece of chicken instead of 2 etc. Don't drink any more cola, or any sugary drinks. Eat a good healthy diet, drink lots of juice and get lots of exercise and this insecurity and feeling bad will just melt away.
Do yourself a favour OP when the 7 year old calls you dog bark at them, get down on your hands and knees and chase them around like a dog and make it a fun game. If others call you make fun of it with them too by barking or mimicking a dog in some funny way. The best way to stop people laughing at you is to laugh with them, people who are malicious will get bored because it no longer bothers you and people are only having fun and mean nothing bad will think it's even more fun that you joined in and you too will have fun.
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (31 December 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,Firstly the problem with the weight gain, NEVER DRINK COKE! Honestly it doesn't work coz the sugar in coke can store as fat. But losing weight as fast as possible is crap coz it will make you gain all the weight back on but losing weight is lifestyle. Start by cutting portion size, eat more fruit and veg, CUT DOWN on the junk doesn't mean cut it all out just cut it down slowly and eat wholegrain food like wholewheat pasta, bread, brown rice whatever coz that stuff really keeps you're hunger down.Followed by exercise, doesn't have to be hardcore exercise just a walk in the park everyday can help, or a quick jog, run, dancing or weights. Weights really helps they don't make you gain weight unless you use the over 5kg but use 3kg in total won't make you gain weight.Secondly!!!!!!!!!!!! Just be straight up to your parents, when you're cousins and family are all together in your house one day, just tell them straight up about the coke issues and tell them that you wanna lose weight and negativity isn't helping. All you wanna be is yourself and there is nothing wrong with looking a little slimmer coz you hate it when people call you names.Just be really honest, if they don't accept it, that is their problem not yours coz you told the truth so it's not on your conscious.Hopefully they will understand coz no one wants to be a dog or the fat one in the family so you gotta tell them so they can understand.Hope my advice helps!Good luck and don't worry things will get better!Lots of love,Ima FreAk!x
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (31 December 2011):
 Tell your cousins that they need to grow up. It's your soda and you're not required to share with anyone. Tell them to get over themselves and if they can't, then you won't be talking to them because this is so immature. Family isn't suppose to put each other down and that's what they're doing. If you want to lose weight, then eat some actual food, just in small portions, and exercise at least 3x a week.
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